Im scared of something going wrong with my baby.?

Question

I have had 7 pregnancies and only 1 child never had a stillbirth or a late miscarrige. Im now nearly 26 weeks and im so scared, i keep hearing of people still losing their babies at 32 weeks etc. Is there no safey point.Will I be better off asking for a section if I will be allowed one? Why do babies die?

I forgot to say i had bleeding at 7 weeks the doctors thought i may have miscarried a twin, also i have had bleeding at 9, 12 and 17 weeks. Then I got an infection at 18 week, had no bleeding of pains since then. Im just really really nervous. To all the ladies that have had their Angels taken back, I admire you, I really do. x

Answer 1

Lisa, put your baby in God's hands. Completely. Trust God and not the fact that you lost so many babies. After you have put him or her in His hands, tell the LORD how bad you want to be a mom again and tell Him that you really really want to care for this child who ultimately belongs to Him and take Him at His Word that "whatsoever you ask in prayer, believing, you shall receive." Matthew 21:22
God bless you honey. I have a one week old angel sleeping on my bed now and your question and answers and the answer from the lady who lost a 3 week old (plus my hormones!!) have me crying - - - all is well, honey, no fear, okay! no fear.

Answer 2

You will generally be the first to know if something is wrong. Remember to do your kick counts...your baby should be far enough along that you can feel her kicking. Every so often, lay down, and count the kicks...you should get about 10 in an hour. If you don't OR if the baby suddenly starts kicking much more than usual (as in, frantically), go to your doctor to be safe. Ask your doctor to do a BPP (bio-physical profile)...this will assess the oxygen flow, general health, weight, and whatnot of your baby (I had to have one when I had bleeding and early dilation at 32 weeks...for the record, I gave birth at 41 weeks to a ridiculously strong, healthy girl).
If you've never had a stillbirth or late miscarriage, please try not to worry. Once you make it to 20 weeks, your chances of losing the baby are miniscule. My sister-in-law was born at 26 weeks, and that was 19 years ago, and, although she was in the hospital for a while after she was born, she has had no lingering problems and is quite intelligent (she does have diabetes, but that's a family disease).
Although there is no reason to be truly worried, your doctor may permit a c-section before term, but ONLY if s/he feels that the baby has sufficiently matured. The earliest they will usually do this is 37 weeks unless there is something indicating it should be done sooner.
I do not know why babies die. It's a tragedy whenever it happens, whether in the first trimester, the third, or at birth. My mother-in-law lost three babies in the third trimester or right at birth, but she has diabetes, smoked through the pregnancies, and ended up having children with PROFOUND deformities that were known before birth (if your doctor hasn't found anything wrong with your baby yet, there probably ISN'T anything wrong with him/her). Different people have different ways of coping with and/or rationalizing it. I miscarried my baby's twin at 7 weeks, and I still don't know why it happened - I won't pretend to have those answers for you. What I believe may not be your belief, but, I pray that all goes well for you and your little one this time.

Answer 3

I know how u feel hun... I lost a baby girl before i eventually had my tw0 gorjus girls!!
The pain is unbearable but all u can do is hope and pray that this time u can keep ur lil angel with u!!
As i read above, sometimes they are that special God does want them back as they must have a higher calling!
All ur babies are smiling down on u hun, they will help u thru whatever happens!!
Im praying for u and ur in my thoughts!!
Keep smiling and try not to stress!! Children are a blessing and we should thank our lucky stars that we have em!!
Even if they are only a memory!! :)

Answer 4

Even if your child were born today, the overwhelming odds are that it would survive. By 26 weeks you are in the safety zone. Mine was born at 28 weeks, and she is the healthiest, smartest kid I have known. Tops out academically, is in karate, chess and piano. Never has had an ear infection, and amazes me daily.

Answer 5

You shouldn't ask for a section.

The doctor will recommend it if he/she thinks it's medically necessary. Otherwise, a new study shows that women who deliver surgically are three times more likely to die during or immediately after childbirth, and their children are more likely to die or experience problems as well. This is true even after the data are corrected to rule out high-risk pregnancies, etc.

I don't mean to scare you off a C-section if you need one. Both of my children were delivered via C-section because of complications and a skeletal abnormality of mine, and they were fine, as was I. In my case, the risks of bearing them vaginally outweighed the risks of the surgery. (I had preeclampsia in both pregnancies. My first labor was induced at 37 weeks because of skyrocketing BP. My labor lasted 52 hours, with 3 hours of pushing, and she was stuck in the birth canal and experiencing distress. When they opened me up, it took 4 hands and a vacuum extractor to get her out. She was stuck against a protruding bone, and her head was being crushed. The second time, my BP went up, and they couldn't induce because of the previous C-section, plus the pelvic issue was still there, so we scheduled the surgery.)

Do you trust your doctor and respect his/her judgement and experience? If so, rely on his/her opinion. In most cases, babies at your stage of development do fine, and are better off born naturally.

It's scary being 100% responsible for another life. But remember: biologically, birthin' babies is what we were meant to do. And here in the US, maternal/fetal deaths for women with good medical care are, thankfully, relatively rare.

Answer 6

You are a very Sweet soul,don't worry.If you wouldn't mind I just want to jot a prayer for you.God you have woven a beautiful child in her womb,I pray for your protection for this angel baby,that you would let no harm ever come to this one.Have your hedge of protection all around mom and baby.I thank you for your hand and breath that will give mom peace,and set this baby's and moms angels to encamp all around them.I pray this in Jesus name.Just rest in Him now no more worries you beautiful momma

Answer 7

ask your obgyn and call down your baby can feel your stress and every other emotion. your in a good place right now you made it to 26 weeks relax each week the baby is stronger and your one week closer to the birth try and relax and tell your doctor your concerns

Answer 8

hi babe you gotta stop worrying i now that's easy er said than dun but you don't wanna stress ya self out try to relax and enjoy you re pregnancy i now its a very scary time for you at the moment but try not to let other peoples story's scare you hope every thing go's well for you Hun enjoy the rest of ya pregnancy good luck Hun x

Answer 9

Don't stress! That's a big key! A baby will miscarry if it isn't strong enough, or something wrong with it. Don't worry right now, be happy, and think positvely. Talk with your doctor to make sure you are doing everything you can.

Goodluck!

Answer 10

You are putting yourself at a higher risk by worrying, kick back and relax and enjoy your pregnancy, once the baby comes you'll need that energy and imagination to keep him/her entertained.