And do you think being engaged for over a year is too long?
2006-10-26 14:57:47 · 54 answers · asked by Irony Of Poe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We were engaged 2 years before we married.
2006-10-26 16:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by treday25 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Engagement is the period before the wedding to plan and finance your wedding and honeymoon. I think by the time you have dated and figured out this the person you want to spend the rest of your life with and decide to get engaged - you are committed to getting married and it doesn't really matter how long you decide to be engaged - because you are just using that time to get some things figured out so you start your new life out together on the best foot possible. So, no, I don't think a year is too long. A year is about right. It can take a while to save up and finance the wedding and get the plans and everything taken care of for your big day.
But, I will say that if you are waiting to have sex before you get married - a year will probably feel like an eternity. So, if that is the case you could have your wedding and all that figured out in 6 months and be able to speed things along if that is a concern you have. In that case, spend as much as you can on the honeymoon and as little as you can on the wedding and reception. The honeymoon is the most memorable part anyway.
Congratulations! Best wishes to you both.
2006-10-26 15:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was engaged for 8 months before the wedding. However, we dated for 3.5 years before getting engaged. So, to answer your second questions, I say it depends on how long you have been together. I think the longer you date, the shorter your engagement can be. But, if you get engaged shortly after you start seeing each other, maybe a year is not long at all. You probably need the time to get to know each other. . . If neither situation really fits you, then maybe she is one of the girls that needs an extra long time to plan a wedding.
2006-10-26 18:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was engaged for 6 months before I got married. I think that if you make the decision to get married why do you have to wait a year (or more) to actually do it. If you say that you are doing it to see if it is the right decision then why get engaged in the first place? I honestly don't really understand people who decide to get married and then plan if for a year and a half later. If you are so unsure then why waste thousands of dollars on a ring, only to potentially have it returned because "things just didn't work out" So I guess my answer is "Yes" I think being engaged for over a year is too long.
2006-10-26 15:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, from a female's perspective...how many of us woman who have been with the same person for 2 years or more (in my case, we've been together 3 years and have lived together 2, not yet engaged) don't have their wedding all planned for the most part. I'm not engaged yet but I know I won't need a year to get ready for my wedding. It's been planned for a while now. I know who's standing up with me, the colors, the church, who's marrying us, the reception site, who's doing the music, the meal, just about every little detail imaginable, i have planned out. I could get married tomorrow if I had the ring and who knows, maybe that's what we'll do lol.
2006-10-26 17:32:37 · answer #5 · answered by kyles_aunt_jenny_age_24 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I got engaged Labor Day weekend and we got married December 4th of the next year. You don't want to be engaged for years, but 18-24 months is good. Also depending on where you live, you have to make the arrangement 12-18 months in advance to get the vendors you want.
2006-10-26 15:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We got engaged on July 21 and married on May 19 of the next year...so about 10 months. One year or more is definitely not too long. Sometimes you need more time to prepare...or you don't have the funds right away. Everyone should go at their own pace. Good luck!
2006-10-26 15:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by WonderingWanderer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO My Husband and I were engaged for a year and a half. We Met when I was a Junior in High School. We got married the year after I graduated.
It was good having all the thime to plan the perfect wedding!
2006-10-26 17:26:39 · answer #8 · answered by lil_love1982 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 or 1 1/2 year of school left. I will not get engaged until then.
I think the max that i would wait is 2 years then I would start to look for someone with of more of an aggressive nature and the personal to move on a decision.
I am will worth the time of a great guy. but it marrage or nothing
2006-10-26 15:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by Wicked 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lot of couples are leaning towards an engagement of 1 year+ now...it isn't uncommon to see 2-3 year engagements, or the 3-6 month engagements either...couples are getting married when they have the money to and aren't rushing to plan everything.
2006-10-26 15:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋