I have met many single ladies online and wine bars. They have been living single for years. And they feel it is better to have sex without touching their inner feelings. Many ladies are scared to open their heart because they lost trust in their past relationships. They want to see a different in their lovimg relationship but they are not ready to face another hurt. Men too. What is the healthier solution?
2006-10-26 10:40:35 · 19 answers · asked by Vig 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The healthier solution is definitely a long term relationship..people who have one night stands just end up miserable especially women they end up feeling cheap and unloved...relationships are much better. Women and men just have one night stands because they are not ready to settle down or they have been hurt by someone in the past and they dont want to let anyone into their hearts again.
2006-10-26 10:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not know. Me personally would rather be in a steady relationship than be permanently single and just having one night stands, as i find that would be dissatisfying. True that when the relationship ends, we quite oftenly get hurt, but we have at the same time have those memories of the relationship and we learn things about ourselves in each different relationships. When we find the one we are gonna spend the rest of our lives with, that feels like so much more than just countless one night stands which usually just feels empty.
2006-10-26 11:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by Sparkle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some chicks just like sex - they won't say they are nymphos so they just say they are single and enjoying it. I guess when they are ready for a steady relationship they will know. However I think looking online and in bars is the wrong place to look for someone long term. I don't know a healthy solution, except they need to deal with whatever past relationship problems they have had and move on. Being single is only fun for so long, then it can get lonely and frustrating.
2006-10-26 10:44:11 · answer #3 · answered by Michaela 4120 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-16 06:34:54 · answer #4 · answered by costarakis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been single for a long time and plan to stay that way - BUT...I don't have one night stands either - I have a boyfriend that I am totally and completely in love with - who also doesn't want to get married again...he has his place - I have mine - we spend time together - stay with each other at times ...but...in the end we like our own place and own space...we work well together. We are past wanting more children (his wife died young of cancer - I've been divorced for years)....it works for us. I have other friends (both male and female) who feel the same ...a few are players living the life of one night stands...but most of them are in serious committed relationships - just don't want to be married...that's all. I don't even want to live with anyone - I LOVE having the freedom of my own place and space....AND having a serious boyfriend. I don't see anyone but him and visa versa - we completely trust one another and have been dating for a year now...I have friends who have been seriously dating for over 5 years. It's not all that uncommon ...ESPECIALLY for those in their 30s-50s who've already raised their kids, now have a good and growing career, are independent and financially well off on their own...and emotionally secure on their own as well.
2006-10-26 10:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by svmainus 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So sad that our society has come to this. Women losing all sense of propriety when it comes to their lives and bodies. There are women out there who appreciate real men like you who want relationship and long term family growth.
Unfortunately, the bars are not teeming with these sorts.
If you want to meet someone who's nice and real, you might want to try hanging around your favorite activity spots (tennis club, golf club, chess club, fishing club, wine tastings, etc.) Not only will you have lots of fun doing what you like, but the chances are that you'll find someone whose ideals closely match yours.
Have fun. Good luck!
2006-10-26 10:44:54 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Saffire♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its really whatever people prefer,me personally as long as im getting some im cool and dont really need a relationship.i got a fear of committment though or atleast thats what women tell me when i have been in a relationship and they wanted to marry or live together.i just cant do it and im in my late 30s,the way i see it nuthin lasts forever and i have had relationships that have lasted over 5 years but i was ready to leave after about 2 years.its got nuthin to do with hurt for me,people just get on my nerves after awhile
2006-10-26 10:47:07 · answer #7 · answered by k70 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some people haven't even gotten hurt by past relationships. They're just not interested in having one. Maybe they don't want to be distracted from some career or personal issue by a romantic relationship. I know I don't.
2006-10-26 10:43:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on the individual...sometimes its preferable to have a sex-only relationship and not get emotions involved, until we're ready to share them with someone...
What I find sad about those non-emotion people (when they turn it off indefinitely) is what they are allowing themselves to miss out on...the joy and happiness that comes from being head over heels about someone (and they you)...it does put us at risk of getting hurt, but imnsho it's well worth the risk.
2006-10-26 10:43:46 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The healthier solution is to keep thinking that there is something great out there. There is nothing great or uplifting or anything in one night stands. You feel like **** and you feel filthy when it's over. You're only betraying yourself in that clinical practice and that's much worse than avoiding commitment. Hell, you can't spend your life bed hopping.
2006-10-26 10:47:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋