whenever we want to know anything about them its like there scared. Once u talk to them and you kind of get to know them and you say stupid things its never the same anymore i hate that its so stupid. why do they have to be like that???
2006-10-26 12:48:50 · 20 answers · asked by Evelyn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's not LIKE they're scared...they ARE scared. i have discovered that the most effective way (idk if it's the only way but it works best for me) to talk to guys is to make it clear you have no romantic interest in them. if they know you like somebody else, if you're taken, they'll be much more open, especially if you're in their circle of friends or just friends with their friends. and most of the time they'd just rather talk about other things...but if you give them the impression that you won't mind if they talk obsessively about jessica alba (or a hot girl in their english class) they'll talk more easily. obviously it also depends on the guy. but either way you might wanna start with a topic more similar to video games and less like girls. also if you ask them in a questioning way, not "do you think i'm hot" more like "what do guys think is hot" then they'll be less likely to put their guard up.
maybe this wasn't the answer you were looking for, but it's what i've found out about guys and i hope it helps ^-^
2006-10-26 12:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by fireflower413 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they're stupid dead beats who don't know how to treat a woman let alone talk to one. We get nervous some times and intimidated. Some times your questions are tough. But we still love our girls. Nothing beats having a one and only. Some of us guys yes even the straight ones (I'M straight) enjoy being around our female friends more then the guys why? Because it's interesting seeing and hearing the female view on things. I hope this helps. To the guys you're talking about dump them all and get some real friends. I'm available.
2006-10-26 12:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we act scared because u ladies leave us for other men cause u dont like who we realy are (the stupid people u see after we oepn up to u), if u ladies stuck around for a while and not juge us on our silly actions u might just see ur 1st image of a great guy who u asked out is still there. so do us a favor and act stupid and silly with us for a while then get serious!!!
2006-10-26 12:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by Big L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women not all cannot help but using a guys inner mysterys against him .
Men are very forgiving of women who say stupid things with the execption of misandry
you should google misandry
2006-10-26 12:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by bolounit1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experiences, women want men to open up, and then at the first arguement, they take those private, personal things and throw it in their face. That's why. You touch a hot pan once, it burns. You learn from your mistakes. But don't classify it as ALL men.
2006-10-26 12:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
a lot of guys are scared. they don't want rejection any more than you do. then it becomes silly because no one wants to take the real risk of putting down the barriers. but believe me there are real guys out there who will take the risk as long as they perceive that the girl is genuine
2006-10-26 12:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by zander 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Key words: "you say stupid things"
Live and learn. Say less. Don't push too hard too fast...there is plenty of time for deep convos when there is some level of commitment. Until that time, lighten up...have some fun~
2006-10-26 12:53:34 · answer #7 · answered by Annamaria 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you said stupid things, it just means that he has a good memory. I know some girls that have that same memory, so it's not just us guys.
2006-10-26 12:51:20 · answer #8 · answered by Rex 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they are thinking with the wrong head.
2006-10-26 12:53:26 · answer #9 · answered by sheeny 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
because we're cool
and because some guys think that acting stupid is cool
or because we just can't help it
2006-10-26 12:52:01 · answer #10 · answered by roman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋