How is the life of a sailor's wife (navy)?

Question

Im From Puerto Rico and my boyfriend is in Chicago he wants me to move and married him but I really dont know if it worth it? oh what are the benefits of a family? (we dont have kids)

Answer 1

With all due respect, to any service person and/ or their families I live near the Norfolk Naval Base (Worlds Largest Naval Base) and laugh every time a ship goes to sea. All the Navy wives get on TV crying expressing horror at being left alone for six months, fearing their love one might be injured, mad because they do not know how they are going to make it for six months. I know our Navy went to sea in World War I and II and Korea for years! At that time, they might actually be killed in combat. My cousin served on a carrier off the coast of Viet Nam and complains to this day, what he went through. You know how rough it is have three hot meals a day, a clean warm bunk, ice cream, games, hot showers and a barbecue on the deck each night. I slept in a leech infested rice paddy, was shot twice and took my R & R at the base at South China Beach.. Since the conception of the all volunteer military cruise are a maximum of a year but usually six months.

My son just finished his first year in Iraqi and like my time in Nam, he had three hot showers period, but he did get a warm meal at least once a day. He slept on the floor and did not play video games off the ships system. Yes, it is a rough life, all right! What can you or any one say?

But to answer your question, dear if you have to ask us, you are not ready for marriage. You both would both be better off going your seperate ways.

God Bless You Both and the Southern People.

Answer 2

I'm a navy wife. so feel free to email me any other questions i have been a navy wife for 4 years. its lonely. you have a lot of nights where you are all alone. unless you are fortunate to be stationed on a ship that is doing an over haul this takes 4 years. which means the ship is undelpoyable. it wont be going out period. dont count on this. there are only a couple of ships in the yards right now.it takes a strong woman to do this. you move to a city where you know noone and where nothing is. but you adapt and meet people from his command . do this it will be vital during deployments simnce they are going through the same thing you are. as far as benifits the insurance is great and you can get housing. since you live in a different country you will need citzenship before he can get it. wont be too hard. just need to get married and get the green card from the immigration office. the navy has alot of thinga avaliable to the sailors and their families look up fleet and family services . there are even some things for deciding if you want to be a navy spouse look it up. good luck with your decision

Answer 3

Navy wife of 6 years here...a military wifes life isnt the easiest...alot of people think its great that you get to move all the time, get free housing and free medical...

but the stress of moving, the hubby being deployed most of the year is hard on a marriage...

we have a 4 year old and this last move we did, i could see that it was hard on him..before, he was so small that he didnt care what was going on...i am just worried about what will happen when school time comes up and we have to move in the middle of a school year...

a sailors pay is crap, you do get housing paid for and medical so it all kind of adds up nicely in the end...my son was a $23,000 baby, we didnt have to pay a dime of it..

if you can handle the stress, the moving and the fact that you may not see him between 6 to 10 months a year, then go for it..my husband and i have had some rough times, but we are adjusting better now and are sticking together through it all

Answer 4

well no doubt u get alot more benefit, military family get more benefit than any other organization i can think of, seriouslt what company would almost paid u extra sometime as far as almost 2x more for u and u wife to live off base? BAH, pirviliage for u wife to use base grocery store, alot of facilities, and benefit. numerous benefit but cost can be high such as waiting u husband like 6 months to come back from home and hope u husband ain't cheating at u. u need to be serious thinking whether u had serious relatioship with u bf before marry. it also could a bad reason under this, could be he wanted marry u so he can get the BAH alot more money and other world.. however he got way more disadvange than u, cause if u divorce him u would get like 1/2 of his pay..

Answer 5

I'm a navy wife and it is hard. my husband is based on a ship and is gone for months at a time. you never know when they'll be home, or if they'll be home. You feel like a single person, but you know your not. but I love my husband and will stand by him no matter what. If you really love your bf, you'd do the same. Give it some thought.

Answer 6

Navy life is HARD. I have been doing it for 13 years now as a spouse, and before that I was a Daughter of dual Navy.

there are way too many things to talk about that can be adequately addressed in a one way forum such as Yahoo answers. i suggest to you stop by the support forums on Mil.com and ask your questions there:

http://forums.military.com/eve/forums/a/cfrm/f/377197221

Answer 7

It all depends on his Rate and Rank. My wife doesnt mind it. Not everyone in the NAVY goes to sea. I have never been to sea and probably wont ever go. It is a good experience.

Answer 8

housing and insurance.

I think navy is gone quite a bit though - isn't he on his ship for 6 months every year?

Answer 9

you get to be lonely, or get a boyfriend while he's gone 6 months or more out of the year........