my wedding is planned for next july. how i put or say that we do not need any gift? we live together and have everything that we need. how do9 i word that? will it be rude to request gift cards or cash?
2006-10-26 11:19:14 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
FATAL ETIQUETTE ERROR.....WARNING...WARNING...WARNING
There is not a way to word such a tacky tacky tacky request.
2006-10-26 13:26:57 · answer #1 · answered by treday25 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes, requesting gift cards or cash is one of the rudest things you can possibly do, as a couple getting married.
Gifts should not be mentioned AT ALL in your invitations, even is it is to say that you prefer not to receive any.
Everyone has a household full of stuff, not just you. That doesn't mean you get a free pass to do something rude like dictating/specifying/suggesting what sort of gifts you prefer. That decision is to be entirely made by the gift giver, not the gift recipient.
People remember rude bridal couples for generations. Don't do that to yourself. Plus, they will commemorate your faux pas at etiquettehell.com!
2006-10-28 20:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT ASK FOR CASH (a lot of people wish there was a non-tacky way to do it I'm sure, but there isnt!) - but you can register at a store for which you would like gift cards and register for few gifts. That way there wont be any gifts left when someone goes to the registry and they will probably just get you a gift card or cash.
2006-10-26 20:55:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is extremely rude to request gift cards or cash - don't do that!
If you TRULY don't want gifts, put a sentence somewhere at the bottom of the invitation like "Your presence will be your gift to us."
2006-10-27 07:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it would be rude to ask for gift cards or cash. People are allowed to give whatever they want it is called a GIFT. A gift is something that you get from a nice gesture. Ever heard "it is the thought that counts" Which means dont tell people what to get, register for gifts you want or need and tell your guests about the list. But they can still get what they want and they wont give you something nice or as much money if you tell them they have to get you money or a gift card! They will be offended, especially the older people.
2006-10-26 18:46:47 · answer #5 · answered by Educated 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You have to decide if you want no gifts or cash.
If you want no gifts, say "no gifts please" or "the gift of your company is the only one we require" on the invite.
If you want only cash or gift cards, don't register anywhere. When people call you up and ask where you registered, just say you didn't. Most of them will then give you cash or gift cards as a default.
2006-10-27 16:27:28 · answer #6 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know most people in your situation requests that any gifts be made to a specific charity. Let them know that there will not be a gift style reception. This will allow most people to at least lie that they gave and not feel too bad. Another is to tell them to give to a charity of their choosing and just send you a card to which. And yes requesting cash only is probably the biggest attendance killer of them all! It'll just be you and him and a few relatives that now think your weird.
2006-10-26 19:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by delux_version 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You cannot ask for gifts or include registry info in the invites. There is no tactful way to do that. You can register though and give the info (where you are registered) to your mom and bridesmaids so they can relay the info to anyone who asks. Most places you register will give you cards saying to put them in the invites. This is very rude practice however they can be included in the shower invites.
2006-10-26 23:09:16 · answer #8 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you can make a gift list with gift certificates on. say make a fund for something like a holiday, that people will be happier donating too. People will probably give money if they want to but alot of people are looking to buy you a gift. maybe, there is something of an in between present, like a computer, or camcorder or something like that. I've been to weddings where they have said 'please dont bring gifts, we'd rather you donate to .......... charity cos their need is greater than ours' and i've been to weddings with fun things on the list. games and toys. try and make a list with things on that you both want.
2006-10-26 18:24:06 · answer #9 · answered by maria h 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
First off, please don't put gift requests in the actual invitation.
It is appropriate to include a separate card in the envelope that has the response card, directions, etc.
You can say something like:
Your presence at our wedding is a gift in itself, however, we kindly request that if you are inclined to give a gift, please do so in the form of a monetary gift or gift card to the following stores: (list the stores)
-EZ
2006-10-26 19:21:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
not at all, though what i would say/do is put on the card "please don't give us any material gifts, we would prefer you either give us gift certificates or donate to a charity in out name" that way you're technically asking for money, but also being a good person. Hope that helped!
2006-10-26 18:22:46 · answer #11 · answered by getshorty 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋