well last year my dad got re married and i bought a really nice dress to wear for the day. i had to buy a few sizes bigger than normal as i had just had a baby and wasnt back to my normal size.
anyway my partners mother asked to borrow the dress to a club and she had to "dress up" so i said sure and let her borrow the dress.
what she didnt say was that she had to dress country style and when i got my dress back it was all cut up and she had sewed cowboy or country style patterns on it and totally ruined it with out even asking if she could rearrange it!
what annoys me the most is the night she was supposed to wear it she forgot about it and bought new clothes. so she ruined it for nothing and i am stuck with my awesome dress that is so ugly i cannot imagune wearing it again.
i told my partener i was upset and he told me to just let it go but i dont want her to thinkshe can keep cutting up peoples clothes for her amusement.
should i tell her im upset or get over it?
2006-10-26 13:26:40 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it was a real nice dress and i bought for special occasions hoping to wear again another day for something special like dinner for my fiance and i anniversary
2006-10-26 13:27:49 · update #1
Let it go. It was a cloddish thing for her to do, but it isn't worth the hard feelings for an item of clothing, no matter how special it may have been. Just remember to say no if she ever asks to borrow anything from you again.
2006-10-26 16:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give the dress to her and tell her it's no good to you now, you want the dress you originally gave her back. I would let her know you are upset she didn't ASK your permission to rearrange it and that you would like to be reimbursed for the dress. Your probably not going to find the same dress again.
I think she should have the decency to repalce it by reimbursting you for the cost of the dress. Even if you never wore it again or you had to take it in that's besides the point.
Ask her to put herself in your place, She'd like the original dress back and I'm sure your husband would expect you to pay her for reimbursement or at least return the garment in it's original condition. Family or not you just don't do that to a person's clothes or anything else you may borrow.
Let her know this and then once it's off your chest let it go. You'll be better for it in the long run because it will be a constant torn in your side until she knows what you feel about the matter.
2006-10-26 13:41:32 · answer #2 · answered by valentina c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is terrible. Personally, I don't know what I'd do because I don't know anybody that rude and disrespectful of other peoples' things, so I have no experience. But I would be extremely angry. It might be best to let this one go kind of peacefully. Maybe write her a letter politely explaining that you think it was very rude of her to just cut up your dress without asking, that you had hoped to be able to wear the dress again (that's why we buy clothes isn't it?) and now you can't and you're very disappointed. Explain that because of this, although there are no hard feelings (even though there might be, don't stir the pot), you hope she understands that you'll never be lending her anything again. In-laws are tricky - they can cause lots of problems if you get on their bad side. Good luck I hope it all works out ok : )
2006-10-26 13:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! well, I'm as easy going as they come but to have a good dress or anything borrowed & have some thing like that done to it, well..uh yep, I'd be ticked. I cant imagine anyone doing that to someone elses dress that they borrowed.. I would have to say some thing, I mean, you can do it in a nice way, just say you really loved the dress & wish she'd have told you she was going to alter it, that you would have been glad to go shopping with her and help her find one that would have suited what she wanted.. I am really sorry that you had to put in that type of situation & hope it will work out for you.
2006-10-26 13:37:36 · answer #4 · answered by lesa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a totelly crazy story. If she is not mentally deficient, she owes you the money to buy a new dress. What kind of insane person would borrow a dress only to intentionally wreck it. She must think you are someone she can take advantage of or she is just not with the program. You obviously should never say "yes" again to this maniac. What kind of partner do you have that thinks that behavior is OK?
2006-10-26 13:35:04 · answer #5 · answered by krisjb1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it has upset you this much tell her, it was rude and disrespectful that she ruined your dress.... I would present her with a receipt of replacement value... and after cutting and sewing things on the dress I can hardly believe she forgot about it.... she either did it out of spite or realized how ugly she made the dress
2006-10-26 13:30:28 · answer #6 · answered by oracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would confront her about it, that was rude. I would ask her to replace the cost of the dress, being that you just let her borrow it out of your good faith. Dont make a fight about it, but say something to her.
2006-10-26 13:30:19 · answer #7 · answered by magickitty0621 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes just say a little something to the efect that you did not find it amusing and it will not happen againg because it was rude and very degrading to you if you let it go she will find it funny and find other ways to humiliate you just for the fun ot it she sounds liks a butt hole.
2006-10-26 13:32:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell yes, because she ask to borrow it not keep it and design it for her self. if you don't say anything about it she will do it again. she would give me some money back because it cost you money to purchase the dress. it's the principle of the thing.
2006-10-26 13:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by sweet sexy san 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that was a really awful thing for her to do if she didn't ask first to ruin it. i wouldn't be able to trust her again with my stuff and it she ever asks for anything in the future mention the dress and how upset you were.
2006-10-26 13:42:34 · answer #10 · answered by penelopeplant 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋