When you lend someone something, is it rude for them to ask you to pick it up? Isn't it their responsibility to return it to you when requested?
Example: I have lent multiple things to a friend who lives in the same city but does have acar. Whenever i request her to return something, she says she cannot get it to me as it is basically an inconvience for her to take public transit over to me. I fnd this very annoying as it is just an inconvenient for me to go pick it up. She also does this when she requests to borrow something.
2006-10-26 11:19:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes, it IS rude. If you lend someone something, its their responsibility to get it back to YOU. I would have to tell them, NO, it would be best if you could just bring it back, Im not gonna have a chance to get over there. (That kind of sh*t pisses me right off.)
This person just expects ppl to do what they want. Sounds like no one has ever told them before. So, they keep getting away with it. Theyre lazy. Dont lend them anything else.
2006-10-26 14:28:15 · answer #1 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The person borrowing an item should make every effort to return that item, and the item should be returned in the same condition in which it was loaned (or better).
The ONLY example of which I could think would be in an instance where the person borrowing the item did not have reasonable transport for the return of the item and the person loaning the item knew that when the item was loaned - for example, if I were to loan someone a lawn mower and I had a trailer to pull that lawn mower and delivered the item, but knew the person borrowing it did not.
But only in situations where returning the item would cause an UNDUE hardship would I not consider this rude behavior.
2006-10-27 11:19:51 · answer #2 · answered by JenV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is totally rude! The borrower should pick up the item and return the item with the least amount of inconvenience for the lendee as possible!
2006-10-26 11:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by Agent99 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you. She should have the courtesy to show her appreciation by at least taking the responsibility of returning your items.
If I was in the situation, I would not lend her things unless I was prepared for and ok with, picking up the items myself. If it just plain annoyed me too much, I would just opt not to lend her items.
2006-10-26 11:29:19 · answer #4 · answered by Semi-charmed 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If she's your friend, tell her how you feel. Let her know it's an inconvience to for you to come get it. Although I understand her point of view of not having a car, and it probably just as easy for you to go pick it up.
If it bothers you say no, or only if you can come get it.
2006-10-26 11:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by DeAnna 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
neither a borrower nor a lender be. Live by that and you won't be waiting to get your stuff back. I you don't borrow you don't have to worry about how you'll get something back to the person you borrowed from
2006-10-26 16:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i were you i would go pick up my item and next time she wants to borrow something tell her she has to come pick it up and drop it off herself. If she can't do it, don't lend her things anymore.
2006-10-26 11:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by cyber_music 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she doesn't have the decency to return a borrowed item, stop lending things to her.
2006-10-26 11:26:42 · answer #8 · answered by rustybones 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Her requests sound a bit tacky. My advice: Don't loan her anything any more. Learn to just say NO.
2006-10-26 11:32:53 · answer #9 · answered by J.Z. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is very selfish and inconsiderate. She is obligated to bring it to you when appropriate or pick it up when needed.
2006-10-26 17:38:59 · answer #10 · answered by M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋