..he has a lot going on in his life with his family his parents got a divorce yr ago bc the mom was seein someone, she has a ring on her finger already, he just got laid off..and the mom put him and his brother in a hotel so she can remodel the house ..and the guy remodeling their house is her bf..when i met him he was into the rock scene..his brother is in a band..so i got him out of it..and for four months he went on not drinking, doing drugs, or anything..recently when all this started happening with his family he started drinkin every night ..then it lead to going out all night to after hours clubbing..and when i talk to him about it..he says bear with me..and there is only so much i can take..i already have a brother that is a drug addict and i dont want to go thru this..but i love him so much and when he says that he doesnt want to do that stuff its just the situation and everything comin together..he cries and is depressed..but i dont know what to do..i feel so helpless
2006-10-26 12:26:46 · 15 answers · asked by luckystar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are an enabler, and he does not care about you. The quicker you get that through your head the better. But...this is probably not the first guy to treat you like crap. People who drugs are selfish I should know I was one. Until he helps himself there is nothing you can say or do, and when you leave (I hope) he will just find somebody else who will pander to his needs. Don't be "that girl" what a waste.
2006-10-26 12:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend has a problem and needs help. If you love him as much as you do then help him get the help he needs. Give him an ultimatum if he doesn't get help then you bail. But you have to be firm. I was once involved with a drug addict and let me tell you it doesn't get any easier. Next thing you know, your valuables disappear. I eventually left and now I live a wonderful life with my husband who doesn't drink or do drugs. Its an awful situation to be in but there is hope IF he is willing to get help. If not then the relationship is doomed. Good Luck.
2006-10-26 12:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no excuse for doing drugs or drinking that is a real reason. all it does is allow you to hide from facing things head on and getting them dealt with. get him into treatment or move on before it has a real negative effect on you and your life. if all you do is stand by and watch you are just enabling a distructive behavior.
best of luck.
2006-10-26 12:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
was he a musician and you got him "out of it"? Nice.
Also: Cokeheads lie. A lot. Keep that in mind. There is about a 99% chance that you can't save him. If he's weighing you down, accept the fact that he has to sort out his own sh** for himself, and move on, girl, move on.
2006-10-26 12:30:27 · answer #4 · answered by Eva Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slap em upside da heeade
dat brr gettin emsruf in sum srrius prolemz.
don bea whoofn up dat good stuff cuz u need the enrgi, u naw wud i meen sun?
2006-10-26 12:31:57 · answer #5 · answered by blahhblahhhblahahh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a train wreck, there is only so much you can do, leave him and don't bother anymore
there is a difference between dating a guy that needs a little straightening out and a guy who keeps going crooked
2006-10-26 12:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just love these complicated ridiculously-long, meandering, single-sentence questions that no one can possibly answer! How the hell can we offer any kind of reasonably good response when we have no idea about the situation?
2006-10-26 12:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't get dragged down into his losing world...he may say he doesn't want to do the stuff, but that's just it with addicts...they say they want to stop and don't...the best thing you can do for him is to leave him and tell him you'll be there for him once he stops permanently...if you see him do it again, you're not staying with him
2006-10-26 12:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by Rex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, for crying out loud... Just leave the loser alone, and get with a good guy.
2006-10-26 12:29:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try to get him to stop or find someone else. how noes, one morning you can wake up and he die by an overdose or something
2006-10-26 12:32:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋