My bf have been avoiding me for about 6weeks. If i dont call him he does not call me. I found out that he has gone back to his ex who i think had cheated on him. I found out about them because i read his email that he sent to her.
If u were in this situatuion how would u confront him with it and what would u say - I dont want him to kno that i read his email. Tell me would u talk to him about the situation or just ignore/forget about him and say nothing about the situation
2006-10-26 08:31:48 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you're better off not saying anything to him. You have a lot to lose and not much to gain by a confrontation. I think your pride and your self-esteem has more to gain by just walking away.
I *would* however, arrange it so that he sees you laughing and having a ball with a cute male friend in the near future.
Best wishes - sorry for the broken heart. Do something fun with a girlfriend and I would also suggest Ben N Jerry's Phish Food flavor ice cream goes a long way to making a person feel better.
2006-10-26 08:34:54 · answer #1 · answered by Black Parade Billie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends: are you satisfied with things as they stand? i.e., if you -don't- say anything, will you be okay with that? I'm guessing the answer is no - if you were okay with letting things "fizzle out" you probably wouldn't be asking for advice, would you?
Seems to me like you need - and deserve(!) - closure. Even if he hadn't gone back to his ex, if you guys had been seriously dating then IMO it was wrong for him to just "abandon" you. Maybe having a talk with him where you just tell him that for whatever reason - be it that he's seeing someone new, just been 'busy,' or whatnot - it's obvious that you two just aren't "together" any more so it'd be best if you officially "broke up." Maybe doing something like that would a) make it clear to him that he shouldn't expect to treat you like that and still have you to "fall back on" if/when he needs to, and b) (more importantly!) give YOU the closure you need to put this relationship behind you so you can move on.
Good luck =)
2006-10-26 08:55:05 · answer #2 · answered by Stacyj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key to a good relationship. Tell him what you know and tell him what you think might be going on. Ask him bluntly or not, it depends on the person. I don't think that it was right that you read his emails because that's invasion of privacy but I understand how you're worried. Get things straightened out but if you do find out something, dump him. I had a guy like that...he stopped talking to me and avoided me for awhile. I guess it all depends on the person. Hope I could help...
2006-10-26 08:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just put some distance between you two. Tell him that you are not wanting to get into a relationship right now. Tell him he needs to find someone his own age, that you want to date guys that are the same age as you. Then wish him the best, and break off all communications with him. Do NOT let him be "friends" with you, that never works and in this case, he sounds like he could be very clingy or possessive. So don't accept any calls, or text messages or anything. IF he bothers you, you need to let your Grandma and/or the authorities know.
2016-05-21 22:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if it were me, I would say something about the email. Yes, its wrong to invade others privacy, I know. But thats just me. After I told him I read it, I would dismiss his ***! Or, you can just skip the whole email thing and just leave. You don't need him! Plus, if he was treating you wrong while he was seeing her, then he made you look like the fool. Hell to the naw, Girl! You will be alright with out him, trust! Ooh, I would dump him, then send him an email telling him about the one you read. Don't be afraid to have an attitude, either. You were done wrong, and had you not snooped, you would still be in the dark. He was wrong, and you deserve better!
2006-10-26 08:40:07 · answer #5 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he's treated you really badly so personally im not sure i would be able to forgive him because by the sounds of it hes basically just cheated on you with his ex. If you do feel that you can forgive and forget though i would confront him and ask him why hes been so distant with the hope that he might bring her up. If he doesnt want to know or deny's that theres anything wrong then just move on, he's not worth it.
2006-10-26 08:39:33 · answer #6 · answered by make_a_wish995 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not worth it, he is a loser if he can not even tell you that he is back with her. Go on with your life, do not call him. Let him call you, and when he does tell him you are busy. It will hurt for a while but over time it will get better. This is not the guy gor you. If he is doing this now and then tries to get together with you again. He will cheat again. You are better then that and you do not need that. Good Luck
2006-10-26 08:36:03 · answer #7 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him about it. Just say you heard about it from other people talking. Say you dont call me I have to call you, what is going on. If it is true that you went back to your ex thats fine just be man enough to say so , so I can move on myself. If you ignore the problem you could be headed for an even bigger hurt, so I would do it very soon. lol
2006-10-26 08:39:53 · answer #8 · answered by richard b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry sweetie, I went through the same thing... I know how it hurts. There's nothing you can do if he's decided to be with her. Tell yourself that you don't want him anyway and find a hobby. Give yourself time to heal! Be bigger than him, there's no need to confront him (as much as I know you want to!) because it won't get him back! Just move on!
GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-26 08:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by michs96 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living well is the best revenge. Ignore him, and go on to have a fun, interesting, exciting life. He's gone back to some loser chick, so they deserve each other. You, on the other hand, deserve better. Become too busy to think about him, and word will get back to him about how great your life is.
2006-10-26 08:35:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋