and he drove to see you and would probably stay in town for the night to avoid the long trip back and to go out with you the next day before going back for the week , how do you go about suggested he stay at a motel in the area before he suggests staying at your place? It isn't that you are a prude but you don't want to put your self in a position where something might happen. You have set high standards for yourself and made mistakes before and want to make sure he respects you and can give you what you are looking for and you don't want to give him freebies when he hasn't made a committment. You just want to go out with him both days and spend time with him, but don't want him sleeping over.
2006-10-26 10:54:53 · 9 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you aren't really looking for a long distance relationship because of the conflict in work schedules but have left yourself open to the possibility
2006-10-26 10:55:40 · update #1
Next time you speak with him, ask if he's already made motel reservations or would he like you to make suggestions of some places that are in a good location to where y'all will want to be.
2006-10-26 10:57:15 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about being honest? With yourself and him. You say you have set high standards for yourself...but then your nest words are in conflict with that statement. If you have standards ( would it might be better termed principles) that you live your life by then why is there doubt about where you stand or will do? If you truly beleved in your "standard" then it wouldn't matter what others think. The feeling left from your words is that you use sex as a control over a man...freebies..give you what you want.
Shouldn't you show him the respect of asking him what his plans are? If he doesn't ask to stay at your place are you going to say on the outside godd ..but be thinking...what? he doesn't want too...how dare he...
Perhaps it would be a wise to look at yourself honestly and define where you really stand in regards to yourself and in dealing with others before you start worrying about your "honor"
2006-10-26 19:12:23 · answer #2 · answered by idiot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you enjoy talking in the third person, or are you talking about yourself. Just ask him to sleep on the couch. Unless you're afraid he's going to rape you, why should he have to sleep at a motel? And if you ARE afraid something like that will happen, then don't even let him in your place! Just say, "I'd appreciate if you'd sleep on the couch tonight. I had a really good time, and I don't want to ruin it"
2006-10-26 18:01:59 · answer #3 · answered by harry_potter_kid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him exactly what you just said here. if he doesnt respect you and understand you enough to go by your wishes then hes not even worth it. This will be the real test for him to see if hes right for you and respects you enough to stay in a hotel,,until you feel comfortable to spend the night with him. I just wanna tell you that i met a man that was 4 hours away from me,,,he spent the night with me,,,,we couldnt stay away from eachother,,so he moved in with me,,that was 2 yrs ago and now we are engaged..,,but you go about it the way you want to and see how he acts about it. good luck
2006-10-26 18:00:18 · answer #4 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at least let him know your plan before he gets there so he won't try to use the excuse. I drove all this way and I am not getting none. I am a guy I have used it when i was younger. Guys expect it if they drive that far unless you let them know in advance. If he likes you he will understand
2006-10-26 17:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by SuperSoldierGIJOE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he would like you to make him a motel reservation that is in the neighborhood or in town. so he want have to make the long trip back. trust me i would love the same answer cause im in the same exact situation.
2006-10-26 17:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_girl_snglnlokn2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have went and met women that are some distance from me and i never asked to stay there before i got there or when i got there and if he has any sense he will not ask this of you but after i met them they seen what kinda man i am and they all said i was welcome to stay and i did but i would have gladly stayed in a motel.so just ask him if hes gonna get a room cause its to soon for him to stay the nite
2006-10-26 18:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by k70 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him sleep on the couch if he wont listen kick him out
2006-10-26 17:57:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest, if he doesn't understand that....well do you really want to date him?
2006-10-26 17:58:05 · answer #9 · answered by bam.... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋