What's the proper way to address a married couple in print, and socially? ie: John & Jane Doe, or Jane & John

Question

Who's name comes first, the man's, or the wife's?
John & Jane Doe, or Jane & John Doe? I've seen both, but what's the proper way to display?

Answer 1

The nicest way is Mr and Mrs John Doe (if being introduced at a formal occasion or written on an envelope).
If you are younger than then it should be Mr and Mrs Doe.
If you are their age then it is Jane and John Doe.
If they have given you the permission to call them Jane & John then that is what you do.

Answer 2

For formal occasions and formal events, it is Mr. and Mrs. John Doe. If you do not know them very well, still use the formal address, even for very casual events. You address invitations in the formal, and you introduce them formally. It is their move to then say, call us John and Jane.
For very informal events, like a backyard neighborhood BBQ, and you know them very well, Jane and John is fine on the invite.If everyone at the BBQ knows them well, you would say, here is Jane and John!.
Old school is the man's name comes first. New school is the woman's name comes first. I like the woman's name first. She takes care of the correspondence, usually, and in my mind, ladies go first.

Answer 3

Generally it is worded as Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe, or if she doesn't share his name she is addressed first, as in Jane__ and John Doe.

Answer 4

If I don't use Mr. and Mrs. John Doe, I use John and Jane Doe.

Answer 5

Mr. and Mrs. John Doe

Answer 6

Properly it is Male then Female ie: John and Jane Doe.

Answer 7

Well unfortun. for women rights, it always goes husband's name first..mr and mrs john and jane doe. mr john and mrs jane doe.

Answer 8

ive seen Mr. and Mrs. John Doe

Answer 9

Mr. & Mrs. John Doe, or John and Judy Doe or Mr & Mrs. Doe.Good luck and God bless

Answer 10

I've seen a lot of women who are married and consider themselves feminists to be offended when you address them as husband and wife. Instead, you should refer to them as wife and husband, or say the wife's name first before her husbands. Mrs. & Mr. Doe for example.