Just curious .... my friend is having this problem, and I have no idea how to help her or to give her any advices because I'm not so much an expert at this. So, here goes ....
You've gone to several dates with the guy, then you slept with him. He stayed overnight, gave you passionate kiss before he left, told you that he'd call you again, hugs etc. Seems everythings is perfect. So, he called that night to thank you and tell you how much fun he had with you. So, then several days gone by ... (mmm ... like 4 days w/out him calling you). What does it mean? My friend wants to call him, but I told her no! ... Did I tell her the right thing? ... Any advices? She's feeling used now, any advices for her?
2006-10-26 08:41:35 · 20 answers · asked by Nicegal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, usually three days is the cardinal rule. If he took her out on several dates, and is just now getting some, most guys wouldn't waste their time after the first date of not getting any. It doesn't sound like he played her but at the same time it kind of does since it's taken so long for him to call. She should go ahead and call if she wants to. it's been long enough, and he slept with her, so she has a right to know what is up. Especially if it sounds like everything went good. Just call once though, and if he doesnt answer, then don't call back. Let him return her call.
2006-10-26 08:46:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a good friend. All you can do is to listen and provide distractions. Make some plans with her to go out and have fun. Many girls have fallen into this same trap. It sounds like the guy probably called to 'fulfill his obligation' (you know, the thanks and I had fun thing) but he's not planning to pursue anything further. Just as well....it's not like this would probably be a nuturing, considerate, or caring guy anyway. He's making it a point to not get attached. She should walk away...with her dignity intact...and not fall for any of his b.s. in the future. I'll bet she's a good person and deserves better. There's no shame in making a mistake...but she needs to realize it.
2006-10-26 08:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the relationship, the passionate kiss is a good sign that he likes her. and i bet that he just doesnt call because he is scared that she thinks he will be too attached. so I would tell her to call him and set an exact date and time to go out again. If he is available he is willing because he knows he will get sex. If he give you a different day or delcines then your friend is just a backup. but she should call whenever.
2006-10-26 08:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by TONY 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very simple: give him this benefit of the doubt this once and assume he's been busy. Call him ONCE. If he doenst answer and/or doesnt call back. He's done. The end-all answer to these kinds of questions is (and this goes for everyone out there): If he wanted to call, he would. Simple as that, if he's not calling, he's just not that into you. Good luck.
2006-10-26 08:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by Chris M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Welll she is currently booty-call. If she wants to "move" up then she needs to let him know the next time he calls that she wants to be more than just a good lay.
However.. if he isn't calling after the firt time they had sex? he was just being nice and he didn't enjoy it very much - or found someone else to bang for a while.
Either way.. she shouldn't call him more than just once. Calling more than once just screams of desperation.
2006-10-26 08:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her to call him whenever she feels like and that is the number of days one should wait before calling.
2006-10-26 08:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by Mathew C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why can't she call him? I imagine he's the one asking her out on everyone of their dates, he's the one always calling her and taking all the initiative. tell your friend to make an effort and pick up the phone
2006-10-26 08:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by David 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She just got used for sex and that is it. You told her the right thing.
2006-10-26 08:47:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her not to call him at all - let it go - if he comes back around -he cares - if not he doesnt ,so whats the use... when men like you - they call....never be a chaser...guys hate that...maybe he's just taking his time - 4 days really isnt that long
2006-10-26 08:46:44 · answer #9 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The challenge is over. He got into your friends panties, took what he wanted and left. Tell her to move one..because he already did.
2006-10-26 08:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋