I had a great sister-brother relationship going but its ruined cause I wrote wrong about her in my dairy?

Question

i met her when i came to india to write my exams and after few months we became so close, she is not my real sister but I didnt had any sister and we became so close that we were like real bro n sis, but oneday i wrote everything bad about her in my dairy that she was just talking with me cause her mother said so and she thinks she is the valuved person around everyone and she got to know about it and I am very much ashmed but now right now I am missing her so much and dont know what to do, I love her so much as a sister and when I had a sisters love after 15 years, I destroyed it with my negetive thoughts, I want to aplogize to her but she is hurt and she wont be the same with me again and its my fault cause I didnt had a sister so I coudnt understand her, I tried to talk to her but she cuts off real harsh on me and I get upset as I have a ego problem too. I want her to relaize that I made a big mistake about her and I want her to become my sister again, its been 2 monts now, pls help

Answer 1

Write a letter or perhaps 30, in different words, and send them everyday of a month. The content has to say that you never meant it. It was just that you never had a sister and at that point of time, you were feeling depressed and rationalizing your loss of a sister by trying to prove yourself that it is not worth having a sister. Since, she was the only one that made you feel her like a brother, she became the victim of your fantasies. You were just trying to find reasons why you never wanted or had a sister and that all girls are selfish and not worth being sisters. You were also afraid of all the emotions that were new for you and you were afraid that losing a sister again will be something unbearable for you so you were just trying to make up reasons why you shouldn't have a sister, especially her, after all. You never meant to hurt her or insult her or even pass a comment on her. And that's why you only kept it to your diary because you thought that was you most private thing and no onw will be wiser of your fantasies. Only if she was not so hurt already, you would have fought her for reading your diary. But since you know that losing your only sister was not an option for you, you will postpone the 'fight' till you mend up. And to forget that you ever wrote anything. I think 30 or so letters saying such sweet things are more than enough to melt anyone's heart.

Answer 2

Your sister is hurt and angry, and that's why she refuses to listen to your explanations or apologies. But don't give up on her. Give her more time to cool down, and eventually she'll come around. You might try writing a letter to her, since it's sometimes easier to say what you want to say in writing. At least she can't interrupt or walk away. And even if she tears up the letter afterwards, her curiosity might get the better of her, and she might read it first since you aren't around, she won't have to give you the satisfaction of listening to you. Some people can be very stubborn. But if you had the wonderful relationship that you described at first, she probably misses it as much as you do, but doesn't want to admit it. Two wrongs don't make a right. She should be a big enough individual to at least listen to what you have to say and accept your apology. If she continues to refuse your waving of the white flag, there's not much else you can do unless and until she decides to grow up and let bygones be bygones. Good luck, my dear.

Answer 3

Hi there,

She is hurt just tell her sorry but in a different.

Does she like anything in particular as in she might have told you that she likes this or that. Or there is something that she wants than do that for her or give her that what she wants.

This is what you do = Buy her a small gift, Buy her flowers, Buy her a diary and date it and write the date on which you both fought and than imagine what she might have felt and pen it down for her. Than the day you are planning to give her all this date another page and leave it blank and ask her to fill it after you have apologised for your behaviour and telling how sorry you are and you never meant what you wrote.Tell her to accept you apologise and than leave the rest to her. If she can let go than she will be your friend and sis. But if she cant than just move one. You cant always have what you want.

Answer 4

You did her wrong and it is justified that she feels that way. You have betrayed her trust.. Understandably, it will take a long time before she could recover, and if you want her friendship/love back, you just have to keep trying and trying to show her through your actions how remorseful you are. Say you are sorry and is ready to prove to her that you di care for her. Patience can do wonders. So keep on ...

Answer 5

She is angry just try to meet up and talk to her, tell her that you are really sorry and that you want to be the same again, she too is your sis and she too might be missing you , it only that she is angry and i know she will understand dont loose hope.

Answer 6

She probably got scared off because she knows a dude who has a diary! Yeah uummm you might want to try NOT having a diary, or just hide it very well. GOOD LUCK with that!

Answer 7

TRY TO MEET HER PERSONALLY AND MAKE HER UNDERSTAND HOW GUILTY U R FEELING FOR DOING SO
IF SHE LOVES U THE WAY U DO SHE MAY UNDERSTAND AND B UR DEAR DEAR SIS ONCE AGAIN

Answer 8

If you repent for what you wrote about her, just express it through a letter to her and ask for her forgiveness.

Answer 9

Friendship means also respect, why she reads your dairy?? dairy is very private and personal... you need to tell her about respect...

Answer 10

Find another one. If she is self-respecting she won't reconcile to your wavering mind.