dont want the titles of being "girlfriend and boyfriend". everyone that knows us knows that we are together in every sense of the word, but that's not the issue. we are planning on moving in together in january in which we would be together 9 months. i have a 2 year old daughter and they get along great. he also wants to get married in early 2008 (which would be 2 years) and we are planning on having children also. i dont know how to tell my parents i am moving out to live with him so i need advice. my mom is very into church and dont like the "shacking up before marriage" stuff because she flipped out when i told her i was pregnant (and not married) with my daughter????????
2006-10-26 13:21:33 · 7 answers · asked by mookie mama 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Lots of people have this problem. As for your mom, there is just no easy way around this. You will have to tell her. As long as you are 18 and are an adult, she will just have to get over it and try to realize that you are an adult and are going to make your own decisions. If you already have a child, then what is the worry? Just tell your mom you love her and this is what you have chosen. If she can't accept this, oh well. It's het los, not yours. As for moving out into a house with someone and not being married yet, I would say it's fine, but make sure this is who you want to be with for sure. You two have only been together 9 months, and although it seems like a long time, in reality it's not. Make sure you know he wants to be with you and is planning on supporting you and your child for a lifetime. I hope all works out well for you guys. Good Luck and God Bless!
2006-10-26 13:33:22 · answer #1 · answered by Autumn_Anne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a life of your own now and your mom should be able to understand that.
I am the youngest girl with 3 older brothers. My parents are very religious, but when I decided to move out of town, I told them that I would be moving in with my then fiancee. My parents are so old fashioned that even though we were engaged, they didn't want us to sleep in the same bed together! We were together for 6 years before we got married -- the first three years were long distance the the following three years we were engaged.
One of my brother's finally had to talk to them about it and set them straight. I was 25 when I moved away. I asked them if they were proud of my accomplishments and if I was doing anything wrong besides moving in with my now husband and they said they were very proud of me. From there, they realized that I wouldn't have just moved in with anyone. Besides, they love my husband. After that, it was all ok and they let it go.
Good luck!
2006-10-26 14:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by JoesWifee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your parents your moving out. You have to make a life for yourself and your child. You cant live with mom and dad forever. If you love this guy and he loves you and your child then by all means go. Even if your parents dont agree. Your an adult and you can live your life how you see fit. Good Luck
2006-10-26 13:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plain and Simple....
If ur old enuff to get pregnant and raise 1 kid then ur old enuff to move out and "shak up" wherever u please!!
Your parents will have to accept what u do!! You have to think of u and ur child now!!
You are no. 1 not them!!
Do what makes YOU happy!!!!
2006-10-26 13:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just explain to her what is going on and just talk to her. It can't hurt to try it. You already have a daughter and as long as the guy is nice to her and you then there shouldnt be a problem... i would try just sitting and talking to her.good luck
2006-10-26 14:53:07 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old r u? if u are over 18 then ur mother is just going to have to accept it.
2006-10-26 13:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by smomus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are adult and can do what you want. tell her this is what you want to make sure you are compatible under the same roof before you marry. better than divorce!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-26 13:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋