should i call her?

Question

about two months ago my x left me by using the " its not you its me" thing. i know she used it to be with another man but the another day i found something of hers and starting thinking about her. i feel like i never had a chance to get things off my chest before she left, do i call her or just keep moving on with my life like i have been going.

Answer 1

Whatever it is you found, throw it away, she has already bought another one I am sure. Breaking up is hard to do, believe me I know all about that, been there and done that and have the scars in my heart to to prove it. Please don't do this to yourself.

You are far better off going on with your life like you are. If there is any calling being done, let her be the one to do it, but don't hold your breath waiting for her to call, as it is highly unlikely.

Answer 2

Why don't you try to write down everything that you need to say to her. Then burn it. That way at least you keep your dignity and get the message out of your system. Also what works for me, is , and i know this sounds silly, but drawing charechers of the person. If you are pissed at them, say, because they haven't called, draw them with great big heads, banging a phone against their face as if not knowing how to use one! lol. Always makes me feel better. Just remember to throw it out after, incase they come over! lol. But i would say, and this is just my oppinion, that in your situation, don't call! Anything that you would say, you would only regret or question later. And by then it would be too late. Your dignity would be given away to your inpulse. Chances are that she might though. So be prepared for that just incase. And don't wait for it!!! Anyone worth waiting for would show themselves through their actions. (how they treat you, how much effort they put into being there, etc) Just do what you have to do, and keep your heart open. Cause while she may have not been suited for you, there's always other girls out there looking.

Answer 3

At this point sadly I think she might have forgotten about you. If she has not tried to get it back she might not have wanted it. Calling her may give her the wrong idea. She may think you want her back. Girls jump to conclusions real fast. Let it go. There are plenty of girls out there and I bet your a great guy. No girl uses that line on a guy unless he is a great guy. Moving on is the best way. I know how things can feel when you find exs stuff. I have been there. But the only way to not bring it up again is get ride of it.

Answer 4

Since you have unresolved thoughts. What you should do depending upon the severity of the break up. Is write her a letter. Put your thoughts on paper. If it was a harsh break up. Keep the letter. And later burn it as a sign of letting go when you are ready to let go and move on.

If it was a soft break up. Without the fighting and yelling... then send her the letter. And see if she writes you back. But make a copy of the letter. And send her the copy. Keep the original, and do the same with the letter when you are ready to let go. I hope this helps.

Answer 5

some things are better left undone and unsaid cause if they are done and said we can be hurt worse in the long run if i were u i would leave well enough be and see if she ever tries and talk to you again that is the time where u get that off of your chest cause that way you know that she will honestly be listening and caring and if she never comes back to talk to you or be with you then she was not worth it anyhow

Answer 6

If you think it would make you feel better, I say do it. I was with this guy for 2.5 years and we'd talk here and there (until his current fiancee told him not to call me anymore) and I used to ask him if he cheated on me because I had this gut feeling that he did. It was completly unresolved inside me and even though I don't believe him when he tells me to this day he never cheated, I was kind of glad I got to at least ask.

Answer 7

let go of the past. Move on. If you happen to see her somewhere be nice, say hi, keep it light and simply and be yourself. If she is interested in being friends you'll know then, until then have fun.

Answer 8

Just keep on moving Jason. You've started to get over your ex and if you look back it's just going to be that much harder to get over her. I say this from experience.

Answer 9

Don't call!!! It's over. Let it go. If you have something to say put it in a letter and burn it. Keep it moving...

Answer 10

No! Keep moving on with your life. Girls, we can be funny about what we want but if she really wanted to be with you she would have come back to you on her own.