i've never been good with flirting, in fact, i'm so horrible at it, i can't say i've EVER flirted with a stranger or even someone familiar unless i've like, known them for a year or more and feel really comfortable with him...i furthermore don't think i need make up to validate my worth as a person (i'm quite intelligent, but i've yet to see a guy who desires a woman for her brains...? justin timberlake mocks the concept in one of his songs... erm, just wondering, cause i'm at the brink of divorce (from a guy who ought to not be with someone with a brain...) but i'm gonna have to start all this again i guess...groan? what would u do?
2006-10-26 08:12:11 · 15 answers · asked by Wisdom 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well. there's nothing "wrong" with wearing makeup if it helps you feel Better about yourself.. it's not validating your self worth, but it can help you Feel more Confident that you LOOK better (u have to admit, some people are blessed naturally more than others). so let's say you emphasize your eyes, lipcolor, blush... and suddenly u look more "polished".... i don't see any problem with that vs. "rebelling" against makeup just because it's makeup.
now, if u are using makeup as a Crutch (ie, u can't meet men or talk to friends or feel like a Woman without it), that can be harmful to your confidence in general, and to your validation of yourself as a Whole. but if u are a smart woman, and want to make your hair look Pretty, and you put on some mascara to lengthen ur lashes, so be it!!!
as for flirting, it's all about Confidence. whatever helps u feel confident... whether it be different clothes, makeup, or just "Dressing Up"..... anything!!! or speaking ur mind at a poetry reading, etc.. anything that helps you feel Comfortable and Confident.
for myself, i do feel the need to wear makeup and do my hair, but that is because naturally my hair is curly, frizzy, and my skin is pimply. and i do feel Ugly when i go to work (i don't wear makeup to work and wear glasses)...but it doesn't mean i think i'm not as good as other people. i just know i can make myself "look better". anyways, once u realize how beautiful u Can look, it won't matter as much when u do it. good luck!
2006-10-26 08:20:10 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Flirting can be a very discreet thing hun - you dont have to go all out! Just catching a guys eye across the room - a small smile - gentle touch of an arm - you dont have to be embarrassed by it and Im sure you're not as bad as you think!
WIth regards make up - thats an individual choice - a lot of men prefer women without make up - and if you feel better without it then so be it!
Its prob just unknown territory to you right now after being married - but im sure it'll all come back to you in no time! xx
2006-10-26 21:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going on different nights - you'd be amazed the difference going on a weeknight makes in some clubs. Many places are impossible to meet people in on weekends cos they are full of cliques, and you have to have connections, but on weeknights the crowd is totally different and generally more sociable. Look for guys in groups of 2, or 3 at the most, and ensure there is an equal number in your party and theirs (unless its a crowd, which I wouldnt recommend) then dance the night away and do dirty dancing etc, SO FUN! :)
2016-05-21 22:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why Wisdom, whatever do you mean? Simple eye contact is the best way to flirt with another and it is the easiest. Another way of flirting is to just look into the eyes of "the one", smile and say Hi!
As for the make up, I prefer ladies that are Au natural. A woman looks so much better when you can see "HER". Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, not the holder.
2006-10-26 09:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by walkerwalks 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Carry on being yourself. You dont need to be able to flirt or wear make up to get a guy. Infact why would you even want a guy right now? Enjoy the single life for a while.
2006-10-26 08:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know it's amazing how the superior intelligence of man can be swayed by the emotions of a simple heart. Forget about your flirting let your intelligence get together with your feelings and when those two get along with another persons, then let your heart in.
2006-10-26 10:09:56 · answer #6 · answered by bootjack 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you think that you might not be flirting but other people might take the way that you are acting that you are flirting with that person.
No not all people need make up to make them selves "look beautiful" all i wear is mascara, eye shadow, lip gloss and eye liner because thats all that i am comfortable in every single person is different to the other.
2006-10-26 22:12:02 · answer #7 · answered by charlie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep it natural...u should really just be urself...a guy that cant accept that aint worth it...fa realz...on the flirting and make up thing it should just be natural and flirting should really flow with conversation...um...one thing i will say again is that if he cant accept u for u it aint worth it....he should accept all of u and u shouldnt be stressin over it u kno? but talk to him, show ur interest in him when ur having a conversation, laugh at his jokes, or what not....touching is good flirting thing...again, natural and casual...if u try to hard it shows....but make up, start off with colors that work in with ur skin tone and then slowly branch out into different colors...but keep in mind if he cant accept u and ur attempts to please him, then u might wanna try more straight forward talking....good luck though ma...
2006-10-26 08:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are stunningly beautiful and don't need make-up at all, if that's you on the 360 page: its obvious your soon-to-be-ex married you for your looks. The money other girls might spend on make-up, you could well spend on your lovely hair. ...and a bit on your all-time favourite perfume.
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Flirting is easy -once you are comfortable with your own sensuality. Focus on being your own woman, mistress of your own affairs, and the boys will come flying for you. At which point if you are really stuck for words you consult your diary and say 'I might just squeeze you in.'
2006-10-26 08:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by Tertia 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men are simple.... if you like a man, hold his gaze for half a second longer than is comfortable then look down to your feet and glance up again with you're eyes.... if he's interested by the time you glance up, he'll have looked back.... after that let nature takes its course. the key is eye contact, it releases endorphins 'the happy drug'.
2006-10-26 08:17:17 · answer #10 · answered by aziz m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋