About my first question???

Question

NO, MY BOYFRIEND IS NOT IN JAIL OR ANYTHING, WE LIVE TOGETHER, AND HE WORKS OUT OF TOWN ALOT AND WE TALK ON THE PHONE LIKE EVERYDAY..AND I'M NOT A BAD MOTHER, I JUST THINK THAT I WAS WAITING FOR THE RIGHT TIME, AND NOW IS THE TIME...MAN, THERE ARE SOME MEAN REPLIES THAT YOU GUYS HAVE LEFT....IT'S NOT LIKE I'M GIVING THIS ONE UP FOR ADOPTION OR ABORTION OR ANYTHING, WHEN I SEE MY SON, HE'S NOT AROUND, HE'S GONE ON THE WEEKENDS ALOT, BUT YEAH I KNOW IT IS KINDA CRUEL THOUGH..BUT OK???

SORRY I'M NOT TRAILOR TRASH, I TAKE CARE OF ME, AND MY FAMILY, LIKE I SAID!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

It is NOT selfish and does not make you a bad mother because you let your son be raised by his father. You did the right thing. If you felt you could not raise him (your son) by yourself and were not ready to be a mother,then you made the best choice for him and you.

Do your son right. Be there when you can , remember to get him birthday and holiday stuff , and don't be ashamed of him.

Answer 2

I have read the answers to your previous question and yes there were some very mean answers especially when you did right by your child in allowing his father to raise his son. I commend you for that. You could have taken the cowardly way out and gotten an abortion but your child did not do anything wrong to be aborted. As to answer your first question, yes dear I really think you owe it to your new boyfriend to tell him the truth about you having a son from a previous relationship. If he truely loves you he would want to be a part of your son's life. I commend you on visiting with your son as well. There is no easy way to break the news of another child to someone you love, you just need to sit him down and tell him you have another son who lives with his father and that you would like him to be part of your lives. Your boyfriend is the father of this child you are carrying? He might get some first hand experience before this baby is born on how to take care of a child.

My 2 boys are 19 and 16. Their mother did not want them and just left them with an abusive step father rather than coming to family for help. I have had them for the past 10 yrs. You did a good thing in letting your son's father raise him.

Good Luck. Don't let what the others said get to you. Just know that you did a good thing, and you are going to do the right thing by telling your boyfriend.

Answer 3

I think you like the attention that asking these kinds of questions bring.Case in point You have asked 25 questions ranging from bankruptcy to blood pressure.Now a stupid parenting question.

You even asked how to meet military men online to date because you are really in to them.

Before that you had a blood pressure of 155/101 or something like that/
So let me tell you that most Americans have money issues and do not want to hear yours and no I will not loan you money until pay day

I think you are unfit as a mother because you can not raise the other child who is only a year and a half old and you are not honest with yourself or others
To hide the facts about yourself to another person is not love it is playacting.
You have made yourself what he wants and now are afraid to come clean with who you are which in my opinion is not a mentally healthy person

Answer 4

Ok
1st off when you dont explain a situation, you will get answers that go with what the situation looks like

2st off honey when you make yourself look irresponsible & dumb you are going to get alot of answers that u most likely will not like...

3 rd off i just dont get why a mother would have to ASK if she should tell her boyfriend who she is pregnant by that she has another kid that she "gave" to the childs father.... to me that is just stupid a good mother would be proud to have a son and would tell everyone within ear shot all about him

4th for you to sit here & scream at a woman who is still upset for having an abortion is 100% ****** up, at least she stopped her pregnancy before she had the kid & brought the kid into a situation she could not handle unlike you who just abandoned him...

Answer 5

First of all, ARE YOU MAD AT EVERYONE?? NO?? Then quit typing in caps.
Like, ok?
Secondly,
you think you are a better person somehow because you shoved your kid onto someone else rather than have an abortion?
You need a license to drive a freeking car but any dumb *ss kid can have more dumb *ss kids and the government continues to pay for it.
Traiilor trash!

Answer 6

You cannot worry about what other people think, in your situation you know what is best and what was best at the time. Just ignore what was all said. Just sit down with him and explain everything, including why you did it, hopefully he will understand. Dont worry what people think, that will only make things harder. Follow your heart and just try talking to him. Answer all the questions he has and things will be just fine as long as he is the man you say he is It will all be okay GOODLUCK :) I hope everything works out for you two!! and CONGRATS!

Answer 7

Hey... sounds like you are one mixed up girl... One of your questions talks about discharge in your nipples and never having children before... and others ask about meeting military men. It sounds to me that either you have multiple personalities... or you are full of CRAP. Oh and about the losing 150 lbs in 4 months... no you can't the only way to do that would to be drop the dead weight of a boyfriend husband... or friend!!! But it sounds like you are already a lonely person!

Answer 8

Until you are old enough to take responsbility for your first one you shouldn't be having any more! It is people like you that I am tired of my tax dollras supporting! Quit having babies and earn a living! And you haven't even told your boyfriend that you already have a son? That is really really stupid! Apparently you don't have the great relationship you have been bragging about!