There are so many girls that I know who will break out the term “stalker” anytime a guy expresses interest in her. It’s such a load of crap. It’s so blatantly false. If there were as many “stalkers” out there as people say there are – nobody would be doing anything because everyone would be too busy “stalking” everyone else. I think it’s also incredible how the “stalker” always ends up being some guy who, most likely, is unattractive in one way or another to the “victim.” Hot men, for some reason, never seem to be “stalking” anyone – even when they engage in stalker-ish behavior. What’s up with this? I’m not saying that people can’t really be stalked…but since when was the term reduced to guys who make a phone call or go out of their way to say “hello” to someone they are interested in? Part of me thinks that people actually enjoy being able to say they “have a stalker” to some extent, since it means that someone out there thinks they are something special. What is the deal?
2006-10-26 08:43:13 · 17 answers · asked by The Rainmaker 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You just answered yourself. They like to think that someone wants them so bad they are willing to stalk them.
Also, during a divorce they use to fight over the children. Divide up the time and come to a mutual agreement. If the guy has an affair and the marriage breaks up there is a lot of hostility but she supressed it. For the kids.
Now days no way. Immediately he raped the children. He is a pedofile and a child abuser and even get the kids and you know they are lieing to say that daddy raped me. all of a sudden most men have started using children for sex? I don't think so.
But they end up in Jail with 20 year sentences. If I was a man I would get fixed and never have anything to do with a women.
I feel so sorry for these guys. They are heart broke and don't know what's going on until they end up in prison.
Even when the children grow up and say daddy didn't do it, they can't get out of jail and they are branded as a pedofile for life. If they do get out. How do you get a job that way?
This is not just sometimes but common now. Why? because it works. The man is immediately out of the home. Works on men who abuse their wives. They get the kids to say daddy rape me.
that man is gone.
2006-10-26 08:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I did have a very attractive man I termed as "stalker", however he did go to jail for AGGRAVATED menacing (charges I pressed), so I guess he deserved it. I also had a man that wouldn't quit calling my work that i deemed "stalker", but then he rented a hotel room right near my apartment for four days just to see what I was doing, so I guess he deserved it. I also had a man who was sending me love notes often and I didn't know who he was that I termed "stalker", but then I found out he worked at my bank and was getting into my personal info to reach me, so I guess he deserved it too.
My point is, some guys are stalkers. But some girls are drama queens. They do like to think they have a 'stalker' because it makes them feel good about themselves. Next time someone calls you a 'stalker' and you're not stalking, maybe you should tell her exactly what a stalker is, describe some stalker like behavior, and ask her if it would make her feel extra special if you actually did stalk her.
2006-10-26 15:51:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think the term "stalking" is often used to express a situation where a guy persists in expressing a romantic/sexual interest to a woman who has given him no encouragement and/or has expressed a lack of interest. In other words, he's hitting on her when it's obvious she's not interested.
Certainly, the term gets overused. But the "stalker" is usually a nice but pathetic guy who needs to wake up and realize that she's not into him, and he ought to back off. It's not grounds for legal action... but guys, seriously, just because you're a nice guy and like her doesn't mean she HAS to like you back! It's that *expectation* that generates the stalker feel.
2006-10-26 16:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your point makes sense... Like ya, it isn't fair to those guys that aren't the best looking... but! Some people say that hot guys are stalking them too... It's not always like that... Maybe you live in some freak world... But usually when people say *I'm being stalked* it's serious and the person needs help to get out of this situation. You point out that people enjoy saying *I have a stalker* those people are nuts or on crack or something, because being stalked to lead to some pretty serious things... Like getting raped or kidnapped.
2006-10-26 15:52:04 · answer #4 · answered by Me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I don't think everyone is a stalker, I've had three very bad experiences with them, and I DO feel I have to be on guard. There are a lot of really nice people on the 'net, but there are, also, more than the fair share of screamin' maniacs who have nothing better to do than make someone else's life miserable.
2006-10-26 15:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by dingobluefoot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They hear other birds saying that they have a "stalker", thus they feel inadequate because they feel they are not "special" enough to have a stalker....and so they make it up or exaggerate someone's interest in them....and so it goes on.
It's sad, but I know loads of girls that say they have a "stalker"
2006-10-26 17:07:07 · answer #6 · answered by villafan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its because a girl has been hurt before so much and the guy just uses them for sex...so the next time they come in a relationship they want to make sure that they don't have to go through what they went through in the past....they are all paranoid and stuff its just crazy....so thats why I think they do it....
2006-10-26 16:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by vickyg_892008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, not all women do that. We like it when a guy shows intrest in us, just like you said; it's fun. "Stalking" however, is entirely a different matter. I had this guy who was OBSESSIVELY intrested in in me. He asked my friends all this stuff about me, tried to follow me home, and called 3 or 4 times a day to leave long messages. I think that as long as the guy isn't obsessed like that, than he "Likes" you. The girls who think guys are "stalking" them are obviously very immature.
2006-10-26 17:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by Shannon C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes some people like the idea that they have a stalker that makes them feel loved
2006-10-26 15:46:59 · answer #9 · answered by Ruth F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because some people are insecure and need attention for their otherwise vapid lives. I totally agree with you.
2006-10-26 15:51:44 · answer #10 · answered by Matt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋