i went to my boyfriend's house the other night. while he was taking a shower he received a text message from a girl. i know i shouldn't have - but i read it. i was surprised to find that it was his ex girlfriend. i continued reading the other messages in his phone that were to her. i found ones like this .... "we don't have to have sex if you don't want to", "what are you talking about sex is not what i want from you" "well i thought we could try again" "i've been wanting you for a long time now" when he got out of the shower i asked him why he had sent these messages to sarah (old girlfriend that HE broke up with) he was calm, never got angry or anything he just said that he broke up with her because she got pregnant and told everyone that she was pregnant with his child. he said that ever since they broke up she calls to see if they can get back together. and he said that those messages he sent to her the night before was just to give her false hope. he said he was seeking revenge.
2006-10-26 10:34:41 · 33 answers · asked by doodlebug 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
at first i didn't believe him .. but he told me that if he was me he would be right out the door because he knew what it looked like. but he promised me he had never cheated on me. he told me that i knew he loved me with all his heart and that i was the only women in his life. then he started crying and begged me not to leave him. he told me he knew that i couldn't trust him now even if he was telling the truth because of all the "evidence" but he asked me to give him chance to prove that he was being honest. i don't want to be naive here. but this is the guy that i want to marry and i know without a doubt that he really loves me. i dont want to be stupid and stick around. but god knows i cant leave. i dont want to throw away the best thing in my life if he really is being honest. i know the odds are against him but is there even the slightest chance that he could be telling the truth? he told me i could call her myself and ask her if anything was going on between them
2006-10-26 10:40:33 · update #1
okay i have gotten alot of comments in such a short time amazed! he did state this though ... what guy who is cheating would leave his girlfriend in his bedroom with his computer on, wallet, mail, phone all laying there? he has left me at his house before and left for a good hour or two. also, last night he toldme that he sent her a message on aim telling her that his girlfriend hadnt appreciated him f***ing with her mind. so he wouldn't be talking to her anymore even if he was only giving her false hope. he offered to let me see these messages. still the same answer?
2006-10-26 10:52:13 · update #2
i beleive him
but keep a close eye on him
guys barley lie about things like that,
it's ur call
......
is he a cheater?
2006-10-26 10:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by Nick723 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There are two choices:
Cheating: A liar and a cheat.
Not cheating: But what a jerk. He's leading his ex-girlfriend on in order to get revenge? Which means he's lying to her. What a nice guy. Wait until he's mad at you. What has he lied to you about already?
I think he's cheating. With either choice above, he's a liar. That's proven. Do you really want to stay with a liar? If he wanted to see if the kid was his he could just get a paternity test. If you do stay with this lying jerk, you should insist on the test before getting serious involved. His previous kids and ex are definitely going to affect you.
2006-10-26 10:46:27 · answer #2 · answered by ontopofoldsmokie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this has nothing to do with whether or not he's cheating, but why would you want to stay with someone who left his ex-girlfriend because she got pregnant with his child? Is this the kind of man you want in your life? What if you got pregnant? You would be stuck with a baby, and no one there to support you.
By the way, I do think he's cheating. Leave him now. Don't walk away. Run.
2006-10-26 10:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating
2006-10-26 10:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by Fruitful1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assume he's being honest...he's not much of a person if he's wanting to lie or lead someone on...giving false hope, seeking revenge? Is this the kind of person you really want to be with?
What goes around, comes around...hope you're not present when his bad karma comes back to thwack him.
2006-10-26 10:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The chances that he's telling you the truth are slim to none. If he truly was telling you the truth, then why didn't he do the texting in front of you? Why did he wait til you confronted him to tell you that his ex-girlfriend keeps texting him?
2006-10-26 10:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't see the writing in the wall then you deserve what is going to happen later on which is a continual lying and deceit relationship! Wow, I can't believe you even have to question that.
2006-10-26 10:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by soniaatcalifornia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like crap to me but I would stay on him and watch his every move. If you find out he is lying then leave now. I guess he could be telling the truth but I doubt it.
2006-10-26 10:37:28 · answer #8 · answered by Ask Me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You wrote all that to get everyone to tell you what you already know that's cute.So I already know you are to dumb to take any ones advice so I think you deserve to get played it's chicks like you that let guys do what they want and I salute your weakness.I used to run circles around girls just like you and it is comforting to know your breed is still out there.Clueless!
2006-10-26 10:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by sjwest74 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh no that is his way of using you and wanting to get back with his ex so you need to move on if he really loved you he would tell you that he doesnt want anything to do with her and if he wants revenge he is very immature and you need to move on
2006-10-26 10:37:42 · answer #10 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he could be telling the truth. but this makes him some one to be very weary of People that need revenge, are not past their feelings for that person, he needs to get past his ex
2006-10-26 10:39:08 · answer #11 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋