Is it less of a date if we go for a coffee instead of a drink in a bar? It seems to me like she's trying to downgrade this encounter from date to friendly meeting. What do you think? Have any girls out there done the same?
2006-10-26 12:11:46 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is absolutely not true. I for a fact prefer coffee instead of a drink in a bar, simply because the environment in the bar may be a bit noisy for me to get to know the other person. Places like Starbucks offer a great, calm environment to sit back, enjoy coffee, and talk over nothingness. My date and I used to sit at coffee place with vanilla latte and newspapers spread before us. I would rate that date as so much better than other dates where I had to go to places just because other people thought were better 'date' places.... It's the company and communication, buddy. It's something more than the place and surface of it all. At least, she tells you what she likes and doesn't tell you, no... so, don't think too much about it.
2006-10-26 12:17:23 · answer #1 · answered by counterculturalist 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she would like to start a relationship not in a bar, maybe she just isn't a big drinker, or there is a reason she doesn't drink. If I were you I would be flattered that she wants to have an actual conversation with you in a place you can really communicate. If you just want to get her drunk and sleep with her you should cancel on the coffee thing. It's not a downgrade- I think she is interested.
2006-10-26 12:15:39 · answer #2 · answered by therealprinsess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I reckon she's trying to class the outing up a bit. She might have high hopes for you and doesn't want to see herself telling people the first date you guys had was a pub crawl. I don't think a coffee is a downgrade from a drink. It is more intimate and you are almost guaranteed no interruption, whereas a drink you are likely to be approached by drunk people who have had thier normal social inhibitions broken down by alcahol.
2006-10-26 12:15:29 · answer #3 · answered by RED 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't. Your idea of a date may be different from her's. Or maybe she doesn't drink. Is this your first date with this girl? If yes than I wouldn't have asked her to go drinking in the first place. What kind of a date is that? Going to a bar and getting drunk?
2006-10-26 12:15:10 · answer #4 · answered by Lien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is most likely she does not like the bar scene, and/or does not drink. Why not look up a fine coffee house? She would probably be more comfortable there. You will enjoy the atmosphere just as much, and there won't be a bunch of drunken stoops stumbling out the door at closing! Consider her suggestion a "yes" to asking her out! :-)
2006-10-26 12:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by LARGE MARGE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always turn down dates when the guy ask me to go to a bar and drink. I'm not a partier. I use to be when i first turned 21, then I grew up after my husband got messed up on drugs, and went drinking and driving and hit an innocent person. My husband passed away that night and the innocent women was OK. Maybe she has a similar story to mine and doesn't like to go to bars.
2006-10-26 12:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by Brandi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She just said "I'll date you but not have sex with you". Usually going out at night and having drinks at a bar leads to something. If you're having coffee you just chat for awhile, have coffee and then go do your thing.
2006-10-26 12:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, this sign doesn't mean she wants to be friends. It's possible she doesn't like to drink a whole lot, and rather perfer coffee. I would perfer coffee instead of beer. It depends on the person, and this lady rather have coffee. Don't let this put you down, and politley ask her, if she likes to drink. It's okay if she doesn't.
2006-10-26 12:14:22 · answer #8 · answered by shewolf2899 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she doenst like the bar atmosphere- or where it generally leads- a bar isnt neccessarily the best place to get to know someone and maybe she would rahter go somewhere where she can talk to you first and decide if she trusts you enough to go to a bar- I know i got asked out to a club for a first date and I said no maybe something else - its not less of a date but more of a date to go somewhere you can actually hear each other ....
2006-10-26 12:16:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look at it as a "downgrade". It's a cautious response, is all.
If it's the first time you've been out, I think she's just trying to keep it safe & simple.
It would definitely be my choice. If I didn't like the guy, I'd be busy until he got sick of asking, or just say, Thanks, but no thanks.
If I liked him, but wasn't sure if we'd be compatible, I'd do exactly what she has done. Where it goes from there is up to you...and the chemistry. Relax, be yourself & enjoy each other's company.
Best of luck!
2006-10-26 12:19:43 · answer #10 · answered by belmyst 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋