do u think he is trying to use me for my money? he already pays 625.00 now at his own apt. anyways. i offered to buy groceries. What kind of man if is HE? one would make me wear the pance?WOULD U PAY EVERY THING 50/50. HE US NOT MY HUSBAND, WHY SHOULD I GIVE HIM MY MONEY, WHAT DO I GET, HE REFUSES TO MARRY I'm a woman isnt a man supposed to provide shelter and food for a woman, whils she has the kids. i feel like im being used,, dual roles, wearing the pance and the skirt. when i have children someday & preganant, i will have to bring home the bacon too. For that I mighth as well get my own apt. do u think he is trying to use me or is that fair? wjat will happen if i get pregnant and have to lean on him for support, he will kick me out cuz i lose my job, does anyone understand how i feel? are there ANY REAL MEN THAT WONT TAKE ADVANTAGE OF ME?
2006-10-26 13:57:52 · 60 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOU ARE RIDICULOUS.
This man would be well rid of you.
OF COURSE you should pay half. Why should HE pay for you? Slattern.
2006-10-26 14:00:17 · answer #1 · answered by iliketorideigohago 3 · 9⤊ 0⤋
He's not a free hotel sweetie. You have to contribute. If you both decide to get married, you should continue working until you have children and have made the choice for you to be a stay at home mom. I will be having the same arrangement when I move in with my boyfriend next month. I have a child (from a previous marriage). Should I make my boyfriend support him too? Of course not! You are out of line to think he has to take care of you. If you were living on your own, you would be paying rent, food, utilities, etc. It's saving you both money by paying 50/50. You guys should go over what you make, and what he makes. Then go over what each of your expenses are. If you make less than him, you can maybe give him money based what you make. For instance, if he makes $2000/month, and you make $1000, then you might only be able to contribute up to $600/month towards the house expenses. I'm sure he will be willing to work with you on this one. He helps you, you help him. Treat others the same way you want to be treated. What if he lost his job? Would you be willing to help him out? Why would you expect him to do EVERYTHING? Have a heart. It's 2006 now. He is not trying to use you. Maybe he is delaying marriage until he can see that you aren't using HIM?! Otherwise, go live in your own place until you either get married or break up. If you love him, you will WANT to help him. Good luck with this one sweetie!
2006-10-26 14:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by Caelan's mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As far as you paying half of everything that maybe pushing it a little. Does he make more then you do? I don't know why you don't split the bills so it is fair if you don't make as much. I live with my bf and I pay what I can cuz I am disabled right now. Before we payed everything together, like he would pay the rent and I would pay the smaller bills. We would take care of our own other bills like car payment but after everything was taken care of then we spent the rest on each other and our kids. I guess what you should consider is what will be done with the money that is left over. See if in the long run you both will benefit or will he blow what he has left on himself. As far as a man taken care of a women.... this is 2006.... I don't believe a family can be ran on one income alone. even if you aren't a family..... It isn't easy to run a household on one paycheck. I hope that helps.
2006-10-26 14:08:11 · answer #3 · answered by Redneck Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps try to look at it from his point of view. He probably works hard to pay for that place and doesn't think it's fair for you to come in and live for free off of him. However, if you were to pay half of all the bills and buy all the groceries, I think he'd be getting a pretty sweet deal. That way he ends up with more spare cash while keeping the apartment in his name - because if you were to be paying half the mortgage payments too if I were you I'd be asking for the apartment to be put in my name too. Why should you be paying for his future financial security when he says he won't marry you and share that security with you? If he was only renting I think it would be totally fair to ask you to pay for half of everything, because he wouldn't be gaining anything from you - but you make it sound like he has a mortgage on the apartment and he would be making money from you, and that's not on.
2006-10-26 14:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is taking advantage of who here? Haven't you heard there are no free rides in life? You say you aren't married to him, but expect him to treat you like a husband. A man is no supposed to provide for anyone but his wife and children until you are married or have his children you can't really expect anything but a 50/50 situation. There are places for those who want to live for free, jail and the homeless shelter. Also, you don't want to rely on him 100%, unless you are married. If you are living with him and he pays everything you have to submit to his will at all times or he may throw you out. You sound like one of those girls who think that all you have to do is have sex and you are entitled to his belongings, money, etc. There's other women who do that too, they're called "Prostitutes". You should break up with him and find a stupid sucker to live off of, you're a parasite.
2006-10-26 14:12:04 · answer #5 · answered by Brixton B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is fair ...if you had children and stayed home to care for his children it might be different ..after all you asked him to move in not the other way around ..it sounds to me like you are looking for the easier route...if he really loves you and you lose job you two will be able to work some think out but this is 2006 and women fought to have equal rights and now we have them you think hes being unfair???i think you both should contribute to the bills and both contribute to the household chores and if at sometime one has to carry the load more then the other and/or viceversa that's what a relationship is ..you both need to do all you can it may not be 50/50 all the time maybe sometimes 25/75 or 60/40 but you both should be giving all that you can to make it work..
2006-10-26 14:05:36 · answer #6 · answered by Alli 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he isnt taking advantage of you, at all. it's called compromise, u know 50/50 even better would be 100/100! if you want to live with him and are willing to share right down the middle then go for it. but if you think that old school crap about the men bein the provider your livin in the past this is the future, if you want a serious relationship with this guy then it should be 50/50 right down the middle not no 10/90, or 0/100. it dont work like that. sounds to me like you want him to support you.
2006-10-26 14:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by jasonjuicy1969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 22:31:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't your husband, he has no obligation to provide for you. And with no children he has no responsibilities. I know many girls who share rent with their boyfriend as well as all the household groceries and bills. If there are other roommates then it is only fair that you pay your share in everything.
Besides renters have rules to uphold too. The owners might allow illegal squatters, which is what you'll be if you are not on the lease contract.
I don't think your boyfriend is trying to take advantage. If he wants you to pay for rent make sure your name is on the lease contract. That way he cannot throw you out, if things go bad. He isn't the owner of the house.
2006-10-26 14:19:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, the guy should be the provider. Not say you'd stay for free but at least not 50-50. If he makes you pay half of everything, make him clean half the house, cook his own dinner, wash his own clothes n make him take care of the baby for 9mths after the baby is born. That's 50-50. Such a petty man!!! I'd start looking elsewhere.
2006-10-30 02:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by Jordaan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd definately pay half.
Are you using him for his money? It almost seems like you want to live with him rent free.
Maybe this is his way of making sure he's not going to be stuck paying for you.
You wouldn't be giving him your money. I don't think he's asking you to sign your checks over to him and take control of your money.
He wants to be equals, which I feel each person should be (I'm a female by the way). Why should anyone be expected to pay for me? If all you're paying for are groceries, it seems a little, well, like your using him. He's not your parent, he's not required to provide a roof over you head (technically, neither are your parents once you turn 18).
2006-10-26 14:06:00 · answer #11 · answered by deuciecabbage 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋