I'm 18 and I've been with my girlfriend for like a year and she's told me multiple times that she wants to have my baby. Sometimes I think to myself that it's moving a little to fast but other times I think to myself "OK I think I should do this." I'm just confused about what to do. should I have this baby or is it to soon?
2006-10-26 10:20:53 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i would wait untill you have your own place and have enough money to raise a baby also you should wait till your married
2006-10-26 10:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by jennifertrinitysky 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good paying full time job, can handle sleepless nights (for at least the first year) and can change 100 diapers a day while keeping your sanity. You may possible be ready. Remember, in the circle of life you are still pretty close to the beginning, take you time. If she is pushing you maybe its more then a baby she wants. Talk to your girlfriend. Find out if its the baby or the commitment that she is looking for. Having a baby links you for life! If you don't know if you want to spend the rest of you life with this young lady (married or otherwise) then you shouldn't have a baby with her. No matter how much you may love her.
2006-10-26 10:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by buggerhead 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are confused, it's too soon to have a baby. I helped raise my younger brother- I was 13 at the time. So I thought it would be really easy once I had my own with the experience. I now have a one year old, and let's just say that year made me feel 15 years older... not much sleep, taking care of a colicky baby (who cried a LOT- and I'd try everything to get him to stop, which didn't always work), and the teething- oh he was in sooo much pain and crying a LOT once again, it's just really draining. There are so many joys from having your own children, but while you are still young, have this time for yourself right now. Make sure you and your girl have a strong relationship, and spend a lot of quality time with her. Once you have a baby, you won't get too much time with your partner. There are times when my husband and I just want to watch a movie together, and it ends up taking us 5 hours to watch it because our son isn't feeling well, or he needs something. So it's very hard to build a relationship while taking care and raising a child. So please, make sure you build your relationship now- a baby won't fill any voids you have in the relationship, but might make it worse. Live your life right now, and when you are completely sure you are ready to center your life around a child, then go for it.
Goodluck! (I'm not trying to talk u into not having kids period- they are such a great joy, and give you so much love, it's amazing... just make sure you are ready for everything!)
2006-10-26 10:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by m930 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your girlfriend nuts?! I mean that in the nicest way possible. I had my son at 19 years old. I'm 24 years old now and I still think I'm too young to have kids. You are only 18 years old man! Slow down. Enjoy your youth while you have it. Having a kid is a big responsibility and you or your girlfriend won't get to do a lot of the things people your age do. I remember when I was 18 years old, I thought I knew everything there was to know about life. I thought that the guy I was with was going to be in my life forever. But as you get older, you realize life isn't as easy as it seems and stuff happens. Having a baby changes everything. You and your girlfriend need to think about that.
2006-10-26 10:29:19 · answer #4 · answered by n_rubio03 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me as if you have answered your own question, "I'm just confused about what to do." is a great indicator that your not ready to be someone's Daddy. It's not easy out in the "real world". It's darn right hard most days and if you don't already have a stable job, place of your own and money to burn AFTER paying bills and getting food, fuel, insurance,etc. then your definatley not financially ready. The flip side to this is, "what if" it happens unplanned, then you get thrown head first into fast moving water that doesn't slow down, no more going wherever you want to, doing whatever you want to, although I have witnessed this happening more and more--its not pretty when that happens. Figure out a plan and see if it will work if you two were to have a baby.
2006-10-26 10:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by T-Bird 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, if you are confused then you are not ready. That is an 18 year commitment to your future child. Sometimes having a child is a way for woman to keep a man is to have a baby, because they hope it would be a bond to solidify your relationship and take it to the next level. Unless you just want to "sow your royal oats." Multiple kids are a sign of prosperity in some countries. Take a vacation without her and think it over. That is a decision you and her have to make, relationships are two way streets. Just make sure you are on the same road.
2006-10-26 10:35:23 · answer #6 · answered by ttuchriswooden 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, I was 37 when I had my first baby and I thought I was ready, but you just don't know until you have one.
It is way more work than I ever realized. I love my babies, but it was something that I really wanted, so I don't mind all the hard work. I have lots of years of experience behind me and am financially sound.
I don't see how a teenager can give up their best years of growing into adulthood to become parents. You still have a ton to learn. It would be best if you waited a few more years until you are at least into your 20s before having a child.
Is your girlfriend thinking this is the way to keep you?
2006-10-26 10:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by stocks4allseasons 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chances are you will want your eventual children to have the best life possible. If that is true the best way you can insure this is to have a strong foundation in which to raise a child. Tell your girlfriend that the thought of having a family with her is high on your list and you want to make sure the eventual baby has the best opportunity for success. To make her (and possibly your) dreams a reality first you both need to experience life together and build a strong financial and emotional foundation. Experience your own life before you bring another life into this world.
2006-10-26 10:34:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I had our oldest son at the age of 17. He is now 20 and is a welder at a local factory, we had 2 more sons one when we were 19 and another when we were 24. Looking back, we were definetley to young when we had our first son and probably when we had our second, but if we were to start over we would do it the same. We were young and determined, quit school and went right to work to support a family, we are still working hard to support a family, although very happy. The only one that can answer your question is you....advice won't help on this one. To every happy story like mine there is probably 3 sad ones or more. Good luck. Pray Hard your gonna need to. Dane
2006-10-26 10:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT!?!?! You need to get away from that girl! You are way to young to be even considering that! I don't think you even have a clue how hard it is being a good parent. It is the absolute most important job of your life. And even though you think you are grown up at 18, (I was there once too you know) you are not even close! You have so many fun things to go do before you settle down with a family. PLEASE for you sake and most importantly the child's sake, wait until you can really support a family (financially and emotionally).
2006-10-26 10:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by no spam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that you are too young. Im sure if you had to be a father right now that you could handle it but if you could choose when it's that time-I would wait. Try to think about what kind of a life you would be able to offer a child and how much more you could give that child if you were to wait 5 years? I always say that if you have doubts about something-don't do it. Especially something like having a child-you cannot go back once you do you know? You have your entire life ahead of you and you only get to live it once so enjoy your freedom of being young right now!
2006-10-26 10:30:13 · answer #11 · answered by autumn0253 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋