I sympathize with you - it's hard to speak in public. But there are plenty of ways you can feel more confident.
One is to make sure you really know your stuff. If you're giving a presentation, practice it over and over again to make sure it's fully memorized. That way you won't be struggling to remember it when you present it - because that would make you even more nervous. Also, try to practice in front of other people - your family and friends - before the big day. Even if it's just one person, or a dog, for that matter, it will help.
So that's step one, but when it actually comes to give the presentation, you will still probably be nervous. So you need to learn how to control it. It's all in your mind. Before you go to present, take deep breaths and keep telling yourself that it's not that bad. This is true - everyone has to present in class, and everyone (i mean EVERYONE - I'm on a speech and debate team and I STILL get nervous) gets nervous. Plus, when you're up there presenting you ALWAYS think you do worse than you actually did... other people are so focused on their own projects that they don't even notice your little mistakes. If it helps to take your mind off your presentation until it starts, do that, or it might be better to think about the material you're going to present. Whatever works for you. But the bottom line is, it's going to be okay.
When you go up there, it's especially important not to think about how nervous you are and just to think about your project. Pretend that nobody is in the room and that you are just trying to verbally remember some facts that you have to know. Technically, you should have eye contact when you speak in public (it's better speaking skills) but for the purposes of getting through your project you could focus on the back wall of the classroom (don't look down though). If there's a picture on the wall, talk to it. Otherwise, tell that wall what it needs to know about the american revolution (or whatever you're presenting on =]). If you're delivering a persuasive speech, try to get passionate about what you're saying. If you're acting, get really into the emotions of the character. If it's just a factual presentation, pretend you're trying to teach your younger brother something important. That way your focus will be on your topic, not your nerves.
I hope these ideas helped. But the next time you present, you will probably still get nervous. The only surefire way to cure fears of public speaking is to keep doing it. And that works - my friend used to be so shy and afraid to speak in public, but she worked on it and eventually made it to nationals in a speech competition, which is a big deal. You could have the same success (or, at least be able to deliver your class project without having a breakdown). But you'll always get a little bit nervous, like I said before, everyone does. A little bit of nervousness is a good thing though - it provides you with some positive energy. So keep practicing your public speaking - you're going to have to do it as an adult too in practically any job you take, so it's something you really want to be able to do well. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-10-26 15:18:53
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answered by Blondie 3
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I think there are 2 things...1. know your subject inside and out...if you had to tell them all something about you, you could probably talk for hours...I just learned this recently when I was going for an interview for the first time in a LONG time, but the job was for the same type of work I did for 10 years. That made it soooo easy. I knew what I was talking about, I didn't even have to think about it, I was nervous at first but, the words just rolled off my tongue. (by the way, got the job.) And 2. If you can know your audience, which is a little easier because it's your class, if you get to talking to them you may find that most of them feel the same way, you could even get some pointers. Back in my early 20's at one of my first jobs, I felt so insecure around all these people who were older & seemed to have it all together . One day we were all talking in a casual situation and I found out they all felt the same way I did, a lot of times nervous & scared....or embarassed. That was a big moment for me, I discovered I was NORMAL!
2006-10-26 15:31:57
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answered by Anonymous
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I have the same problem. Here is what I do to reduce it:
1) Know your topic. If you understand what you are talking about, you will feel more confident and it will be easier for you to answer any questions from the teacher.
2) Rehearse what you are going to say beforehand and practice in front of a mirror so you can watch yourself speak.
3)While presenting, try to avoid looking directly into anyone's eyes. A good tactic is to look at a friend or at people's eyebrows or just above their heads, but whatever you do, don't try to judge your performance by staring at the teacher.
2006-10-26 15:35:58
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answered by Linda 2
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I get nervous, too. What I found over the years of having to speak to groups is that if I know my subject well and I practice a few times as if I had a group in front of me (role playing) and I have simple 4 x 6 notecards, I do very well. Just know your stuff, practice the presentation as many times as is reasonable, and have simple notecards. Remember to number your notecards so they are easy to put in order. Your worst fear of embarrassing yourself is common, but unnecessary. Almost everyone has the same fear to some degree. Good luck.
2006-10-26 15:19:49
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answered by OU812 5
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deep breathing before the presentation...focus on what u hav to say more than the people ur saying it too and just keep presenting...it may not go completely away but it will get better...trust me 3 yrs of high skoo, 3 in college and countless of presentations in front of people that i couldnt stand! so i kno how u feel...and the breathing thing, practicing before hand...believing in ur self, all that truly helps...and when u feel like u might be losing ur words or whatever is makin u nervous, take a little pause to collect urself, the more u do it the easier it'll get...good luck
2006-10-26 15:04:45
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answered by Anonymous
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Everyone, even professional speakers have some apprehension before a speech. Edward R. Murrow once said, “The only difference between the pros and the novices is that the pros have trained their butterflies to fly in formation.” The best thing to do is practice, practice and more practice, the better prepaired you are the more confident you will be while giving your presentation.
2006-10-26 15:09:08
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answered by lewisepalmer 2
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1) Feel Good when you Want
When you need to boost your self confidence or self esteem, find 3 things that make you feel good. These could be memories of good times, a piece of music, a holiday souvenir, or a person's face - use photos if it helps. Practise thinking about them and bringing them to mind.
Developing self confidence that lasts - because of the way emotions 'attach' themselves to memories, you will quickly train yourself to feel good when you want - a great help.
2) Beat Self Consciousness
Self consciousness is the No.1 enemy of self confidence. Learn how to keep your attention off yourself. You can do this easily by following these steps...
a) If you notice you have become self-conscious, (you can usually tell because you start to feel anxious), choose something 'everyday' you can see and study it in detail. For example: examine a door, look at the different textures and shades of colour, wonder about who made it and how and so on. The important thing is that you're learning how to keep your attention off yourself.
b) If you feel self-conscious in a social situation, it's usually because you don't have enough to do! Focus on what your purpose in the situation is. Whether you're there to:
* find out if you like the other people in the situation
* make others feel comfortable
* find out some information
* make business contacts
* and so on...
It's easy to feel self-conscious if you have nothing to do, and much more difficult if your attention is occupied by a task.
Think how comfortable you have been with others when you're all working toward a common goal. The common goal of socialising could be making friends, it could be the exchange of mutually beneficial information, it could be whatever you want it to be!
3) Don't Take Undue Criticism - Even From Yourself !
Challenge your own assumptions. Here's a few to get you started:
a) Confident-looking people have bad moments too.
b) Just because you feel under-confident, doesn't mean other people can tell.
c) If you're saying things to yourself like "You're no good at anything" then rest assured, you're wrong. Everyone can compose a sentence, get successfully to the store, eat without choking. Don't let yourself make sweeping statements about yourself - in the long run it is this sort of thing that can really damage your self image.
Building self esteem is not just about thinking good of yourself, it's about not thinking bad for no reason!
d) Just because you have felt bad about yourself in the past doesn't mean you're always going to feel that way. I have seen hundreds of people surprise themselves once they have learned how to build self confidence in a way that it stays built!
2006-10-26 15:03:44
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answered by Angel Mass 3
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You don't need to see a doctor, don't worry about that.
But practice your speech a lot so you almost know it by heart. The better prepared you are, the more confident you will feel. Practice in front of your family or a few friends and they can help to give you pointers.
Remember to breathe!
2006-10-26 15:04:24
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answered by R.Wings 1
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that's a hard thing to do, to present something in front of your peers. i used to get nervous too, people say things like picture people in their underwear and things like that. i never had a desire to do that, i don't see how that would work. but i would just say the best way is to be confident in what you are talking about. research it well and practice practice practice. that way you can be confident in yourself. people see confidence. also, experience, the more you do it, the more comfortable you will become. good luck!
2006-10-26 15:05:04
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answered by Yee Haw 3
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well..u shd practice before a mirror..it would give u confidence to give a llecture type of thing in front of whole audience and tell ur self u know more than the listeners....but first of all prepare well what u want to say..so u shd be good in theory part and practice a lot in front of irror..and with experience u would see this feeling is no more.
2006-10-26 15:11:21
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answered by Sachin Kumar 4
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