Am I in the wrong?

Question

My GF is going to San Fransisco this weekend to club hop, party and drink. She is going with a group of friends that includes a guy that likes her. If she wanted to she could invite me but she isn't going to. I am upset that she is going without me, and she thinks that I am being unreasonable. Am I?

Answer 1

if she is going w/ a guy that likes her then something is up, the group of friends is just a cover up for her intentions, tell her that you won't be there when she gets back, because if she really loved you she would have invited you. something just doesn't sound right.....you can do better!!

Answer 2

Is your main point of argument with her that she's going with a group of people that includes a guy that likes her? 'Cause when she hears that all she thinks is scary jealous boyfriend who doesn't trust her. I know you're worried, but what are you worried about? Is it the fact that she's going to be drunk with this guy and she might do something that you both will regret later? Is it because she's going to be a big city? Is it that she's just not going to be with you period? Or are you just feeling left out from the rest of the group? I'm not saying that you aren't right in worrying about her, but she might just want some fun time with friends sans boyfriend. And she's a big girl, she has to make her own decisions. It hurts when you find out that someone that you think you love doesn't trust you. So take some time and figure out what you're upset about then ask yourself again if you're being unreasonable.

Answer 3

Do you have the right to be jealous? Yes! I would be flippin' out if I were you. Honestly, drinking and clubbing with just GIRLS is abit sketchy, but dealable if you have a foundation of trust with her. She invites a guy in the group but not you. I don't know what to tell you bro, that is so wrong, on so many levels, and if she doesn't care about you doing the same, then I think it's time to look for someone else. You may trust a person, but putting them into temptations hands is another story. So good luck bud.

Answer 4

I am on your side. I wouldn't object if it were something other than bar-hopping. When it involves drinking, that usually involves trouble. The guy thing, you would have to have trust in your girlfriend. Would she like it if the roles were reversed? Partying and drinking are not good things anyway as they usually get out- a-hand with a large group of people who are especially looking to just have a good time. Do you know any of the people going besides your girlfriend? Do you trust any of them to be responsible adults? Is your girlfriend a responsible adult? It really doesn't sound like a good thing and I would encourage your girlfriend to do something different with a different group of Friends, like a day spa somewhere where she would be pampered instead. I will be praying for you. Maybe you should find another girlfriend if all she wants to do is drink and party.

Answer 5

It depends on the group. If it's an existing group, like a sports team or a band, then you should let her go and be cool. If it's a random group of people, then there's no reason you should not be included and your not being invited because she doesn't want you there. Exactly WHY she doesn't want you there isn't clear, but you are not being unreasonable to question the arrangement.

Answer 6

I dont know how old you are but the thing is....is this really the kind of girl you want to get really serious with.... I mean like maybe marriage? If so, I'll bet you a dollar to a do-nut you are already a divorce statistic waiting to happen.I'd say this gal has you on a string, and knows it. Nobody who has genuine caring feelings for you would act that way, but this girl has probably got pretty good reasons for believing that she can go have her fun in "San Fran" and come back to find you wagging your tail like a puppy who is just sooooo happy to see his owner back again. My advice would be to let her go have her fling, and come back to find YOU with a brand new "cutiepie" What's she going to do? cry "Waaaaaaaagh, No fair!" ?

Answer 7

No your not. Don't be fooled by her selfishness, she's being immature and unfair. How would she like it if you did that to her, and did it all the time besides? I bet she starts complaining. If she didn't she must not care much about teh fact that a girl in your group likes you and could try something.

Sound like she doesn't value the relationship very much. I'd find a new girl if I were you. She probably wants you to dump her, but is to cowardice to do it so instead she'd rather make up a situtation to piss you off enough ti dump her. Dump her anyway.

Answer 8

If it was me, I would love to have my man there; It would make it 10x more fun! Unless I had something to hide..........

Two wrongs don't make a right; but what if you decided to go out with the guys that night, somewhere that she may have a slight reaction to. You know, even something non-threatning to her is the best bet and read her reaction, because those who are doing or thinking about doing something that they shouldn't will most likely be jealous about your actions.......... nervious about you doing the same thing. Best of Luck! Don't let her break your heart.......... you deserve the best!

Answer 9

Naw cuz you not and the wrong.if she was a nice female she would invite you. Don't get me wrong She probably is a nice female but you have your right to do so . now if she go on that trip an she ended up doing something that will mess up your relationship with her she wasn't your female and the first place . LET HER BE CUZ.

Answer 10

How long have you been dating ?

If it was a girls only night, I would say you were overreacting, but since a guy is going along, no I don't think you are being unreasonable.