My sister got married about a year ago and something has been bpthering me, her husband is hitting on me! I didn't think this was true when my dad brought it up about six months before they got married, but when my aunt noticed, I started to wonder. Then about six months ago, my boyfriend at the time forbid to go to my sister's house anymore, I don't like being controlled and my sister and I are very close, so it started a huge fight, when I finally got to the bottom of it, he told me it was because of the way her husband was always hitting on me. I don't want to start any problems with thier marriage, because it's not the strongest relationship and my sis is very emotional, not only that but she's gained about 30 pounds since they got married and she tells me constantly how bad thier sex life is. i keep urging her to get help, but I don't know how to approch this. I'm afraid that she's gonna think that It's in my head. Also if he's doing this to me, he's doing it with other girls.
2006-10-26 11:18:42 · 11 answers · asked by Jennifer C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why would you want to shore up her flaky marriage to this loser? Tell her everything, and help her get out of it.
2006-10-26 11:22:44 · answer #1 · answered by finaldx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your dad should talk to him. If he first recognized his behavior I think I would ask my dad to either talk to him or have your dad go with you to confront him. It sounds like your sis is very unhappy. She needs to see someone professionally so she can regain her strength and leave this man. She probably is so totally bothered by his behavior but doesn't have enough self esteem to confront the situation. Start taking your sister with you a couple of times of week to get her out of the house, away from him and his bad behavior. I am confident she is using food to fill up that empty spot in her heart he's left. She needs some positive attention, get her out and about.
2006-10-26 18:28:42 · answer #2 · answered by crkristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is your sister you, need to tell her the truth. If you don't think she is going to believe take along some of the people that know. Basically you are doing an intervention. She needs your strength. She may be mad at you for awhile but it seems like you really love each other and she will get over it.
It is obvious she isn't happy and just needs to be shown that it isn't working out.
Be strong for her
Good luck.
2006-10-26 18:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by lajefa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If thats your sis then she needs to know. And if she doesnt believe you then tell her to ask your other family members that have seen this behavior....and im also wondering,,,she must have seen him flirt with you and just isnt saying anything about it. Maybe he has brang her self esteem down so much she will never leave him no matter what. But if you love your sis you need to tell her,,and if she decides not to believe you or talk to you anymore then thats on her. Just pray that one day she smartens up before its too late.
2006-10-26 18:24:34 · answer #4 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront your brother in law about his behavior and let him know that it either stops or you are telling his wife. You have no control over wether he flirts with other girls, but you can stop him form hitting on you. He needs to get counseling to boost his self eteem before he wrecks his marriage and your sisters life.
2006-10-26 19:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get angry, this creep is hurting your sister bby abusing their relationship. Next time he hits on you, get mad, tell him in a calm ,firm , voice that if he hits on you again you will be forced to show your sister the video tape you just secretly made of him hitting on you. Advise him he needs to straighten up and fly right, or get the devil out of her life. She may be angry at you at first , but someday she will know why you did it, and realize you love her. Good Luck!
2006-10-26 18:27:04 · answer #6 · answered by Pam W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get someone, preferably your dad or bf, to confront him about it. That way, you don't have to do the talking, or even be in the room when the talking occurs. Tell them (dad/bf) to tell him that they will personally murder him (or something really threatening) if he continues with his behavoir. Actually, they may want to talk to him together to seem more serious. Anyway, if I were you bf or dad, I would kill him. That should be their opinion on this anyway. Good luck!
2006-10-26 18:24:32 · answer #7 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything. Just don't visit their place, have her come to you. His behavior isn't your fault.
Her husband is a creep, so just stay away from him.
2006-10-26 18:22:33 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its obvious, that he has no intention of stopping it at any time, request for her to go to a counselor, so she can get the confidence she needs to talk to her idiot husband
2006-10-26 18:22:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to stay away and have your sister visit you.
2006-10-26 18:29:03 · answer #10 · answered by nellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋