My male friend and I decided to have a commited relationship as of last year December. He has lots of females friends and I respected that. Since we've been together he has been receiving intimate texts from several females and to boot but recently I found out that he met this chick offline. He claims it was innocent, but he never revealed it to me. So I just broke it off. Was I wrong? It just seems like his on going womanizing is never going to end. I can't live wondering what he's doing or where he is. Once you lie and get caught this is what is dwindles to. So my question to you guys is "Should I have given him another chance. "
2006-10-26 13:24:52 · 20 answers · asked by da devil 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not a guy, but I'm wondering why you would ask the guys when you know they are going to be partial to the man. If you want good advice when it comes to the opposite sex, always ask a female her opinion. It is also better to ask a female you don't know instead of a close friend or relative. Then their feelings regarding you won't get in the way of their answer. Now to answer your question of if you were wrong to break it off with him or not... "NO" you were not wrong. It thrills me to see that some women are not weak enough to stay with someone who is always looking on the other side of the fence for greener grass... so to speak!!! Why do men always think the grass is greener on the other side, when all they have to do is water their own grass. There should never be any secrets in a "good" relationship. If he didn't tell you about that girl, he didn't want you to know. Think about it... There must be a reason he didn't want you to know. Just continue to be strong & stand firm of your decission to "not" continue with the relationship. YOU GO GIRL!!!
2006-10-26 13:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that he sounds like a player. You went out of your way to respect his "lots" of female friends. Very kind and generous of you, I think. Then, he took advantage of that and snuck around without saying anything. That would make me wonder about all the other "friends". You are a lovely strong woman to have broke it off. I think you should keep on walking towards a man and relationship that is worthy of you. I am not saying this man is not a fun, loving person. But if he cannot be more exclusive and really you should not have to make him or make concessions for him to be, why bother trying to trust him? There are plenty of good quality men out there waiting for a loving partner. Best Wishes.
2006-10-26 20:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by yowhatsup2day 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hell no, he cheated and lied to you. He has women all over, which if he really cared for you, he would give up, instantly.
He's a player, and you were right to follow your gut feelings on this one.
Find some guy, who is quite happy just to have you on his E-mail list and phone book, and isn't texting every other woman on the planet.
2006-10-26 20:28:45 · answer #3 · answered by johnb693 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No you were not wrong and no you should not give him another chance. Why? Because he broke your trust. Trust can't be earned back by him asking "Can you give me another chance?". It's earned with time and actions. If he can't prove to you that he wants to be with you and only you now (without you having to say outloud that you'd give him a second chance), then he won't prove it to you when you "offer" the second chance. Make him earn your trust.
2006-10-26 20:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by 00jag 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WELL - YOU WERE HIS FEMALE FRIEND AT ONE POINT TOO. LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL - BUT BE SURE OF EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL BEFORE HAND. THAN MAKE A CHOICE - ARE YOU HAPPY? I MEAN 100 % HAPPY WITH HIM?
THE FIRST THING IN ANY LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIP IS THE POWER OF TRUST. I PROUDLY KNOW WHERE MY HUBBY IS 24-SEVEN AND VISA-VERSA - IT IS SOMETHING I WILL NEVER HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT. AND IT IS A VERY BLESSED THING TO HAVE!!!
2006-10-26 20:33:34 · answer #5 · answered by litlbigdg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only advice I could give you is do what your heart feels is right, you said you cant live wondering what hes doing or where he is, so that should tell you something right there! Listen to your gut instinct!
2006-10-26 20:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by silky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl the answer is NO!!!!!
you did the right thing! you don't have time to be wondering if your man is being faithful and honest to you! you shouldn't have to worry about this kind of stuff! you deserve someone who treats you like a queen and whom you trust so well that you don't have to worry about what hes going to do wrong next!!!
you got rid of him...well done!!! you keep it up!!!
2006-10-26 20:29:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are not comfortable in the relationship and can't trust him, then you have no foot to stand on. The relationship is doomed to fail. I know it's hard when you care for someone, but if it's meant to be, he will come back and you guys can have the relationship that you deserve.
2006-10-26 20:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by Elissa R 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You did the right thing and you answered your own question. Him testing or ever lieing and it sliding says to him if he womanizes he can have cake and ice cream on the side. forgetting that your the best cake and ice cream.
2006-10-26 20:29:49 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Inquisitive 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
give him a other chance but first talk with him and talk to the girl that he met offline to see if anything happen. u dont know that if it was a innocent or anything. but if u cant turst him then maybe its better for u two not to date because u should beable to turst ur mate.but anyways just talk to him bout it and see what happens next. good luck
2006-10-26 20:32:53 · answer #10 · answered by countryman 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋