i have been with this guy for almost 10 monthys now and he treats me bad. he is 33 years older than me but age to me aint nothing but a number but he treats me bad and i leave him and 5 minutes later i go back .i live in HIS house work in HIS club what to do
2006-10-26 15:30:18 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's difficult to get out of a rut (yes, it is a rut from neutral party's point of view) when you are so deeply entrenched in it. i mean, you are so used to the familiarity you thought that nothing else works for you. 'nothing else' is the place you should explore. quit the job in his club if you must. make it a determination. set a time line... you need to avoid him and move out fast. find a job far away from his place. do not look back. do not have a soft heart. find something else to do. do not tolerate men who treat you badly. find the love you deserve. set your standard. please love yourself. find a friend to fall back on. or, your mom. she will be hurt to see you like this. have faith. you will survive this. 10 months of torture are long enough. moving out is long overdue.
2006-10-26 15:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by counterculturalist 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get on with YOUR own Life In YOUR own Place and be on YOUR OWN, and tell him to bite your As*,, that much of age difference I bet he feels he can treat you that way cuz your like a Teenager, or a young and naive gal that needs to learn what its like to not feel like you NEED someone,so many people get so set in a relationship and when things go bad they stay anyway,, WHY ? ???????? Because - Survey Says-- Its Easy, Its what they are used to and they "LOVE" each other,, well Im sorry, LOVE doesnt treat a woman like crap, Love doesnt tell you to shut up and listen to what hes saying, LOVE doesnt make you feel like you OWE him,,, GET Out while you can,, get on your own get a different job move on to safety, find a roommate add or something,, OR if you dont mind older guys E-Mail me and we can talk about things and life, and how bad you want to get outta there, and if you have ever been to the west coast, lol
2006-10-26 15:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably stay with him because you feel like you 'need' him...in one way or another. I've been in situations like that....where I've stayed in an unhealthy relationship---but I didn't really know why. The best thing I ever did, was get out of a horrible relationship....and concentrate on ME and my son. Don't let someone treat you bad....you deserve better. And, most importantly, please realize that how he treats you -- is how your children will treat people later in their lives. Do you want your daughter thinking it's okay to let a man treat her badly?
I hope you can find the confidence in yourself to get out of that mess....you're young, strong and you can do it. Good luck girl.
2006-10-26 15:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks you are young and stupid. You let him treat you badly so why would he stop. Surely you don't want to spend your time with people that make you feel bad...think about it. You could get your own place and have firends around you that make you feel happy. Its also worth considering that he may be old fashioned in his view to women and thus treat them all badly. If he only treats you badly why aren't you getting the message that he is not that into you.
2006-10-26 15:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go back to him because you prbally have no where else to go. I would start to look for a new job and a new place. Sounds like this guy isn't good for you. Look for someone more your age and start to act your age. So start by maybe moving in with a gf or something. I'm sure they would be willing to help you out.
Good luck
2006-10-26 15:33:48 · answer #5 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think his age must mean more to you than you think, otherwise you wouldn't have brought it up, especially as the first thing to describe him. Sorry, you just sound so unhappy. When you get sick enough of his behavior, you'll find the courage and the way out. I hope you do it soon, sweetie. I know it's really really hard - your self esteem sounds pretty hard hit, too. Work on trying to feel better about yourself and get yourself out of there. Good luck!!
2006-10-26 15:34:06 · answer #6 · answered by MissHazel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh for heaven's sake! You really have to ask this question? Get out, honey, and get out NOW! I'll tell you why you're doing it: you have no self-respect or self-esteem. Get yourself out to a shelter for abused women, and quit that job immediately. Then work on building yourself into a strong, healthy women, who doesn't need a man to make her feel like she's worth something. Then you will find someone who will love you for who you are inside. Good luck!
2006-10-26 15:37:21 · answer #7 · answered by Shayna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww wow! You need to get out of this situation see if you can live with someone else. Also start looking for another job. you do not deserve to be treated bad. Good luck!
2006-10-26 15:32:44 · answer #8 · answered by PinkHighHeels 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask only to women, men can answer this as well - He treats you badly ??? - enough said - Get him out of your life - YOU are more inportant than HIM - If HE does not make YOU happy and feel fulfilled, get out, you will be hurt ? so what ? you will find someone that will love and cherish you, iow the best friend a woman can have - that one is out there waiting for you - just find him !!!!
2006-10-26 15:42:05 · answer #9 · answered by bordasimus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoah!! I say age don't matter to me either, but I don't like dating grandpa.
You do this because you have nothing better. Women don't like feeling alone. If you had someone that treated you better, you would probably not be so attached to loserboy. Find someone new, and you'll be just fine.
2006-10-26 15:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by Becky Jo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋