I going to make funeral arrangements.Not that I think I wont come back ..just ..so I can spare my wife the pain...How do I approach the issue?
2006-10-26 08:44:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
well are you active duty?my hubby is and before they left they had a family meeting where all the soldiers show up with their spouses and they hand out lots of paper work and go over such things as wills and arrangements..my husband s one friend put down on what kinda clothes to be burred in...he put a loin cloth!my hubby put down jeans and a shirt.but dont worry you will be OK!what ever you do do not freak out in front of your wife!!!!it would have scared me if mine did.we(wives) know your all freaked out and stuff..please just keep your eyes peeled and hoped this helped...gods speed..and thank you and your family!
2006-10-26 10:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your Base Legal Office and draft a Will. (This is recommended even if you weren't going to Iraq). Death/Funeral arrangements are never welcome topics, so no matter how you approach it, it will be received poorly. You may do well to talk with a counselor or chaplain before you talk with your wife. You may even consider taking her so that she can ask questions. Your best bet would be to contact Family Services before you leave, then GO WITH HER to visit them. This way, she won't think that she is weak. There is strength in support. It will also help her to deal with the worrying or anything else that comes up. Having the arrangements made and not needing them is infinitely better than the alternative.
I regularly pray for OUR military men and women.
2006-10-26 20:56:20 · answer #2 · answered by liberal democratic republican 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your too pessimistic but its a good idea to make your final wishes known.you have to tell your loved ones about your plans so just sit down take a deep breath and tell all what you have decided to do if your KIA.i would get as much life insurance as you can afford.i think the max amount in the military is 400,000 but if you get a private company to insure you dont say your being deployed soon to iraq.they wont insure you for a dime.there have been many who have been killed by hostile forces but friendly fire too. also a few have been in chopper crashes and vehicular accidents.i was in during vietnam and the craziest things do happen. i was injured severely and im now 100% disabled and i never will work again.however on the brighter side i would pray and get right with JESUS not because your going into a hot zone, but its better to have the LORD looking after you.. you can come home uninjured with JESUS on your side.i will pray for you my friend and i know HE will be looking out for you 24/7.your my hero as are the rest of the men and women who chose to be in harms way. anyway your family will shed a few tears when you tell them about your decision,but i know it is better this way so they will have a better understanding of what war is all about.keep your body low and your eyes on the horizon.you will be ok just have an optimistic view.my prayers go with you and GOD bless you.
2006-10-26 16:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go have a legal aide atty. draw up a Last Will and Testiment for you, a Right to Die instruction and a Power of Attorney. If someone on your base or post at the legal section will do this, all the better. Many people have these documents in place and they're not going off to Iraq. Be safe.
2006-10-26 15:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by beez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy an urn. Write a will stating you want a military funeral. Speak with the Chaplain about how best to make arrangements.
Keep the faith. Democrats are trying to bring you heroes home in one piece.
2006-10-26 15:49:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you need to think positive, thinking negatively is bad Karma.
Second, before you leave, the military helps you out with writing your will and getting your Power Of Attorney ready.
Third, you will be fine, keep your faith up for yourself and your wife.
2006-10-26 16:44:21 · answer #6 · answered by ShellBellzGee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you don't leave thinking you are going to die. Having other things on your mind while protecting your country could very well cause you to make a mistake and cost your life. Thank you for your protection and service and I'll pray for your safe return.
2006-10-26 15:53:28 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know you are preparing for the worst but do not let the thought of it control your life....i have alot of friends in the military who have gone overseas to Iraq...the majority of them have written letters to their family members and made it know that if something happens, anything in that letter, they want it to be carried out...
go to legal and draw up any documents regarding vehicles, life insurance policies and so on...you can never be too careful....
i wish you all the luck in the world and we will be welcoming you back when you serve your time there...stay safe.
2006-10-26 15:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by sherichance79 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe request to be buried (God forbids) near the White House, so every President, now and forever, remembers the sacrifices made by you for them...
God bless you for putting your life in danger for America....
We will pray for you and your family and for every American soldier until each and every one of you come back home safely.
2006-10-26 15:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by Affu Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll come back!!! You need a more positive attitude! Get one fast! It will help your family cope with you leaving. GOODLUCK! and Thank You!
2006-10-26 15:50:44 · answer #10 · answered by cannondalerick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋