And they think women are confusing! I've always kinda liked a co-worker of mine but wasn't able to express my feelings thinking 'what if he has a girlfriend' or 'what if he doesn't like me'. To my surprise (about a month ago) he expressed interest in me. After saying what he had to say..he also told me that he has a girlfriend. That was some disappointment. What confuses me is that even now he tells me things like...'I really like you' and 'this isn't just some harmless flirting' etc. He talks to me when he wants to and ignores me at other times. Seems like he wants to be with me but he doesn't want to leave his girlfriend either. He has talked about meeting me outside of work but that has never happened. He stood me up twice when I asked him to meet me. Just what exactly could be on his mind? I really like him too but I'm confused about what to do. Is he worth waiting for or am I just wasting my time on somebody who can't make up his mind?
2006-10-26 12:10:10 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His problem is he has a girlfriend, and with you he's testing the waters, know what I mean, his relationship with his girlfriend might be rocky from time to time, and he might look at you as a way out, you need to be blunt with him, and the next time he flirts or comes on to you, you need to tell him, "I ain't messing with you till your single" and cut him off, it will drive him nuts, because he's comfortable around you, at first he will take it, as a diss, but it will make him re evaluate his relationship.
God Bless
2006-10-26 12:16:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very confusing and difficult for you because you are seeing the way you want to see, You like the guy and that is simple, for every move of his you give your meaning. He was honest and confessed about his girlfriend and this disappointed you because this was not what you wanted to hear. He likes you but he does not love you, there is a big difference between liking and loving. "Seems like he wants to be with me......" Is like you are reading his mind, are you two wired together? How do you know he wants you???It is again your interpretation because this is the way you want him to see you.
He is happy with his girlfriend leave him alone and stop the mind reading you are presently engaged in. He is not wasting his time, but you are reading things the way you want to...now tell me who is wasting the time???
2006-10-26 16:53:45 · answer #2 · answered by thachu5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you but is tied to his girlfriend. Don't wait for him. Play it cool with him. In fact, you might even tell him that when/if he leaves his girlfriend then to give you a call.
If you get involved with him, you could end up being the "other" woman. That just can't end well.
2006-10-26 12:14:09 · answer #3 · answered by Sabina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i should say that he has no interest in u but after he came to know from somewhere that u have interest in him he got along with u i would advise u to leave hin as he is just using u as a time pass and has nothing for u ......... i had also been through this once with 2 girls and in the end i had to leave them both...as they both liked somebody else..
2006-10-26 16:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by singhrahul2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are extremely easy to understand..women just have to try to dramatize even the most simple thing and make it confusing..what you need to do is be open..find out if he likes you and don't let it bother you so much
2006-10-26 12:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're wasting your time.
Obviously, he knows you like him and thinks he can keep you dangling for when/if he breaks up with his girlfriend.
If you think about it, you'll find that deep down you already know the answer.
How would you feel if you had a boyfriend who was doing that to you?
2006-10-26 12:14:04 · answer #6 · answered by Ericka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, guys say the exact same thing about women. It's funny, really.
I think you should probably weigh your options thouroughly. The best solution will present itself in time - you really don't need our advice on this page - it will mostly be drivel.
2006-10-26 12:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in keeping with possibility it extremely is the two--greater like a complicated simplicity. As a woman, i think of of issues in terms of relatedness: "X pertains to Y in this way, so i can't handle X till i be attentive to how i choose for to handle Y." I certainly have observed some adult males think of of issues in isolation: "X ought to be executed, so i visit do X now. Then if I might desire to handle Y, i visit flow that bridge once I come to it." the toughest component for me to understand is how adult males can think of of "no longer something". women are almost consistently questioning approximately something. If somebody asks me what i'm questioning and that i say, "no longer something", it ability, "i'm unlikely to talk approximately it with you at present." If somebody asks my husband what he's questioning and he says, "no longer something", it ability, "i'm no longer questioning of something and my suggestions is a sparkling slate." It bugs a super form of ladies to pay attention "no longer something" using fact we over study and can't be certain how that's conceivable that actual no theory enters a guy's suggestions.
2016-11-25 22:22:18 · answer #8 · answered by zorine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this same think has happened to me but with a girl..this guy told you that he has a girlfried but for me it was not like this..i had to evaluate and spy her to find the truth.First she told me that she is in love with me openly then she even agreed to marry me later ..she told me that she loves me but cannot marry me but she is ready to be my wife without marriage, sounds weird isn't but it happened so..so take care. She was never dating it was only scheduling.
2006-10-27 00:42:08 · answer #9 · answered by Tinku T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on he makes it obvious that he belongs 2 some 1 else & if he is thinking of cheating on her he will cheat on u. his ego is really big & he needs attention @ work & home don't be his work tease. u deserve some 1 that belongs 2 u & only u. don't settle 4 seconds....
2006-10-26 12:14:59 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. San 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋