my mother in law is driving me crazy?

Question

she is a kind lady but a controll freak she is making my marriage diffcult i love my husband but all i want to do is move away from her any one have any advice on how i can live my life free oh ya ,my daughter is the only granchid

no i do not live with her but less than 1 mile away

Answer 1

I feel for you ---- my mother in law is very controlling and manipulating. She puts her 2 sense in where it doesn't belong and when my husband and I try talking to her, she'll cry and play innocent. If she doesn't get her way, look out she'll cry and put on a guilt trip. She to drives me absolutely crazy. My children don't like being around her because she is always telling them what to do, what not to do, and even goes as far as telling them that are rude and talking back if they try to tell her they don't want to do something ----- it's my mother and laws way or the highway.

I fight with her all the time, and am finally at the point where we hardly talk to her at all. So i am going to be reviewing the answers to this questions often. Good luck.

Answer 2

I guessed it will be better if you have a talk with your husband over the issue of moving out, just in case your mother-in-law is physically healthy and able to live on her own. It is biblical for married persons to live a life away from their parents. Since staying with parents can cause more troubles than good like you"ve been deprived of your privacy. Tha'ts a fact of life. You need more space so that you can run your own home. Have an open communication but shun arguments. good luck.

Answer 3

Make her part of the moving decision lie say you'll come back to visit all the time. Keep in mind if you move when she comes to visit which she will it will be for at least for a week at a time in your house. At least when you live close she can go home
The other option is to stay and take advantage of her let her mind your child every Saturday night go out with your husband invite her to everything become her best friend she'll soon get sick of it.
What is her favourite thing to do (besides sticky her noise in your business) as a present enrol her in a class something that will take up a lot of her time, computer or photography course anything that will keep her busy.

Answer 4

I wish you had given an example or two but where is your husband in all this? If he has a backbone then why doesn't he have a firm talk with his mother? Otherwise, I can't see that anything will change unless you & your husband see a counselor for a session or two. Nothing like third-party, professional advice to clear things up. Truly, I think that's not bad advice. I wish all of you the best of luck for your future happiness.

Answer 5

I just saw a show on Dr. Phil about mother-inlaws, bottom line, this is your husband, your family and she needs to stay out of your business. Dr.Phil recommended confronting her and laying down the rules. Letting her know straight out that you and your husband are the only ones who make decisions regarding your family and child. Don't allow your daughter to be involved in this. Good Luck. Set rules about what time she can come over being that she lives so close. Do NOT allow her to walk in and out of your house. She needs to respect your privacy.

Answer 6

I assume that you live in the same house. The only thing you can do is to move to another house not to far from her, because of her grandchild, but your husband has to sate what are the rules in your home, and it is not her business. But is your husband the one that has to clarify things she is his mother not yours, talk to him. Be polite but clearly tell him that his mother is a controller and that you want to manage your life, ans house.

Answer 7

I would recommend keeping your relationships with her very typical. That way she will understand that there are some limits. Being very close to her, gives her the right to continue interfering. You have to be careful not to show your disturbance to your husband. She's his mother. That will never change. Keep a neutral attitude.

Answer 8

I think it should be up to your husband to talk to her..she is his mother and he should settle whatever she may be doing to annoy you so bad..i'm sure you would do the same if it was your mom...have him tell her that you and him need to live your life w.o her getting involved ..and my advice never live within 30miles of in laws you dont need them in your business all the time...good luck hope all works out for you and your family!

Answer 9

this sounds just like my mil. Me and my husband were living with her once and she stole money from us, lid to us and the list goes on. One day she decided to come over my moms house and say that i was seen with another man(which was a big lie) to my mother. lets just say things didnt turn out the way she expected! anyways, my husband decided that hes going to cut off ties with her until she can stop acting the way she does. Let me tell you it feels so good not to have someone trying to ruin your marriage. were happier now then weve ever been. im not saying were going to have her out of our lives for good though. when she acts like she has sense she can come back. Im not saying to cut her off either. u say u have a child. we dont. so voice your concerns to your hubby. ultimatily its his problem to discuss it with her not you b/c its his mom.

Answer 10

I say Tell her not to control your marrage. She isn't the one married to you, she isn't your mother, so you dont have to listen to her. Start saving money. Try to get a temp apartment and save up for a real house, maybe in a different state?