My daughter is 7 and she doesn't want to ride the school bus anymore.. she is biracial (i'm mexican & my husband is black).. kids usually tease her about this.. how do I make her feel better about her ethnic background? Thanks**
2006-10-26 12:49:04 · 13 answers · asked by ♥ Ali ♥ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
First of all, not to spoil her, but can someone drive her to and from school?
To make her feel better tell her how beautiful she is. Comment on the things that make her unique constantly, inside and out.
When she knows and believes she is wonderful and beautiful, no one can touch her. But kids are evil and school buses are NOT supervised. A bus driver is like a machine. Not a caregiver. Sometimes there is a monitor, but still inside of a moving vehicle.
Best wishes. Just give her TONS of love!!!
2006-10-26 12:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by Sleek 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Reassure her that she is special just the way she is, educate her about her ethnic background, tell her that the kids that are teasing her don't necessarily know any better, and encourage her to make friends with them. If you have to, drive her to school for a little while until she is comfortable again. But above all let her know that you love her no matter what. I'm so glad I don't have that problem, the kids around here are too mixed to say anything anyway!
2006-10-26 20:03:02 · answer #2 · answered by mamitasaritabendita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I find it very odd that your child would be getting picked on because of her race. ( Ignore the asshole who told you you did not think before having her. Obviously he has not been out in a while. A Mexican-black baby is very common. And we are all human.) But i really doubt that's why she is being picked on. For one i dont think it is that different for kids that are in grade school to see races like this or even know the difference. Sometimes parents use this as an excuse for there child. Chances are your child is being picked on for something entirely different or maybe even being a little **** herself. And kids get picked on everyday no matter what the race that's is life and part of growing up but if it makes you feel better inform the school.
2006-10-26 20:30:51 · answer #3 · answered by Kari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id ask the bus driver or maybe other friends on the bus about what exactly has been happening!!
Your daughter will be a beauty when she grows up and u need to stop any teasing/bullying now so she doesnt grow up hating herself or developing a complex about her ethnicity!!
Id say talk to her about famous people or maybe someone she mite idolise who mite be biracial as well!!
Does she like Mariah Carey!?!?
She suffered alot growing up biracial.. maybe show her how she overcame her struggles!!
2006-10-26 19:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
heres what i would do.
tell your daughter that no matter what the other kids say she is still a normal girl on the inside. what she looks like doesnt matter because she is the best lil girl ever. just because she isnt a white kid like the rest of the poeple on the buss dont mean she is any less of a person. tell her to be happy that she is who she is not embarrased she is different. also instill in her head that race is just a superficial thing its whats on the inside that counts and she she be proud to be a human. also tell her she is more beautiful than all the other kids because she is mexican/black and you wouldnt wante her anyother way.
also you might want to talk to some of the hillbilly morons whos kids are on the buss and tell them to teach their kids some goddamn respect. i mean what the hell its been 10 years since i was 7 and back then all we did was tease girls for having cooties and now this sh!t. some parents now arent fit to have children if they cant raise them to function in a real sociaty.
2006-10-26 19:56:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should inform the bus driver or somebody who can talk to the bus driver. The driver should put a stop to this.
As for your daughter, let her know that there are some people who act mean and will make fun of you. If it's not about one thing, it will be something else. They will even make up something to make fun of. They just want to get her upset.
If she can, the best thing is to ignore it, NEVER act upset. If she acts upset one time out of ten, they'll want to keep it up. (As a child I was rarely made fun of, because I didn't react; but my daughter couldn't manage this.) Another way to cope is a sense of humor. A sense of humor will make her feel better about herself.
2006-10-26 20:02:32 · answer #6 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously i dont know your child, but in most cases the childern arn't picked on because of one differance,its normally because they haven't socially fitted in straight away this could be because she is shy or just not very good at making friends in the class room environment, it can be very intimidating, and childern will team up to feel safer then pick on the poeple that look like an easy target or people who wouldnt challange them back. there is not much you can do to stop it, although you shouldn't let your daughter see that your wound up about it as she will then think she is doing something wrong, and feel worse inside when there is nothing wrong with your parenting at all.
sorry i cant be of further help.
all the best in the future.
chris.
2006-10-26 19:59:44 · answer #7 · answered by chris f 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You had your child out of love. It was you and your Husbands decision to have babies. The world is not a nice place all of the time. Especially for kids. Educate your child, and the rest will fall into place.
2006-10-26 19:51:39 · answer #8 · answered by drkstr1973 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm......... Thats a hard one. Just keep encouraging her. Tell her she is beautiful, and exotic looking. And the kids will be jealous of her as she grows up, cause she has something the other kids dont. Teach her aobut prejudices and how kids learn that from their parents. Good luck
2006-10-26 19:52:35 · answer #9 · answered by christycearley 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the school principal. Most schools have a zero tolerance policy about harrassment.
2006-10-26 20:05:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋