I am a 28 year old pediatrician and my husband is a 32 year old cardiologist, we have been married for 4 years and were dating and living together for 7 years before we got married. We just bought a nice family house 2 years ago, but we have no children. We are considering adoption because that has always been our first choice for starting a family, we are mostly likely going to adopt from the Ukraine or China but we aren't sure how many children we want to have (I want 3 and he wants 1). Do you think 3 children is to many and do you think 1 child will get lonely with out any siblings ? How many children do you have / want to have ? Have you ever adopted ?
Thank You for all your help :)
2006-10-26 11:50:52 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It dosen't matter how many you have. It matters how much you love them. One child won't be lonely for a siblings. You don't miss what you've never had. If you feel that three is the magic number for you then, by all means go for it. I think adoption is such a wonderful thing. You are given the gift of choosing those special little angles that will become such a vital part of your life and family. We have two children and for us that was our magic number, we have a boy and a girl. They are 15 months apart and are as close as twins. Even now in their teens, they are as close as twins. I see familys with one child, two, three or even seven, eight or nine children and the one thing I see, is that their parents love each and every child and have the time for each and everyone of them. You sound like you are ready to be parents, I have no doubt that you will be wonderful loving, caring parents. What more could any child ever want! So I have to say that it makes no difference the number, go with your heart and you won't go wrong! God Bless and all the best to you!
2006-10-26 12:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by Yvonne D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am only 20 and I have 7 younger siblings, I love it, I want to have lots of kids. I asked my Mum one day how she coped, I was surprised by her response, she said the first 3 are the hardest. She went on to tell me that once the rest came along, we became more responsible and we pulled our own weight without her asking we would just get up and help. She also told me that she wishes that she had have had more kids. Mum and Dad are now thinking of becoming a foster parents!!
I think that the more you have the less selfish everyone in the family is, and the more special Christmas, Easter & Birthdays become. I love the fact that I have such a large family, and do not in anyway feel like I have missed out, if anything it has helped to get me where I am now. I have been traveling the USA for 12 months (I come from Australia) and when I return home I will be going to uni to study secondary school teaching.
I don't know what I would do without my brothers & sisters I love them so much and miss them even more, I can't wait to see them and see how they have grown.
Oh my family isn't some freaky religious family and we are not any more wealthy than the next person. Common misconceptions!!!
2006-10-26 17:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
3 children is definitely not too many. I know plenty of families who have 4 or more and they are great. I also know other families who only have 1 and they, too, are great. The number of children for a family is a personal thing, not an absolute. Most only children do not grow up lonely because they are used to being alone and keeping themselves occupied. If anything, there's a greater tendency for them to be introverts and wanting to be alone.
I have 2 children. This works well for us. But if we had a 'surprise', we would be fine with that, too.
2006-10-26 11:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by glurpy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I'd say 2 children is the right number. I grew up in a family with 2 children, and it was a great dynamic. My sister and I never felt like either of us were getting more or less attention. It wasn't too expensive to travel or do activities because there was only 2 of us. Plus, we still had the camaraderie that comes with being siblings. Big families are way overrated in my opinion.
2006-10-26 12:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by Rayslittlegurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you and your husband both have good jobs, having 3 children would not present any financial problem. Why not adopt a needy child from your area. I know that there are many children abroad that need families or have families that cannot provide for them, but, aren't there any children in your area that are in need of families also?
2006-10-26 12:04:25 · answer #5 · answered by ♥cinnamonmj♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have one child, and don't plan on anymore. I grew up in a family of 16 children. I guess the "right" number of children depends on the family. Why not compromise and adopt 2? There won't be too many, and they won't be lonely. Good Luck!!
2006-10-26 12:25:51 · answer #6 · answered by missyhardt 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think three is not a good number. Think about it. When you have three children, it's always two against one. Human nature. One is nice, at least to start out with. People say only children are lonely, but not necessarily.
They often have more friends than children with siblings.
Two is nice, but then you tend to have polarity. One child goes to extremes to NOT be like the other, etc.
Four is really nice, as long as they are not too far apart. We have four, and the only problem has been that the oldest is a lot older than the other three, so he has often felt like an odd man out.
If your children are 4-5 years apart, or more, then each one of them tends to grow up as an "only" child.
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2006-10-26 12:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think 3 kids are a good number as long as you can afford that many and have time for that many. We have my 3 step sons living with us ages 6,4,and 3 and a 10 month old daughter plus I am about 25 weeks pregant.I really only wanted 2 kids but no one else wanted my boyfreinds 3 kids so we took them.I think 5 kids is alot but oh well.
2006-10-26 12:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 27 years old, married with one child. He is 5 years old. I would like to have one more. I miscarried last year at 5 weeks. I just got my records back from the doctor from when i had my son and it says i have a uterine septum and i think that is why i haven't had anymore kids. Can you answer that for me? Thanks if you do.
My son does ask me to have him a lil brother or sister. I myself have 5 sisters and 1 brother..
I think 2 is plenty. That is my opinion but some people like large familys.
My papa and mama had 21 kids. (I know so many) and my mom and daddy had seven kids.
It is your choice to have a certain # of kids.
Good luck
2006-10-26 15:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I first saw your question my thought was 2, to be inline with ZPG (zero population growth) but you are adopting. Can't be much help since I don't have any children but wanted to say you're awesome for adopting!
Congrats & whatever number you decide upon I am sure you will be happy!
2006-10-26 11:59:41 · answer #10 · answered by SJ_Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋