I have this friend that has confessed a fear of being alone and thats way she stays in unhealthly relationships and/or jumps into relatioships. how do i get her to not be afraid to be single???
2006-10-26 13:06:33 · 9 answers · asked by bigmj75 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most women who have been into a failed relationship would really end up jumping from one relationship to another. Because we sometimes feel that being alone and without no one is a testament of our being losers...well, you really have a tough job there because only the person involved can actually get over her fears. But i'm just touched by your concern to your friend and i think your help should start there....Make her feel that even if she doesn't have a relationship it doesn't mean she will be alone! Always be there for her, keep her company all the time especially if she's broken hearted and do worthwhile activity with her..just beware you might make her fall for you....:)
2006-10-26 13:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by marguerite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By having her look at the issue from way back when she was little. To understand our fears we also have to understand where they originated from. In my case it was extreme fears of dogs---I looked at my childhood, the fact that I got bitten repeatedly, and from there I could work my way back into not being afraid of dogs no longer, to the point of having a dog myself.
If your friend is willing to look at her childhood in order to see what triggered her fear of being alone, then she has a chance. Because our fears actually get us to act accordingly, and then we do get exactly that. I have a friend who is extremely scared of being alone and single---and she is 31 one now and still single. It is almost as if her fear caused her to end up single. She doesn't want to look at her past and so there was nothing I could do to help her. If your friend cannot work on her fears then she might be able to have a counselor help her.
2006-10-26 20:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to make her be single is to drug her and surgically close her vagina.
Then no man will want her, and she'll be forced to be single.
Mission accomplished.
2006-10-26 20:28:14 · answer #3 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may well need counseling. It more than likely is because she feels she's not a good person deep down inside.
2006-10-26 20:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not really anything to do but you could have her do The Landmark Forum, it would probably benefit her experience of being with herself.
What she is doing is normal - many people do it.
2006-10-26 20:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by zigzagidiot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.......im kinda the same way.....me and my bf just recently broke up and he was my first love and such....and im afraid to get as close......the best thing i can tell you is that she has to slowly try things on her own.......relax and stuff....then gradually spend more weeks by herself.....for me its the other way around......my friend is telling me to take things slowly that i have to work on it myself.....so i guess she has to do the same.......take it one step at a time.
2006-10-26 20:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Carlino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a life... or a best friend boy or girl
2006-10-26 20:08:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
involve her in something where she can have more friends. that's probably why she's clingy.
2006-10-26 20:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by justagirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hook her up with a desperate pal.
2006-10-26 20:09:08 · answer #9 · answered by Sydney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋