I'm trying to put her into orgasm? Help.?

Question

Me and my girlfriend have been having sex for about a year now... not too long. And at first it was kind of hard because we were virgins but the more we explored and tried, the better we got at it. These days, I feel liek I do everything right. I hit all the right spots, the foreplay is pretty long and good but i just can't seem to get her into orgasm. I don't understand why. Everyonce in a while, when I penetrate her it does hurt a little bit, even when she is really wet, and i thought the pain can be why she isnt reaching orgasm but the pain goes away a minute into sex... I want to take her to orgasm because I don't feel right having mine every time we have sex and her never having hers... she does feel good though during sex so shes isn't experiencing any pain. How do i put her into orgasm? Can nyone help?

yeah, funny thing is, i dun know why but i can last like 45min to an hour and with all the penetration, movement, and foreplay on top of that, i feel kind of pahetic not giving her hers. Sex is good though... without it we're okay... but it would be nice to make her feel great every once in a while.

Answer 1

Google "cunnilingus techniques" and then get busy.

Answer 2

With some people having an orgasm just from penetration is pretty difficult. She might need to give herself a little help. Next time you're having sex, when you feel like you're getting kind of close to climax (not too close though) get her to start rubbing her clitoris while you are having sex. She'll have an orgasm. It's like that for me most of the time, and honestly when I do have one without doing that it's usually not as good/intense. I know it seems like "cheating", like you're not doing it properly or something but if it works and makes sex more enjoyable then why not? Lots of people do it that way. Have fun!!

Answer 3

Um...I don't want to get into too much trouble with graphic explanation. But basically, first, you need to learn how to "set the stage." A little woman goes a long ways...trust me. candles, rose petals, calming music, etc. Second...need to practice your foreplay a little better. ; ) Women rarely experience an orgasm during actual sex simply because the clit is not usually being stimulated when you are doing intercourse. So...practice on your foreplay and oral stimulation. I usually give a woman a least two orgasms by that alone. Once she has had one or two moments...then it is easier for her to have one during intercourse...but not always.

Hope this helps.

(Sorry if I offended anyone)

Answer 4

Try this:

Lick her... down there. Do it at an even pace and don't stop until she comes.

Don't worry about the slobber. I know... the jaws get sore.... just don't stop.

Most girls I talk to tell me that finger banging isn't all that good... from anyone that's done it to them. By far the favorite? cunnilingus... lick the slit.

This can be also done wrong. People are sensitive in different places. Some like it hard, some like it soft. Ask your girl when ur down there, which way she likes it. Try direct stimulation to the clitoris, then stimulation to the side of it under it around it... try everything. When she says "OOO, just like that, repeat until she has an orgasm.

As soon as she hits it, you jump right on and give her a good banging. Also, many girls tell me they like me to grind them rather than pump at them with my body slapping on them. Says it hits deeper and has this spinning/twisting effect inside them.

Hope this helps.

Answer 5

An orgasm is a mental and emotional experience for a woman. It isn't always the man that's doing something wrong. Have you really tried everything ( like taking it slow). My husband and I had the same issue but I let him know that its not him, I had to channel in to my most deepest feelings. And I let him know that that is something that I have control over. But make the night romantic and see what happens. You'll get what your looking for.

Answer 6

talk to a sex therapist for tips. You can try going here.. drrachael.com She's a sexologist with a phd an md and all kinds of alphabet. Some women are non orgasmic, and can't even get themselves off. Dr. rachael can help. good luck.

Answer 7

The orgasm's not the most important feeling in the world. the fact that you care enough to want her to have it says enough. Sex isn't just about pleasure. That's why it's also called making love. It's a physicalness between two people

Answer 8

if you want her t orgasm she has to be into not always are we so into to it just when were in the mood. but you can make her feel good by going down town and make her feel good tell to let you know when it feels good not when it tickles!!! i would wait until she is in the mood and get it on and let her get on top of you and let her do her thing make her think it feels very good while touching her milk-chugs!! she should be very turn on !! and then work your way !! all it takes is time.!!!! ...more experience eventually it will happen.

Answer 9

You might want to bring in a device (like a vibrator or a Rabbit) to aid. She may just have a tough time getting enough proper stimulation via regular sex.

Answer 10

it's pretty standard that guys get off every time and girls are more or less a crap-shoot. if you want her to orgasm more often, ask her how she does it by herself, or what makes her feel good in bed. each girl is different and your best bet is to open up some communication with her, not us.

Answer 11

the tongue works wonders,doesn`t matter if you no how or not,just keep at it and it gets better.she should let you no what feels good,or you should be able to figure it out yourself.when you penetrate her(be gentle and not to much)enjoy eachothers need and talk things out.you gonna do just fine.