I touched on this in another post question, but....my girlfriend and I have been dating 3 months. We see each other ALOT, talk 2-3 times per day, but I havent met her kids yet? Why is this, and how can I explain to her (again) that I want to meet them?
2006-10-26 09:43:29 · 15 answers · asked by Rob B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She has also said that only one guy before had met her kids...we get along AWESOME, physically active, things are very good between us.
2006-10-26 09:44:55 · update #1
She's afraid you'll leave her once you meet them. Don't mean to sound mean but it could be true. Maybe her kids are a handful. And she's worried that ince you see what you are getting yourself into, you'll high tail it! Or maybe she just doesn't want to make her kids feel confused and uncomfortable yet.
2006-10-26 09:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by His Dudeness 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're trying to move a little too fast.
It has only been 3 months, who knows if you two will make it to 5.
Meeting her children is as big a step as meeting her parents,
probably bigger.
For the kids sake she can't be introducing them to a new every few months.
Wait until you reach the 6-8 month range, where the relationships seems to be much more serious and long term.
2006-10-26 16:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by Johnathan S-C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well just simply come out an say i think i should get to know your kids better if we are going to get through this relationship. Maybe her kids had bad issues with their father's and dont want another one. Or, she had a boyfriend before and the kids didint like him. But the main reason may be they dont want to REPLACE their father. I hope this answer helps seeing that im just 13 years old. Well i hope your problem ends soon. I wish you the best of luck in this relationship, and hey maybe the kids will love you and you and your girlfriend will get married one day but i hope that whatever happens happens.
G0od Luck!
2006-10-26 16:48:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will be plenty of time to meet her children. She probably wants to be sure that you both are in a solid relationship before she brings the children into it. She is very wise to not bring her children into the mix. What if they became attached to you and you both broke up? It would be too hard on the children. Be patient and it will happen.
2006-10-26 16:46:19 · answer #4 · answered by judirose2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably wants to make sure your the one...For the sake of her kids she probably doesnt want to keep introducing different male figures to them...I think you should just be patient and once she feels its time she will introduce the kids to you...I would say dont act so anxious cause then she might question your reasons...If you feel she is the one then let her decide when the time is right...Good Luck
2006-10-26 16:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is being a responsible mother, she does not want to involve her children until she is sure there is a reason to. If it doesn't work out she does not want her children hurt when you leave. BE PATIENT. if you relax and she decides this relationship has potential to become serious or more permanent you will meet her kids.
by pressuring her to meet her kids you are in danger of losing her. SHE is the one you are dating-not HER KIDS.
2006-10-26 16:52:02 · answer #6 · answered by rwl_is_taken 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. her children are probably so out of control
2. your dating her not her bad azz children
3. If this is not a committed kind of relationship, then you don't have to meet her children.
4. People have to be awful careful now a day who them have around there most valuable asset.
2006-10-26 16:49:54 · answer #7 · answered by Ellen J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a single mother i did not let any man i was dating meet my kids unless the relationship made it to a least 6 months. i just did not want a bunch of men in and out of their lives. i did not think it was fair to them.
2006-10-26 16:48:48 · answer #8 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is unsure, because if she involves her kids and they get attached it might make her feel trapped. So I think before she lets you see them she wants to be sure your the "one" if you know what I mean. She don't want her kids getting attached then you leaving and them get hurt.
2006-10-26 16:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by Dreah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and ask her why you haven't met her children. Also tell her that you're interested in meeting them as well.
2006-10-26 16:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋