My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months... he slept with this girl once a while ago, and just now she came up to him, and told him she's pregnant!! she's 5 months, but it's not 100% sure that's his, because she slept with other men around the same time too..but claims he was the last one (Which I personally dont think that detail matters) Anyhow, he's willing to help her, but wont take full charge of it, till the baby is born, and a test proves its true.
im trying to have his back, (cause we still weren't dating when it happen) .. but it's so hard! sometimes i dont even know what to say to him, when we talk about it... PLEASE HELP ME... i need advices!!
2006-10-26 10:50:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First thing...Wait for the blood test
He shouldn't feel responsible until it's proven. It's good that he wants to help.
2006-10-26 10:56:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, I am so sorry. This is tough for you. Truth is he might not be the daddy. That has to be checked. And if he is, he is the one responsible for the mess he got himself into.
Let's look at this: if he isn't the father, he dodged a big bullet, and he better be on his best behavior from here on it with you.
Now...if he is the daddy, you sit back and see what he does about it all. 5 months means she is keeping the baby. See if he intends on supporting and being in the baby's life. That means he is a standup guy. But...it also means this girl will ALWAYS be in his life. A child binds people who don't even like each other to one another for always. Can you deal with this? Take care of yourself first dear. He will be fine. You can support him all you want, but keep all these details in mind. Every christmas, every holiday, he will have to have some time with the child. Which means he will be spending time with momma too; whether he likes her or not. There will be times when you need him but he will have to be there. A child is a forever thing. You think about all this carefully. You are pretty young and think anything can be overcome right now. But look to the future. It isn't that easy to deal with this kind of baggage. I wish you all the best dear.
2006-10-26 18:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by the witch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl your in a hard position, but all you can do is love and support him. make sure he gets a test to find out if it his or not.if you really do love him don't let this come between you,just let him know what you want,it's gonna take some work this is a baby and remember the bub didn't ask for this happen. i wish you all the luck in the world just watch your back with things and stand by your man your more then welcome to write me if you need to talk.
2006-10-26 18:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by punky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well wait until u have the blood test and if the baby is his dump him cause most of his time going to spend with her and he cheated on u cause u guys were still talking he dont desire u and u cant stay into this mess
2006-10-26 18:03:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'd ask what in heaven's name he was thinking about having unprotected sex with a girl who isn't his wife. That's stupidity personified you know. Why would you be interested in a guy who has no more respect for himself and the girl than to do that?
2006-10-26 18:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋