My partner & I would love to celebrate our marraige by doing a worthy cause - ie, ask guests not to bring gifts, but if they wish to, support us with a donation towards charities we support. We are getting married in Sri Lanka where most of the guests are from - we need to word this suggestion correctly (so it doesn't look like we are demanding money!!)and send this out with the invites. Thanks for your time !
2006-10-26 08:27:02 · 48 answers · asked by fudge 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your precence not your preasants,
We request from you,
Please come and celebrate,
Share our special day.
For anyone who wishes to give,
Funds are gratefully recieved,
All will be given to charities,
To help those in need.
2006-10-28 10:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by sianmog 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would pick a charity and ask for them to donate the money to the charity themselves.
My girlfriend did that for her daughter's birthday party, they just moved to an new area and she invited everyone in the neighbor and she didn't want to look like a gift grapper. So she put on the invites to please give to this charity or bring a "gift" for the charity.
She did a charity for unwed mothers so people gave her lots of stuff to donate and money.
2006-10-26 08:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain what u are doing and why. say in the invitation that as for wedding presents we do not feal the need to be selfish and recieve presents to start a new home what we wish to do in honor of are comming together is help others. we have decided that if anyone wishes to give us a gift that we would like donations made to such and such charities. All the money we recieve will be given to these charities thank u. thats how i would do it.
2006-10-26 08:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by practicully_famouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In lieu of gifts, donations may be made to:
Worthy Charitable Organization
1234 Street
City, State/Province/Country
You can included this kind of language on any shower invitations, but you do not actually say this in the wedding invitation. Just make sure you tell your immediate families and close friends - that way, when someone asks your mom what to get you she can say, they really would like for folks to donate to the food pantry in their honor.
Happy wedding!
2006-10-26 08:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's usually considered VERY tacky and a big no-no to mention gifts in any way, shape, or form in your invitations. Word of mouth is the best way, followed by a note on your blogs, wedding website, or whatever.
If you insist on including this information in your invitations, I would word it like this: "The couple has requested that instead of gifts, donations be made to The American Red Cross." (or whatever charity.
(btw, this is all by American standards. I don't know what the etiquette in Sri Lanka would have to say about it)
2006-10-26 09:03:17 · answer #5 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What most couples usually do is, instead of giving out favors, place a card at each setting that says something like: Thank you for sharing our special day with us. In lieu of favors, we have decided to donate money to the following charities (and list them). Then put Mr and Mrs (Last Name) and then your wedding date. It is not proper at all to put anything about money on the invites...however, you can put something on the invite, not the RSVP card, close to the bottom, that say you and your fiance only request to joy of your presence, not a gift. If people still choose to give you money, then just donate it...
2006-10-26 08:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Although you are well-intentioned, it is actually bad manners to direct people to give money to charity in lieu of wedding gifts. You can either throw a charity ball OR a wedding. You can't combine them.
If they decide on their own to gift you with money, then after you receive it you can do with the money as you wish, including give it to charity. (Let them know you the thank you notes what you did with the money and why that makes you happy.)
But making a charity directive, in advance like that, is really not acceptable, and bad etiquette.
2006-10-29 00:16:08 · answer #7 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have a gift list as normal then auction all the gifts off on ebay then donate the money to charity yourself. That way you don't have to be embarrassed asking for money. lol
2006-10-28 08:23:43 · answer #8 · answered by cg1209 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel
Me and my partner had lived together for nearly 4 years by the time we got married and had already got all the "traditional wedding gifts" that people buy, our message simply said:
As many of you know * and % have lived together for many years and have collected many of the possessions they would need for their lives together and have asked for a monetary contribution towards their further life together.
We did also add that High street gift vouchers would also be welcome but from what I remember we had mostly money which went towards our honeymoon which we went on a few months later. It was amazing how many people said it was nice to be told directly instead of having a huge wedding gift list to look though.
Good luck, hope this helps
2006-10-27 03:35:15 · answer #9 · answered by colletteukuk 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just word it as a direction rather than an instruction, something along the lines of " If you are thinking of bringing a gift, Dave and I would like nothing more than a donation to one of these charitable causes. We have each other, what more could we want? So please spread the love"
2006-10-26 08:33:30 · answer #10 · answered by clusp 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Although we realize it is not necessary to bring any form of a gift for our wedding (and we do not promote this), we ask that if you wish to give a gift that it be in the form of a charitable donation to (charities). Your love and support is much appreciated and your attendance at our wedding is our gift!
2006-10-26 08:58:16 · answer #11 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋