Does anyone else hate crazy ex-girlfriends with kids??? My boyfriends ex just called and told him he has to go pick up the kids because she has to go visit her aunt in the hospital! She's not dying!! So he has to take off from work early because she wants him too?? She could put them in day care but no that would cost her money instead he has to lose money by leaving work!! She comes out the same if not better because she doesn't lose any money and she doesn't have the kids!! He can't afford to take time off he can't pay his own bills!! Why are some women crazy?? He thinks i'm over reacting but i say I have that right!! am I wrong??
2006-10-26 10:30:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would gladly watch them if I wasn't working but she refuses to let me. She thinks I am trying to be there mother!! which I am not I am to young to have two kids! I love them very much but not as there mother! I am not jealous I love he wants to spend time with them but he needs to pay bills in order to help too
2006-10-26 10:40:10 · update #1
he is paying her a ton in child support and she doesn't seem to care when he doesn't make money because no matter how much he works she still gets her child support check. Who cares if we go belly up?
2006-10-26 10:46:36 · update #2
I personally despise the whole ex-mama drama....
He is working so obviously he's paying child-support. Sounds like this crazy woman has to have that "control" that she obviously lost.
You are not over reacting. The woman needs to realize that are no longer together and she needs to step up to the plate, accept that she is a "single" Mom and leave him out of her personal affairs no matter what they are. If she has the kids, she has to deal with whatever comes her way and the same goes for him.
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2006-10-26 10:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by ~*bUtteRFy~*~kISSeS*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say, but when it comes to him and his baby mama you really carry no weight in what you say when it comes to how they will deal with their kids. not to say that what you are telling him is either rite or wrong, but that is pretty much how it is when it comes to getting into a relationship with someone who has kids. also is he paying child support to her? cuz if not then think of it this way, he could be getting more taken out of his check if he were paying. and if he is paying then he could always try to get it reduced if he is constantly taking off of work for the kids. just mention this to him, but don't try to push too hard on the subject, because when it comes to someones kids it is a very tough situation when what you say is in any way a negative about them or their roles of parenting. good luck, tread lightly
p.s. he should be the first person she calls when it comes to the kids, no matter the subject
2006-10-26 17:39:05 · answer #2 · answered by Stacey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are wrong. You also have no idea of what it is to be a parent. Stop behaving so jelously and accept that he has responsiblities with another woman. Just because they aren't together any more, doesn't mean he isn't still the children's father.
You are overreacting like nobody's business. The ex partner probably has the lion's share of responsiblity in looking after YOUR partner's children, and for god's sake, her aunt is in the hospital, dying or not, its still enough of a reason.
You sound like you don't do much - why don't YOU pick up the kids, and let your partner stay on at work, then he wouldn't lose all the money you are so worried about.
2006-10-26 17:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by iliketorideigohago 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I vote with the kids...since they are his kids too, he has to share in their care. There will always be a tie between them because of it and you need to realize that and either accept it or move on. The kids have prior claim on him to you Lots of divorced parents are far worse then what you describe, which does not sound unreasonable at all. It is up to HIM to decide if he can or cannot take off work and then the parents between them in the latter case have to come up with an alternative. The kids are NOT HER problem, they are a SHARED responsibility!
2014-09-04 23:03:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not you have a right cuz hes your bf and his ex is in the past, if i were you i would keep him in check so he can listen to you more,thats what i do with my bf.
2006-10-26 17:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpinkness2 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋