Pregnancy?

Question

My son has gotten his girlfriend pregnant.
I am not able to speak with him because I am so outraged that he would go behind my back and do something with a girl that hes not married to.
Shes thinking of getting an abortion because i am so mad.
I told her that it is her and my sons fault and that they should make the discison.
Also, my son now wants to get married to this girl and they are 17 and he would need our parental consent.
What should i do?

Answer 1

i got married at 19 wife 18. it was tough but we survived. 17 would be allot tougher i agree but it is better then the death of the poor baby. i think you should let him be a man and marry this girl.
you should be upset but give it some time you will enjoy being a grandma and your grand child will love you.

best wishes

Answer 2

Everyone needs to stand back and wait a few days for all the emotions to calm down. Then you can START to have some rational discussions as a family.
Being allmad and negative with them, will just push the family further apart. If your thinking your the only grown up- thn start acting like it and lead these kids by your behavior example.
You need to understand that he didn't "go behind your back"- he had sex- which a lot of kids do. The best thing a parent can teach is SAFE sex- since most kids won't talk about it anyway.
I got married 3 weeks before my 17th birthday. I was pregnant. Yes, I ended up divorced and did the single Mom thing for awhile. But now I am 42 and am who I am based on the choices made in my life. I wouldn't change a thing for the world.
In a few months you can't make any choices for him anyway. Maybe tell him, if he waits until he turns 18 and still feels the same way- you'll give him your blessing?

Answer 3

First of all, try to calm down and be rational about the whole subject. Understandably, he shouldn't have done it, but he isn't the first nor the last teenager to make this mistake. Also do you really want them to abort your grandchild? As far as the marriage thing goes, I personally think that 17 is far too young to be getting married, and that it will only cause more problems. Calm down and then go talk to your son. Let him and the gf keep the baby, but do let him know that he is going to have to learn responsibility.

Answer 4

I am a young female who was pregnant when I was 17 and because I felt I was unable to tell anyone I hide the pregnancy. I sometimes wonder if I would have told someone I was pregnant they could have helped me and I would not have fallen and my baby would have lived. So just try to remember that the sin was in the sex and not in the baby.

Answer 5

i agree with most of the answers you have gotten. Think of things this way, if she is willing to give up her baby to make you happy then you should give her a little credit for respecting your feelings. Is this your first grandchild? If so, then do not let her get an abortion!!!!!! you will only have one "first grandchild". I really agree with asking him to wait for a few months till his b'day and then tell him that if he still wants to then you will support him. also think of this,you must have done something right for him to step up and be a man and take responsability for his mistake!! Most teen males would not do that!!!

Answer 6

It sounds like your son is acting more mature than your are. He didn't go behind your back, because he isn't married to you. He is a kid that got curious and followed him urges.

Now he has to learn to face the consequences and it looks like he wants to try to do it.

I would not want my grandchild aborted ... ever.

You need to SUPPORT your son, no matter what he decides. He and the girlfriend will work it out. It's their baby.

If they want to get married, let them.

Answer 7

It's not your problem. They did it and they should be made to take care of the situation. If they think marriage is the way out - they're both joking'

I am so sorry for the unborn child caught in-between the mess.
It pains me when I hear of such things, One can actually have sex without it resulting to a pregnancy - teenager can be very stupid -- I sorry

Answer 8

you sound like a real hypocrite ...yes, he got her pregnant, but right now you are acting like a jerk and SO ungodly. what would jesus do? would he have gotten mad to the point of a soon to be mom thinking of abortion? get over it and grow up!

Answer 9

i think that you should make them have the baby and let them get married..it is the best thing to do...

Answer 10

have him castrated, i wouldn't know what to do in your position either....i truely feel for you.