low self esstem?
2006-10-26 09:55:37 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
The best way to build self-esteem (in my own experience) is to start taking more responsibility for your own actions. From choosing to start each day with a smile, to who to hang/not hang out with or sleep/not sleep with; everything we do & everyone we interact with (& how) affects our self-esteem. Low self-esteem is a horrible mindset that we simply HAVE to forcibly drag ourselves out of as it makes us cope badly with the hand life deals. I have to warn you, it is NOT easy & sometimes I feel that every day is another battle. Convince yourself to face each day with a smile come what may in those following 24hrs, & you'll be a long way towards coping better which is the key to breaking that mindset. Taking a more pro-active outlook towards relationships helps immensely. Choose who to be around, don't wait to BE chosen. Good luck with life. :o)
2006-10-26 10:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by Mark K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cant learn to love yourself.you have no hope. you need to love yourself. because if you dont know one else will. In today soceity life is tought.Ive been like you with a very low esstem men have walked all over me. But no more im better than that. and if you keep telling yourself that life will get better for you belive in yourself thats the true story beleive in you. Good luck babe us women need all the luck in the world
2006-10-26 10:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by r.moore590@btinternet.com 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whats getting you down? Believe me, I been there for many years and finally I got out of this thinking. A couple of things I did was read some empowerment books, such as "Attitude is Everything" by Jeff Keller, which I strongly recommend, and acourse I look toward the Bible and read some of the beautiful proverbs. Also, even saying a prayer is powerful and you will begin feeling better in no time.
If you like to talk, you can email me and I'll help you out. Like I said earlier, it took me a long time to bring back my normal level of self esteem.
2006-10-26 10:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by Frank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember you are special. That there is someone out there for everyone. Once you find that person everything will be ok. If things didnt work out with one person its because they werent meant for you. If you cant love your self, then no one can love you. So stop looking at all your faults, and look at all the good things about you. There was a time I felt that the world was against me and I didnt love myself, I just tool it one day at a time and now i know im here for a reason and im not going to ever forget that, and neither should you!!!
2006-10-26 10:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take all of your efforts into mind. Let yourself go deep into your mind and look past any bad or mistakes you made because that's just apart of life. Understand that those sort of things- everyone goes through them so it's okay to fall down as long as you get back up! It's fine to love yourself, it's not vain at all. It's fine to have confidence- it in fact makes people more attractive. You are beautiful. You deserve to love yourself as much as anyone else will and does. "Look in the mirror and what do I see? A beautiful girl/boy staring back at me!"
2016-03-28 08:31:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHare your experiences. Everyone has fears about something, but most people don't express it in case people make a fool of them. Do not be afraid to talk about it. Everyone feels sad and worthless at some point in their life, but the trick is how to keep busy, talk and get things in your life you REALLY enjoy doing. I know that. I mean, I was told I have cancer, but so what? Its all about attitude. Another hurdle, another challenge in life. Talking to many people broadens your mind. You think you are the only person in the world right now. You would be surprised. Many people feel they have lost hope. I did, but whats the point in feeling sorry. Hope that helps. Best wishes. Hope the black spell is over soon!
2006-10-26 10:06:41 · answer #6 · answered by Lazarus 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to gather self esteem when you are so low, but get to your GP as soon as, and get medication to help you rebuild as it is very hard doing it on your own, surround yourself with loved ones and try to join in with them in there conversation rather than sitting back in the corner, -Medication does help but you also need to try and help yourself, find a new interest (which is hard I know) take the dog for a walk and get out even if it is for 30 Min's or so,.
2006-10-26 10:08:48 · answer #7 · answered by Ivan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky, other people have trouble seeing the worth in someone that can't see worth in themselves. It will be easy for most people to answer ''just believe in your self'' or some such platitude, but in truth its not that easy. I was there myself after a divorce, what helped me was to be more outgoing and spend time with some good friends..Good friends are those that don't judge or demand, they are just there for you.. It's a uphill struggle from low self esteem, the first step is to want to change things and to try new things to brake old cycles....All the best....xx...
2006-10-26 10:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by Stevie t 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is to get some interests. join a class at college. this gives you something to look forward to each week, and also fills you with a sense of fulfilment and pride.
have a good think about the things that you really like doing. write them down on a big list and week by week pick one thing to do.
hang out with friends and family. if you do not have very many then it is more reason to join a college class to meet people with similar interests.
be thankful for your health and try to make the best out of life and lifes situations.
i wish you all the very best
2006-10-26 10:00:17 · answer #9 · answered by gwendolynpearce 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a hobby, volunteer (helping others always boost your esteem), travel to other areas, workout (keep your body in shape), read the BIBLE and purchase nice things for yourself, be miss Personality, just look it the mirror and love you... also try something different with your hair dye it, cut it, curl it
Just love you thats all you have
Write in your journal everyday, when you over come this you will look back and read and be like o my I was like that=)))
2006-10-26 10:06:45 · answer #10 · answered by Fruitful1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋