ok u have a boyfriend and you are messing with this other guy and you want to kiss him and be with him but you also want to stay with your original lover. What should I do?
2006-10-26 14:43:27 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Decide which one you want to be with more and break up with the other. If they find out about each other there is a chance that they'll both dump you, than you'll have neither of them.
2006-10-26 14:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by BetteBoop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh gosh...you and I have the same exact situation going on here. I have been thinking, thinking and thinking about it for weeks now and every time I do, I've got some headaches. Here is what I have thought (and haven't been concluded just yet.)
Case one: Go out with the new guy and do whatever anyway. Life is too short. You can't deny what you want. So live it the way it's supposed to be. In this case, your current BF doesnt have to know. You go out there and explore your option. But you probably end up feeling quilty afterwards.
Case two: Stay away from the new guy since you still have feelings for your current. By doing this, you must never be around him again ever to avoid temptation. In my case, I kinda feel that if I choose to do so, I may end up feeling like I've missed something.
So choose between these two cases--either end up feeling guilty or feeling like you have missed something. I have done some deep thoughts and still, I can't seem to be able to make up my mind.
2006-10-26 14:49:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write down all the positive things your current boyfriend did for the last 2 years, then all the negative.
See which one outweights the other, then decide.
Two years? Maybe time for marriage. What if original guy was going to give you the ring this Christmas?
Just how old are you anways? May need legal guardian consent if underage.
2006-10-26 14:47:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GROW UP!
When you commit to one person for such a long time you cant just throw it all away.
If your relationship with, as you put it, your original lover, is still great then why would you throw it out the window on the whim of lust?
Sorry to be so blunt but dont you dare cheat on you partner.
I find cheating one of the lowest things a person can do.
2006-10-26 14:47:23 · answer #4 · answered by samchic86 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, if you are attracted to someone else, it may be time to break up with the original lover. Depending on your age, I'd kiss the old one goodbye.
2006-10-26 14:52:06 · answer #5 · answered by bart m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself is the guy worth losing your relatationship of two year over? You have to seat down and think about why are you drawn to this person? Sometimes its easy to go after something you can't have.
Relationships are built of trust. If your boyfriend had the asame issue of what if can you deal with it?
2006-10-26 14:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to make a decision to whom you would want to spend your time with. Either way, someone will get hurt, but at least everybody gets to find out sooner. Just be honest with them. However, just because this new guy is fun to be with, do you see yourself with him for a long time, assuming that you want to be in a long term relationship. Just be honest.
2006-10-26 14:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wonder what was wrong with my relationship that made me want to seek out someone else. Then I would end both relationships- do some soul searching and grow up.
2006-10-26 14:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by Mommyk232 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always have a back up just in case one relationship doesn't work out......way to go girl!
Think about what you're saying and then ask yourself how you would feel if he did this to you?
2006-10-26 14:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get them both together at the same time and have them each do you at the same time. Maybe tag team you. So then you'll see who really is better and who you like more.
Just a suggestion...
2006-10-26 14:46:07 · answer #10 · answered by Mike Torrez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋