daughters13 shes been invited to go dirt bike riding at her boyfriends home?

Question

parents will be home dads a policeman ...my golden rule is u have to be 16 to date what do u think is this a date and or am i just being old fashion post some age close to what u may be please lost good mom here ty

Answer 1

I don't have children but my mom didn't allow me to date until I was 16. This was a GOOD THING!!! I believe that when you date you are looking for your future partner at 13 you don't know enough about yourself or about what you would need to make that kind of decision. On top of that the earlier you let your child dates statistically speaking the earlier they'll have sex. It's a dangerous thing to do especially in our society. You have to fight a battle about weather you want to be a good friend or a good mom, I'm sure she has enough friends! She might hate you now but she'll thank you in the future. Stick to your guns MOM!! Good Luck on this. I was a nightmare at 13 hoping your daughters not as bad as I was!!

Answer 2

I would say it was entirely up to you. On the road, you are a hazard to others, but on a dirt bike you are mostly only a hazard to yourself, so I'd leave it up to you. I've heard that some epileptics can feel when they're going to have a seizure. I've never had one so I wouldn't know. But if you could feel them coming on, at least you might have enough time to stop and pull over. I think that in general we should all do as much as we can in life, we shouldn't let medical conditions stop us from living as full a life as we can. Whether the fun and fulfillment is worth the added risk is a decision only you can make.

Answer 3

13 is too young to have a boyfriend. Either you have the rule or you don't. I think 14 for group activities, 15 double dates, 16 single dates.

You may be able to make an exception because it is at the home, but I would call the parents, check it out and let them know you don't want it to be a date.

Answer 4

I honestly would not let her go on a date yet. I mean, she's only 13 and is probably not ready for that kind of closeness and commitment with a boy yet. Age 16 is a great time to begin dating because your kids are (most of the time) mature and ready to come into a close relationship with someone else. Plus, they can drive.

I'm not saying that your daughter shouldn't be hanging out with her boyfriend; I'm just saying that she MAY be a little too young to already be going to his house for obvious reasons. A school dance or class trip is enough for young teenagers.

Answer 5

I don't consider going to a boyfriend's house a "date," especially if the parents are going to be at home. My mother never placed dating restrictions on me and, instead, was very open with me about the dangers and joys of sexuality. As a result, I, as a child, made the decision to stay a virgin until, at the very least, high school graduation. Honestly, I knew I wasn't ready even then, and it was some time after that I did lose it, but I knew what I was getting into.

At your daughter's age, I had a boyfriend with whom I spent most of my afternoons. I was always at his house and vice versa, and we never even kissed until we were older. Let her go--it's just dirt bike riding, and if she's a good girl, she won't do anything stupid. :)

-Sophomore in college who was trusted by her mother

Answer 6

If she has a boyfriend and she is 13, how is she not already dating? Sounds like you're a little confused. You don't achieve maturity magically at any age, let alone 16. Make sure she's supervised and make sure she feels like she can talk to you about boys and sex and ask whatever questions she wants and she'll be fine. Being open with her and involved is the best way to keep her safe.

Answer 7

I'm 15. I think it's OK. Especially if her parents are there (and you trust them), then it's more like hanging out, going dirt bike riding. She's gonna want to go to guys houses to just hang out anytime now, and depriving her of it will only make her want to sneak out or tell lies to you. My mom is pretty leanient (sp?) about these things, and I ALWAYS tell her whats going on...whos house I'll be at, if there will be adults etc. I feel like I can be more open with her. I hope that helps!

Answer 8

well..i am 14...and you let her have a boyfriend, but they cant do anything outa school...i say this isnt a date...the rents(sorry, parents) will be ther and the dads a police officer so how bad could it be? you can talk to your daughter about all the details too..and if you feel comfortable with what she tells you...go for it!

if other people/friends will be there...its fine...my ma says i cant date until im 16 too..but she says if i go out with my bf as a group date than its fine...so maybe try that...hope i helpd and sorry if you think im too young and didnt want me to answer your question

Answer 9

I would agree that unless an adult is going to be part of the dirt bike riding, I wouldn't want her to be riding with her bf. There's no telling where they might head to and what may go on during the ride.

Answer 10

Have you met the parents? If you have and feel you can trust them then I'd say O.K. It's more of a play date, which we let our adolescents attend, don't we? If you haven't met the parents then I would suggest you do so. Anyhow, this is a chaperoned affair like a school dance, etc. I think it would be fine. I'd like to think that his parents are as responsible as you are. Good luck.