I have been in two serious long-term relationships w/ guys that turned out to be a little too needy. I'd like to find a decent guy. I'm an intelligent, down-to-earth, cute girl with no deformities...should I play hard-to-get...is that the answer?
2006-10-26 14:58:26 · 12 answers · asked by Amaranth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you play hard to get, the key word is _playing_. You know who likes playing? Playahs. Is that the kind of man you want? Because that's what you get with playing hard to get. Guys who aren't playahs -- and who therefore lack the confidence (spelled arrogance) that makes a playah -- will give up thinking that you're not interested. Playahs, OTOH, take your lack of interest as a challenge. Then they lose interest once they get what they want from you.
If you really want a decent guy, go where decent guys are (probably not at frat parties, and definitely not at "meat market" bars). Look for someone who is financially stable (meaning "pays his own bills," not "has lots of money and a nice car.") and who knows how to hold a conversation without coming on to you or spazzing out because a pretty girl is talking to him.
The ultimate test of a man's character is to see how he treats people who apparantly can't do anything about it. If you're out to dinner with him and he's rude to the waiter, get rid of him (the date, not the waiter). If he tries to seem like an alpha male by putting other guys down in front of you, run away screaming. A guy who asserts his dominance by abusing other people will abuse you if he thinks he can get away with it. On the flipside, a guy who isn't needy won't take any crap from you (and you will try to give him crap, because women have the same potential for selfishness and neediness that men do). Short version: a good man will stand up for you, and will just as quickly stand up to you.
2006-10-26 15:15:03 · answer #1 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what your definition of too needy is...but most of the times when girls say that they mean he really likes me a lot and I immature so I dont know how to take...I mean obviously if the guys is like calling you 50 times a day...maybe your right, and in that case..you are just attracting the wrong guys...but in a case where you think the guy cares for you too much...maybe you need to change the way your outlook on things and understand that most girls would love to have a b/f that pays attention to their needs and would do anything for them...so instead of complaining you should count your blessings...unless of course they actually do call you like 50000 times a day...and in that case you just need patience, I guess...
2006-10-26 22:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by rdbowles12390 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an old saying everyone hates : "It's not you, it's me",
nobody likes to hear that, but in your case it does seem to suit you, It seems to me that you need to find a gentleman, someone who'll care about you the way you deserve to be, We are a rare breed, we do exist, but finding us is not easy, we are quiet and shy, and have a hard time meeting woman such as yourself. On average, from what I can tell, we gentlemen are about 1 in 10, so you may have to continue your search, best of luck.
2006-10-26 22:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by Sentinel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I play hard-to-get, but that's because I have my guard up all the time. Plus I wanna make sure I like the guy before I get too serious with him. But that's just what I do.
2006-10-26 22:03:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Playing hard to get would frustrate me. I think in adult relationships, people should be honest with each other. If you like the person, say you like them. Don't play childish games like hard-to-get.
2006-10-26 22:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by Eastern US Guy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes hons play hard too get hons if your decent and tired of the bull-- from men hons, are you fed up with being hurt hons and left with nothing but holding the bag hons?? so tired of us guys you feel like tosing us out a 22 story window and yelling out have a nice landing hons?? its hard onn too find a decent guy hons, just start plasying hard too get----
2006-10-26 22:03:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
We want women who can count the number of lovers she's had on ONE finger. Not very likely in this day and age.
2006-10-26 22:07:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yes, some times hard-to-get might work, we want what we cant have, lol
2006-10-26 22:02:36 · answer #8 · answered by gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you girl...Allguy are alike. All the want is sex and anything else that they can get. They want you to wait on them hand and foot and as long as you to that they are happy.
2006-10-26 22:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by Charles' Princess 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
most def. if you are trying to engage in a serious relationship you cant give it up too soon. you have to keep him wanting you.
we should talk. if you are interested let me know. elasesino13@hotmail.com (myspace)
im a s.d. resident. im intelligent, outgoing, have a great sense of humor, and im goo-looking.
2006-10-26 22:03:14 · answer #10 · answered by elblaze1 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋