i broke up with him august 20th (the day before i started school) because he would go long periods of time ignoring me (first the whole summer, than a month) and i need a little bit more attention than that. he didn't care but came the very next day to pick up his stuff at my house. we are still friends (emailing). on tuesday, he asked if i wanted to go to the fair with him cuz none of his friends wanted to go. i was bored so i said yes. on the drive there we talk like old friends and have a blast. then when we were walking in the fairgrounds, he holds my hand. i jerked my hand out of his and explained that we are no longer dating. his excuse was "i know". then while we were in line for a ride, he starts hugging me and gets all touchy feely. i again say that he cant do that anymore and that it makes me uncomfortable. he dosen't think so. this reoccured the whole night. when he dropped me off, i was on my guard so he couldn't kiss me, but he says he misses me and wants me back. help?
2006-10-26 12:51:45 · 8 answers · asked by Jugglingmidget06 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's nothing to do with you personally. He's horny and lonely and has no one else to fool around with.
Who cares what he wants. What do you want?
2006-10-26 12:54:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Decisions, decisions... You need to consider is your relationship worth reconciling? In other words, do you think it's gonna be the same drama all over again? I'm not saying that he doesn't miss you or whatever, but I'mma tell you from personal experience. If you take a man back, he's not gonna change. Taking him back only lets him know that he can get away with what he did and more now! I had a boyfriend that we were on and off break up and make up.. he used to say sorry I ain't gonna do this and that, and each time I took him back he did more and then some, and I finally had enough and it wasn't a good ending at all. The red flags were there that he wasn't no good but the sweet talkin had me dumb and blind. People are hard to change honey, and if you're young there are pleanty of fish in the sea. If he wasn't paying you no attention then, someone was getting his attention. But you need to ask yourself is it worth going through it all over again? If it is, proceed with caution, and if not, let it go honey. I'm not hatin on either decision, but really think about it though.. PS: A man isn't gonna get y ou back by being mean so he has no choice but to be nice.. but how long do you think it will last? Think about it honey.
2006-10-26 12:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. PHILlis (in training) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep playin not so easy to get this time.....;)
He needs to change a lot of things about him self. One thing that really stood out to me in what you wrote was he called you "cuz none of his friends wanted to go" Ummm...BIG NO NO!
Make him prove himself to you if there's even anything to prove.
When I was younger, my boyfriend of 7 years was a lot like that. Take my advice sweety. Don't let 7 years get away from you before you realize you are nothing but his "In between fun times"
It's a very sad way to live and an even more sad realization.
Get out and live!
T
2006-10-26 12:58:45 · answer #3 · answered by ~*bUtteRFy~*~kISSeS*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and talk to him and ask him why he thinks it is okay to ignore you for long periods of time and tell him how you feel. Once this happens it may be easier to decide whether you want to get back with him or not.
2006-10-26 12:55:59 · answer #4 · answered by Melinda 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it really bothers you--just don't be friends with him anymore. When you're with him, make sure that you don't give him any reason to hug you or kiss you or make you feel uncomfortable.
2006-10-26 12:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its one of the hardest lessons one learns...you do not realize what you have till its gone...It is up to you if you want to take him back, however, I believe that most likely he will "behave" for a while and then fall right back into his old patterns of not giving you the attention you want.
2006-10-26 12:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by Renee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on.
2006-10-26 12:54:08 · answer #7 · answered by Sue Chef 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's desperate
2006-10-26 12:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋