Where is my relationship going?

Question

Okay, I love my girlfriend, and I love talking to her and hanging out with her. I have beat up 2 of my friends and another kid because of them saying she is ugly. All my friends make fun of her and hate her. To me, she is the most beautiful person I have ever met. I am not sure what to do though. We started dating on September 25th, and the only time we see eachother is after School(I'm in Junior High), And a Teen Hangout on Mainstreet. I would like to ask everyone who is on, where is my relationship heading? Do not tell me to get new friends, and do not tell me to brek up with her. I only want some opinions on where my relationship is going at the moment. I can not take her on many dates or see her at her house because she lives out of town. Any Opinions? DO NOT ASK ME A QUESTION, JUST ANSWER MY QUESTION(Sorry, most people ask me dumb questions and it pisses me off) And, I don't go to the same school as her. TY!

Answer 1

First of all, what I can do is shed some light as to what is going on in your life with your friends and GF based on the facts you've given and some assumptions.

Facts:
You're in junior high.
You started dating on Sept 25.
You think your G/F is beautiful.
You cannot go on dates often.
Your friends make fun of her.
You've beat up your friends because they make fun of her.

Assumptions:
Your friends don't have girlfriends of their own.
You and your friends uses to hand out often.
Now you spend more time with your GF.
Now your girlfriend is with you when you hang out with your friends.

My Opinion:
Most likely what is going on is that your friends feel that your not spending time with them anymore and instead more time with your GF. Whether this is actually true or not is irrelavent, what is relavent is what your friends feel. If this is indeed the case then most likely what they are trying to due is chase her off by saying things like she's ugly, which you obviously don't agree with. By chasing her off, your friends would think you'll be able to hang out with them like before.

Yet, they could also simply just be jealous of the fact that you have a girlfriend and they don't (assuming they don't have any). If this is the case, then by chasing off your GF everyone will be in the same situation. That situation being girlfriendless.

Or, they could simply still be at the stage where they're not interested in girls. This could be possible, if their reaction to her is that "she's ugly" and just want her out of your group.

It could even be a combination of all 3 depending on each of your friend. Motives for actions can be from a variety of causes. My opinons are based on both the facts and assumptions. If my assumptions are wrong then you would have to discount my opnions.

Bottom Line:
If you really love the girl and think she's the most beautiful person you've ever met, then you should stick to your feelings regardless of what others say. This is probably an overused quote but "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" is definately true.

Most people don't know where their own relationship is headed much less a stranger. As to your question "Where is my relationship going?" I cannot answer that for you nor could anyone else unless they can see the future. The direction that relationship goes is completely in you and that girls actions. Therefore, we cannot predict where it would go.

"Do not tell me to get new friends, and do not tell me to break up with her."

Unfortunately, that might be a decision you will have to make. In life not everyone gets along with everyone. You cannot "make everyone happy," nor can you "be everyones friend." I had to learn that the hard way myself.

Side Note:
People ask questions because every situation is oftentimes unqiue and many factors should be considered before giving an answer. Therefore, people oftentimes ask questions to clearify what's going on. if you really wanted a serious answer you shouldn't mind answering questions since you're asking one yourself. But that's beside the point.

Good luck!
~Vig

Answer 2

It sounds like it is going good. If you think she is beautiful and like hanging out with her then it shouldn't matter that you don't see each other that much. Don't rush things, things that are rushed usually end up in disaster. Take your time and get to know her and only hang with the people that respect you and wouldn't talk bad about someone you are seeing, distance yourself from those people who say bad things about her and maybe they will realize that they have hurt you by saying those things. It's way too soon to say where the relationship is going, but as long as you and this girl are on the same page and keep honesty between you at all times then it will only get better.

Answer 3

I was in the same situation. My friends and family did not like the girl I used to date. But, they are not the ones dating her, you are. If she makes you happy then who cares what other people think. Have fun!

Answer 4

despite your friends, it sounds like your relationship doesnt have a problem. hang out with her when you can...weekends, etc. i used to date a guy in another town and although we worked together, we hung out when we could. you'll find a way. maybe meet halfway....good luck and good for you sticking up for your girl!

Answer 5

♥ what you should do is just ignore your friends if they have a problem with her that's their choice they. if you love her stick with her and don't let go of her until YOU want to. if you just ignore them you they will forget all about her and how much they don't like her. do what your hearts feels. and have fun!!! ♥

Answer 6

You want the truth. It's going down the drain. honest truth

Answer 7

well if you are inlove with a ugly woman, it must be real love. hang in there and to hell with your friends.

Answer 8

Down the drian.

Answer 9

HOW CUTE!!!!!!!! IT SHALL GO FAR MY DEAR WATSON! I AM SURE SHE IS A NICE PRETTY PERSON !!!!! WOO HOO!!!!!!! YEAH!!!! YEE HAW! YAT! <(^-^)> TELL HER YUKIKO SAYS HI!!! YOU BEAT YOUR FRIENDS UP FOR MAKING FUN OF HER?!?!? I WANNA HELP!! THAT SOUNDS FUN!!!!! JUSTICE SHALL PREVAIL! VIVA!