after i get back in mid december from school i cannot go on leave cause the company is maxed out and needs soldiers to stay back in Korea. my life sucks
2006-10-26 15:13:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
wow thats a toughy....try to tell her before the holiday season comes.meaning asap....that way she has time to except the fact that her husband wont be home this year...from a womans point of view,,,good luck...sorry you wont be home for the holidays,,,you no who to thank for that? stay safe
2006-10-26 15:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by pantherblack05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just tell her like that, tell her exactly what you have told us. Your life is not the only one that sucks buddy! My husband is deployed and in the 7 years that we have been married we have missed wedding anniversaries, birthdays, holidays and he won't be here for the birth of our first baby, I will have to send him the baby delivery in a tape to Iraq I guess, now how nastier can it get? Look at the bright side YOU ARE STILL ALIVE and instead of getting all depressed over missing a Holiday thank God every day for what you DO have!
2006-10-26 15:20:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it must be absolutely terrible to get paid to learn, and then go back to Korea where your allowed to drink. Meanwhile, I've had the fortune of spending two of the last four Christmases away from my family and to spend this coming CHrstmas working 12 hour days in a warzone.
2006-10-26 15:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by DOOM 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she married you knowing that you are in the military she should understand. It's part of the military wife/family life. Unfortunately wars dont care about the day of the week or anyhting like that. If she really loves you just be honest, she has to get used to it sooner or later.
2006-10-27 05:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by april_lujano 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her. She's a military wife, she can handle it. My husband leaves for Iraq on Nov 7th and will return sometime next year. I'm not sitting in a corner crying. I'm not even complaining about it. That's military life :)
2006-10-26 15:16:11 · answer #5 · answered by mustangsally76 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
1) Open your mouth. 2) say the words, "we aren't going home for the holidays, 3) tell her the reasons
If she throws a temper tantrum, you need a new wife. By the way, are you whipped?
2006-10-26 15:17:50 · answer #6 · answered by commonsense 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey its the Army. It sucks sometimes. I'm in too and missing the holidays here in Afghanistan. She will understand. She will be upset just like you are but she will understand.
2006-10-26 17:17:34 · answer #7 · answered by lostokieboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Military wives are much stronger than given credit for. Just tell her, the sooner the better. She may fuss, or cry for a bit.....but deep down she understands....she may not like it....but she understands.
2006-10-26 15:46:31 · answer #8 · answered by Renee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE try to be as honest as possible, she might be angry or sad when you tell her, that's unavoidable, but she'll be grateful later when she thinks about it because you were honest and you tried to be with her but you coudn't. The most important ingredient for a happy marriage is communication, so hang in there and I wish you could be with your family now and I wish for you to be safe out there.
2006-10-26 15:28:46 · answer #9 · answered by working woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful you're not working 12-hr. shifts 7 days a week in Iraq - my goodness! It could be worse!!!!
2006-10-26 16:59:55 · answer #10 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋