I am a guy in high school. I used to be friends with this girl for 2 months. We hung out often and we often flirted;I thought she liked me. But one day, from her best friend, I heard that she likes some other guy. When I heard that, I was really depressed and I felt cheated because she once gave me a major hint that she likes me. Also, many of my friends had told me that she is a player. After that, I decided that I should stay away from her because if I stay friend with her, I am gonna get hurt in the END! So yesterday, I called her a liar and a player and I basically told her that I dont wanna hang out with her anymore because I don't trust her. Then I got up and left her there. Later that day, I heard that she cried after I said those things.
I feel very guilty and want to talk things over with her. I want to apologize to her! But I don't want us to be friends again because I know I will like her again. What should I do?
P.S. I once told her that I like her.
2006-10-26 13:40:45 · 21 answers · asked by ilikeyoudumbass 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, first, you have your ENTIRE life ahead of you so if you like this girl (even if she rejects you) you have to at least let her know. That way you at least have a chance with her. If she doesn't know or worse, is hurt by what you said, she may close herself off to you and it would be very hard to earn that trust back.
Second, you made her cry which is not good by any means, but it does indicate that she cares what you think about her. Maybe she feels the same way about herself and when you verbalized it to her, it was too much. Don't think about fixing this one...FIX it. Call her (yes, CALL her) tell her that you want to talk face to face with her because there was a misunderstanding. Then explain to her what you said above. You like her and don't want to get hurt by her. Words come out wrong sometimes and in your case they really did. They hit home with her. Don't make this poor girl (who probably likes you TOO) endure another moment with this hanging over her head.
After you apologize and she thinks you rock, even if she doesn't want to be with you, guess what? The sun will still rise tomorrow and you will have no regrets about leaving things messed up or undone. And even if she doesn't let you know, it will mean a LOT to her!
2006-10-26 13:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by Gotham*City*Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that you were friends with her. I think you do owe her a apology. You two didn't have any commitment. Just because you flirted doesn't mean she is yours. You said your in high school, then act like you are. I don't get why you called her a liar. Your the one who lied because you said she was a friend. If you wanted more then you should have told her. This one is your fault buddy........... Go tell her your sorry and hope she forgives you.
2006-10-26 13:53:57 · answer #2 · answered by dm1003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, just because you told her you liked her doesn't mean she's yours. Did you two have an exclusive committed relationship? It doesn't sound like it because you called her your friend and not girlfriend. If you didn't make a move and some other guy did and got the girl, don't make the girl be the one to pay for it. Yes, apologize to her. And if you can't be a good friend to her because you can't control your emotions, then it's better that you stay away.
2006-10-26 13:44:34 · answer #3 · answered by 00jag 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You HAVE to talk to her!! Aplogize ..tell her that it wasnt really you speaking that you were frusterated and that you shouldnt have said that! If you dont talk to her you will NEVER get that friendship back and you will feel really bad..just please when you see her tell how u really feel w/o making her cry thats just the WORST thing a guy can do, make a girl cry..she probably already has some stuff going on ...so just be nice and stop being such a jerk(i mean that with the most respect!)
;) good luck
2006-10-26 13:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by ~Flutergirl~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to tell you this but you really scre*ed up. Who cares if she is a player? you can be her friend even if you like her. But of course she could be trying to make you feel guilty for ditching her.
Wait a few days and see how she reacts, then you'll probably know what to do.
2006-10-26 13:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize for your outburst, but stick to your guns and remember she may have hurt you far worse if she'd gotten the chance, and don't let her swindle you in again. I've never met a girl that didn't love the chance to take control of a guy in your position. Don't let her...
2006-10-26 13:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by MEGAWALRUS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her and be honest with her. Say, "I am sorry I said those hurtful things to you but I was just upset at the thought of you with another guy. I like you a lot, and I don't think I can be happy with being "just friends" with you." Honesty is the key, but don't expect her feelings to change just because of that.
2006-10-26 13:44:25 · answer #7 · answered by Miss D 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Big error
If you're not anything official she's going to see what else is for sale but there is where you come in talk to her and keep making yourself better but NEVER say something bad to a girl it does'nt matter if she's ugly,taken or whatever remember:
NEVER DIRTY THE WATER YOU MAY DRINK, YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN YOU'LL GET THIRSTY
2006-10-26 13:51:32 · answer #8 · answered by e)v1n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off ask her if what you heard about her is true and tell her why you dont want to be her friend just be honest with her its easier that way. and APOLOGIZE for what you said to her any girl would cry if some guy they thought was their friend said all of that stuff to them.
2006-10-26 13:46:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you were cuddling her she probably has forgiven you. You could ask her that question front up or even ask her out it would seem like you guys would make a good couple Yeah you definatley done the right thing. If you knew where she lived you could drop round some flowers but i wouldn't try it only if you guys were going out. oh and dont over do it.
2016-05-21 23:34:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋