she calls at odd hours, when she has been asked to stop.... e-mails him and has bought clothing for and showed up for my sons birthday party when not invited.... help
2006-10-26 14:33:46 · 13 answers · asked by hunny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her to stop calling once more. If she does, call the police because that's harassment. After you get a police report, you can get a restraining order.
2006-10-26 14:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to alarm you, but her behaviour has the elements of that of a stalker. The best way to handle the phone calls is to simply hang up when you hear her voice on the line. You can also get her number blocked, but it won't work unless she calls from the same number all of the time. You can get a Call Screening Service put on your phone, or use caller ID, & never pick up when you see her ID appear on your phones display. Soon she will be discouraged from using the phone as a means of communicating to your fiance.
For the e-mails, you can use some of the same methods as the phone. By blocking her e-mail address you can have her e-mails returned to her with a message that they were blocked.
Now showing up at your door is another matter. One inexpensive method that has a slight chance of working is to send her a registered letter that states that if she comes on to your property again that she will be charged with tresspassing. It would help if you could include a reference to the local municipal law that addresses tresspassing on private property.
You might want to consult an attourney on that one. Depending on what a hard case she is, she may start to get the message that she is unwelcome, & find a new target for her obsession.
If she doesn't then you may be able to get an order of protection against her, but you have to prove that she has become more than just a nuisance. The best way to do that is to keep accurate & meticulous records of every single encounter with her, & every attempt on her part to contact you or your fiance. & everything that she says & does, including times, places, & dates. When she sends gifts you want to refuse them cold, but if you can take pictures of them, & keep any evidence of that as well it would help you establish a case of harrassment against her when you go to court.
If she's obsessed with your fiance, then you are going to be considered to be her competition, & she could potentially pose a danger to you. Don't confront her alone, & if you have already asked her not to come around don't hesitate to call 911 if she shows up at your door again, even if you haven't sent out your registered letter yet. If she leaves before the Police come, just give them a complete description of her, including the car she came in, & they'll seek her out & tell her not to come around you themselves.
Some people think that stalkers are only a problem for celebrities, but it can happen to everyday people as well, & it can be even more disruptive for a persons like yourselves because you aren't as prepared for this kind of a problem.
Good Luck!
2006-10-26 15:06:58 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask your fiancee to take care of it, he should be the one to break the ties and if she does keep bothering you and he then its time to change phone numbers. Call the police and let them know of her harrassment she obviously is clueless about your relationship. Any girl knows that an engaged man is off limits. She really needs to stop with the gifts and to stop coming onto your property.
2006-10-26 14:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by vidamar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to solve this logically is to get a police-harassment suit against her. That way if she was to break whatever issue is ordered against her, she'll be put in jail.. Seems like nothing else is standing in her way. I'm sorry you have to go through that
2006-10-26 14:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by Frank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here is another form of the question is she an ex girlfriend? if so your guy can get an order of protection agesnt her and put you and your kid on it. We had to do that my my exfiance's ex girlfriend. The main diff is cost the OOP is usally free the RO usally costs money.
2006-10-26 14:38:27 · answer #5 · answered by ldygrnleaf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u could knock her out cold or a restraining order. u have to be careful & not show any violence in front of the kids tho...they're innocent in all this. does he talk to her or maybe encourage it? he should really put his foot down too.
2006-10-26 14:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anna Banana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a reason she's contacting him. I suggest you look deeper into his behaviour, too. A person can't hold a conversation all by themselves. Good luck~
2006-10-26 14:36:38 · answer #7 · answered by Gotham*City*Kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are able to't do lots approximately this except the two the contents of the reference are fake or the referee is being prompted with the help of malice. it is totally criminal to jot down a honest yet unflattering reference.
2016-10-03 00:15:40 · answer #8 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should answer his phone and if she turns up make a scene tell her to piss off. she sounds like a dumb **** that has no friends. other wise get the police involved if you feel threatended.
2006-10-26 14:36:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE needs to tell her to stop! If he already did then he can file a restraining order.
If he didn't then I assure you he doesn't want her to.
2006-10-26 14:36:17 · answer #10 · answered by Wendy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋