we were lovers and great friends when we were in our teens and then saw each other in our 40s at wal mart. that conection it was like we were teens our love just never stopped we been seeing each other when we can ever sence.am i wrong to do this? tell me a story like this.although hes married still he says he never stops thinking about me.but dont know how to leave her.
2006-10-26 10:42:57 · 12 answers · asked by freebird403us2001 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes it's wrong to break up a marriage. But if he's a jerk and is in love with you then he needs to grow some balls and get a divorce and be with you. If he doesn't then he's just playing you.
2006-10-26 10:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by bktp37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decided whether you want to be with some you love or some your in love with? It makes a big difference. If you don't want to be with J - if you don't see a future with him then let him go now. There is no point in dragging him along, fueling him with the belief that marriage and a future is going to be an option If M is who you want and who you truely love - you need to tell him that. You can not continue to live a life wondering what if? If he says it's not going to work, its not what he wants etc you need to accept that and walk away - move to anothe town, state or country whatever you feel you have to do to get over him. As hard as it sounds you'll need to cease contact with him because each phone call, each email and each letter will relight the butterflies in the stomach and the aching for him.
2016-05-21 23:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a lady who did the same thing. then later about 10 years after she broke up the couple; and married the guy (oh, ya and she had a kid about that is know about 8 years old). then one day she comes home from her job early and finds her husband and a workmate having sex in their bedroom. she was very upset,but she deserved it the same thing happened to her that she did to the first wife. the man keeps "hooking up" with old and new girl friends and she is and will all ways be miserable. if a man will break up with his wife for another women it WILL happen again and again, so never trust a man like that.His was a true story. Oh ya and i forgot to say that the "workmate" got pregnant and had a baby about 9 months later...
2006-10-26 14:44:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a sin. no matter whatever solid reason it could be that you had mentioned nothing is valid cause he's still a married man and he has his called duty for his family. put the entire situations around if this is happening to your husband...........imagine it, i need not to further this cause it's all self explanatory.
i understand at this present time you might be all over so boxed down with this love feelings - situations but is it a right one? it's really hard to see the right thing at this kind of junction but don't regret with whatever you do cause you are accountable at the end of the day. to love a person is not necessary to have and possess them but if it's not ours it's better to let them go and give them your blessings from the bottom of your heart.....that's what real love is. it's not going to be easy if you decide to end this, it's a long process of recovery but it's possible if you truly love a person and yourself.
2006-10-26 12:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get him to leave his wife. He loves her, too. It may not be the intense infatuation he is feeling for you but he married her and you have to calculate that he loves her and won't leave her. So, you see him and think about having more and he thinks about you. You need to stop and ask yourself if you are content with things as they are. You love him, you have history with him, aside from his being married you trust him and you are intimate with him. Is it enough. If it is, enjoy it. If it's not enough and the hurt to you is greater than the pleasure, then tell him and say "Goodbye" once and for all. (Don't even think about "how to get him to leave" because it won't happen and even if by some miracle it did happen, he would blame you for it and your present great relationship would be destroyed along with his marriage.)
2006-10-26 10:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by RangerEsq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are wrong, and just thought you might like to know...married men rarely leave their wives for the other woman. Also, if they do, the chances of the relationship working out, are low! So please, don't try to break it up, because you'll be in a world of heartache if you do. Find someone that can give you the love you desire and deserve to have.
2006-10-26 10:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by LibraT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From teens to 40's y'all are COMPLETELY different people...the teenaged infatuation may be there, but it could well be that if you got together you'd have nothing in common.
He's married...leave him be. Do you really want someone who would leave his partner to be with someone else? What's to stop him from dumping you to be with another woman down the road?
Treat others as you'd like to be treated...if you wouldn't want someone trying to lure away your partner, or wreck your relationship, then don't do it to someone else. It'll come back on you, and then some.
Have nice memories of those teen years...but be realistic and realize chances are the fantasy in your head is NOTHING like reality would be.
2006-10-26 10:46:52 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously think about getting into a relationship with someone who would even consider fooling around when married already. Do you really think you will be the end?
2006-10-26 10:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by Horndog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy has it made. he has a wife at home that he lies to amd a bimbo on the side that thinks he will actually leave. ha ha. wait til he get caught and cries to his wife that you never meant anything to him. thats the story that has been around since the beginning.
2006-10-26 10:50:40 · answer #9 · answered by jms043 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Home wrecker! Thats f-ucked up of both of you to do. Put yourself in his wifes shoes you heartless b-itch. Grrrr I hate trashy women like you.
2006-10-26 10:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋